09/12/2013
You Can’t Compete…With Me!
There is really no competition in any way or any facet of my life. I am my own unique being with very distinct traits, character, values, beliefs, purpose, looks, shape, and so on. Each and every one of us is an exclusive version of ourselves and we cannot compete with another as there are no duplicates! I’m saddened as I watch some young women near and dear to me that feel threatened by each other. They would not say they were but their actions speak volumes and clearly shows an immaturity and uncertainty that is within them. Rather than love one another and embrace each other’s unique exquisiteness there always seem to lay a threat. The reality is they are both gorgeous, brilliant, dynamic, completely awesome creatures in their own right. They compete, yet there is no competition….just self-created, unnecessary, underlying battles that stem from internal insecurities.
I’m puzzled why we as women, so often choose to turn against one another instead of towards each other. We choose hurt as our shield instead of love as our sword. Somehow we as mothers, fathers, teachers, sisters, mentors, friends, and beyond must help our young women (& men) to love themselves. So deeply and completely that they never have to feel inferior. They can cherish themselves from the inside out and the outside in while also being able to admire those around them without threat.
Once I learned who I was, I was much more capable of accepting my strengths, my weaknesses, my assets, and my faults. Not only could I see my own value and have heart for myself, but it became so much easier to see all the good in others and have nothing but love and support for them. Other women were not my enemy & never were; I had been the enemy. Before I loved myself I fed my fears, my insecurities, and beyond…all of which allowed me to compete with others instead of relish and cherish each of us for our individual talents and abilities. My personal insecurities made me feel inferior, when I never was. Overcoming my self-confidence problems has blessed me with the opportunity to see other women as beautiful creatures that wanted to be and could be my friends and my supporters. Others are not my competition, they are my confidants!
We each deserve to know our own self-worth and know that we are a genuine, unique being. When you recognize you are one of a kind or one in a million, you can feel assured in yourself. Once comfortable and happy within your own skin it is so easy to value everyone for their individuality. We don’t need to want what we don’t got, we need to love all we have. We are all enough and accepting that will help you find a deeper happiness. You are your awesome self and I am mine. Once we accept this you will realize…you can’t (& won’t want to) compete, with me!
