Grief and Loss Support Group

12/21/2025

Good morning my friends, I’ve been sitting here this morning scrolling TikTok mindlessly.. looking up at my tree filled with presents for all the grandbabies and no I’m not done wrapping presents. Thinking about how blessed I am this year, how blessed I am to have a man in my life that loves and supports me with no question to the cost and I’m not talking about financial cost (even though with our combined family we have 11 grands with another on the way). I’m so blessed and my heart is so full but as I sit here, I’m overloaded with sadness because I didn’t get to have this with my late husband. Financially we were ok but I didn’t get to get a Christmas list from all the kiddos and pick what I wanted to get them. We didn’t get to have the big family with 11 grandkids running around opening presents. My heart is overjoyed and a little sad today. That’s the cost, no matter how much love I have for this man, how happy he makes me, we as widows are still grieving the life we thought we were going to have with someone else. I see the dreams I had for the future coming to light and grieving that he won’t be here to see them with me.

12/13/2025

619 likes, 7 comments. “Grief is loud at first. Then it goes quiet and starts taking things with it.”

12/11/2025

Wanted to share this song with yall this morning, first time I really heard it my DIL sang it as a special at church. For her it represented the struggle of being able to conceive, for me it helped with my grief, we get angry, it’one of the stages. Who are we angry at? We feel guilty about being angry at the one who passed, so we turn to God.. and were angry because he took our loved one.. its a reminder that he has a bigger plan for us.. maybe your going through what your going through so you know how to help the next person.. I hope you all have a blessed day..

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Samantha Ebert, Seph Schlueter · Flowers · Song · 2024

12/07/2025

I’m actively putting up the Christmas tree for this year.. realizing I haven’t put one up in the past couple of years, maybe longer. In reality, I threw the one I had with my late husband in the trash probably not long after he passed with no desire to put up another tree. The house I live in is the home I made with him for us and my boys but it was his home first. I had no desire to continue to make this house feel like a home. In trauma, we have the fight or flight response, somethings, some situations I chose to fight others all I’ve wanted to do was flight. This house being a home again is one of those situations. I say all of this because I believe with true healing we have to face our hardest situations head on, we can’t continue to run. So here I am on this Sunday putting up a tree in the midst of tears.

12/07/2025

I don’t post on here as often as I should and I apologize for that. I wanted to remind everyone that you’re not alone. This time of year is hard in general but as a widow/widower, we have our obstacles to manage. The grieving process is never ending.. the more time passes you tend to have more “better days” in between the bad ones. I still keep myself busy because when you’re busy you don’t think as much.. the past couple of weeks I’ve randomly been having flashbacks of the day my husband passed, this next April it will be 3 years. I want this page to be a place that if you have questions or things going on that you can just ask or post with no judgement. I promise whatever your going through or however you feeling there is problem someone in the same boat or has been. I hope you all have a blessed weekend!

12/07/2025

07/27/2025

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05/20/2025

I haven’t posted on here as much as I would like to.. and I apologize for that. I want to let all of you know that if you are ever having a bad day and need someone to talk to I’m always available. Over the past 2 years I’ve realized that the anxiety that can come with grief comes out of nowhere in the most random moments.. last night for instance.. we had bad weather, not out of the norm for Oklahoma.. sirens went off, electric went out, I was in the hallway trying to check the news on my phone.. and in that moment it made me realize how truly alone I was and the panic set in. It’s not that my husband would have done anything different, he would have been in the living room with the front door open watching all of it. Just know that your not alone, the anxieties that you may have are not stupid, silly or ridiculous, they’re real you just always had that other person to make you fell safe or you knew you had to be strong for. Hope everyone is safe and well this morning.

11/22/2024

Next meeting is December 9th at 6pm at First Baptist Church Family Life Center in Poteau. Hope to see you all there!

11/12/2024

I had a moment today on my way home from work (my car broke down Friday) as I’m on my way home today I was thinking about how when it was us I didn’t have to worry about how I was going to pay to get my car fixed.. the anger that came with that thought.. then the sadness.. then openly realizing the small things that bring stages of the grieving process back. Sometimes I can just let it flow through me and in a matter of minutes it passes or it lingers and it takes everything I have to do anything the rest of the day.
I know it’s all part of the process, as time passes we find our own ways to handle these situations and it gets easier to process.
I say all of this to remind anyone that has experienced loss in any form that there isn’t a timeline. We all grieve differently. The holidays are coming, cars breakdown, new memories are being made, you’re not alone.. it’s ok to be sad and happy all at once.

11/08/2024

Thank you all for accepting the invites and liking the page! Please invite anyone that you feel may benefit from this page. We’re going to be having monthly in person meetings and I’ll be posting that info in the next couple of days. I know a lot of you aren’t in this area and I so appreciate your support during this new journey. If you have any questions don’t hesitate to ask!