New Hope for Women

12/15/2024

For many the holidays are a time for celebration and love but for others, domestic violence cases actually show an uptick during the Christmas season. 💜

The rise can be contributed to certain stresses that come about during a festive time of the year.Such as financial stress and an increase in alcohol consumption.💜

Operating around the clock, seven days a week, confidential and free of cost, the National Domestic Violence Hotline provides lifesaving tools and immediate support to enable victims to find safety and live lives free of abuse

National Domestic Violence Hotline
800-799-7233
Or
Text START to 88788

💜Local Services💜

Turning Point - The Salvation Army's Domestic Violence Shelter 540-345-0400

T.A.P. Domestic Violence Services - 540-283-4813 / 24 Hour Hotline: 540-580-0775

T.A.P. Sabrina's Place - Supervised Visitation 540-777-3799

Family Services of Roanoke Valley - Domestic Violence Program 540- 563-5316

D.A.D. (Domestic Abuse Disruption) – Assist with removal and relocation and court escorts. 540-556-7059 DAD Helps

Angels of Assisi – Offers boarding for victims of domestic violence. 540-344-8707 Angels of Assisi

North Roanoke Veterinary Hospital – Offers boarding and medical care for the pets of victims of domestic violence. 540-563-8041 North Roanoke Vet Hospital

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08/15/2024

“If you are in a crisis or any other person may be in danger the following resources can provide you with immediate help.”

Save it, send it to a friend or family member. 💜

BetterHelp offers affordable, convenient online therapy when you need it from licensed, professional therapists. Get help, you deserve to be happy!

08/10/2022

A love letter to anyone who has been hurt by someone…

Hurt people hurt people.

Their words and actions wound
And cut deep to the core

They cause you to question who you are
They cast a shadow of fear and doubt within your heart
They give rise to an ocean of underlying emotions
And they give birth to a sea of insecurities within you
If you allow them to

But you may learn to appreciate
That hurt people hurt people
Because they are in need of healing
And are projecting their hurt, pain and insecurities onto you

And you may choose
Not to grant them any permission
To disturb your joy
Disrupt your wellbeing
Or distract you from your growth

You may refuse to allow their words
To be a reflection of your worth

And allow your healing
To be greater than their unresolved pain and trauma

Allow your compassion
To be greater than their cruelty

Allow your self-love
To be greater than their hate

Allow your confidence
To be greater than their insecurities

And understand
That their words hold no power over you
When you appreciate
That they are a reflection of them
Not you

And while hurt people hurt people
They don’t have to hurt you
If you refuse to allow them to.

Words by Tahlia Hunter

Artwork by the very talented Loui Jover. More of his artwork may be found at this link: https://www.facebook.com/lojoverart

06/23/2022

Sometimes we love
And our hearts are broken

We dream
And our hopes are shattered

We wish
And our desires are unfulfilled

We give freely
And are left empty-handed

And we care for others
And aren’t loved in return
And those who we once most admired and valued
Do not reciprocate our affection.

Sometimes we undergo a process of loss and heartbreak
And are left feeling broken
And lacking hope
As we fail to realise
That we are not destined to remain stuck in this cycle indefinitely
And that in life
What lets go of you
Leads you home

What rejects you
Empowers you to embrace yourself fully
And that someone’s lack of love for you
Is ultimately a reflection of them rather than you.

And we feel most hurt
Not when we are rejected
But when we reject ourselves
We feel most sad
Not when others upset us

But when we seek happiness in sources that are unable to provide it and are left feeling let down
And we feel most alone
When we are strangers to ourselves

And so in order to find peace in our surroundings
We must first find peace within
In order to find joy outside of us
We must first experience joy internally
In order to feel fully accepted

We must first learn to fully accept ourselves
And that
Not every race is worth running
Not every battle is worth fighting

Not every adventure is worth embarking upon
And not every relationship is worth pursuing
And rejection is simply redirection

Allowing us to become more in touch with ourselves
And more awakened to our own self-acceptance and self-love.

Author : Tahlia Hunter

Artwork : Duong Quoc Dinh

07/02/2021

“Suffering in an abusive relationship is the opposite of freedom and independence. Survivors who face violent and controlling partners simply cannot fully participate in our democratic system and pursue happiness.” 💜

Freedom, safety, and equal rights go hand-in-hand. Join NNEDV today to help create a safer future for all Americans. Happy Independence Day!

05/12/2021

New Hope for Women will be volunteering at this years Ironman Competition. Check out the remaining volunteer opportunities.

VolunteerLocal has been empowering athletic competitions, community festivals, and non-profit events to success since 2003. We provide a self-service website to help volunteer coordinators do their job more effectively.

05/05/2021

The inability to receive support from others
is a trauma response.

Your “I don’t need anyone, I’ll just do it all myself” conditioning is a survival tactic. And you needed it to shield your heart from abuse, neglect, betrayal, and disappointment from those who could not or would not be there for you.

From the parent who was absent and abandoned you by choice or the parent who was never home from working three jobs to feed and house you.

From the lovers who offered sexual intimacy but never offered a safe haven that honored your heart.

From the friendships and family who ALWAYS took more than they ever gave.

From all the situations when someone told you “we’re in this together” or “I got you” then abandoned you, leaving you to pick up the pieces when s**t got real, leaving you to handle your part and their part, too.

From all the lies and all the betrayals.

You learned along the way that you just couldn’t really trust people. Or that you could trust people, but only up to a certain point.

Extreme-independence IS. A. TRUST. ISSUE.

You learnt: if I don’t put myself in a situation where I rely on someone, I won’t have to be disappointed when they don’t show up for me, or when they drop the ball... because they will ALWAYS drop the ball EVENTUALLY right?

You may even have been intentionally taught this protection strategy by generations of hurt ancestors who came before you.

Extreme-independence is a preemptive strike against heartbreak.

So, you don’t trust anyone.

And you don’t trust yourself, either, to choose people.

To trust is to hope, to trust is to be vulnerable.

“Never again,” you vow.

But no matter how you dress it up and display it proudly to make it seem like this level of independence is what you always wanted to be, in truth it’s your wounded, scarred, broken heart behind a protective brick wall.

Impenetrable. Nothing gets in. No hurt gets in. But no love gets in either.

Fortresses and armor are for those in battle, or who believe the battle is coming.

It’s a trauma response.

The good news is trauma that is acknowledged is trauma that can be healed.

You are worthy of having support.
You are worthy of having true partnership.
You are worthy of love.
You are worthy of having your heart held.
You are worthy to be adored.
You are worthy to be cherished.
You are worthy to have someone say, “You rest. I got this.” And actually deliver on that promise.
You are worthy to receive.
You are worthy to receive.
You are worthy.

You don’t have to earn it.
You don’t have to prove it.
You don’t have to bargain for it.
You don’t have to beg for it.

You are worthy.
WORTHY.
Simply because you exist.

04/13/2021

During a period when everyone is struggling to adjust to the rapid changes due to COVID-19, it’s critical that we learn more about intimate partner violence, its red flags, and how to support survivors.💜 # #

Perspective from The New England Journal of Medicine — A Pandemic within a Pandemic — Intimate Partner Violence during Covid-19

03/30/2021

💜Self-love💜 is not simply a state of feeling good. It is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love is dynamic; it grows through actions that mature us. When we act in ways that expand self-love in us, we begin to accept much better our weaknesses as well as our strengths, have less need to explain away our short-comings, have compassion for ourselves as human beings struggling to find personal meaning, are more centered in our life purpose and values. Love yourself today, YOU are worth it!