10/08/2026
Imagine your father, who is living with dementia, begins talking about his mom and dad as though they are still alive.
You know they passed away many years ago.
Do you correct him? Or do you step into his world?
For someone living with dementia, memories from decades ago can feel just as real as the present moment. Their childhood home, their parents, their younger years — those memories may be where they feel most comfortable and secure.
❤️ Instead of correcting them, try connecting with them.
When Dad asks about his mother, instead of reminding him that she passed away, try asking:
💬 “Tell me about your mom. What was she like?”
💬 “What was your favorite thing to do with your dad?”
💬 “What was it like growing up in your hometown?”
You might hear the same story five times. You might answer the same question ten times.
But remember, while the story may be repeated for you, the moment can feel brand new to them.
Constantly reminding someone with advanced dementia that a loved one has died can cause them to experience that grief all over again.
Not every moment needs a correction. Sometimes, reassurance, redirection, and simply listening are the most compassionate responses.
This doesn’t mean ignoring their needs or misleading them unnecessarily. It means recognizing that emotional comfort and connection can be more important than getting every detail right.
💜 At Dakota Guardianship, we believe dignity doesn’t disappear with a dementia diagnosis.
We advocate for vulnerable adults, including those living with dementia, because every person deserves patience, compassion, understanding, and a voice — even when their world looks different from ours.
The next time someone with dementia takes you back to a memory from 50 years ago, consider going along for the conversation.
You might learn something beautiful about their life.
They may not always remember what you said, but the comfort and kindness you provide can still make a difference.
💜 Meet them where they are. Love them through every moment.