11/24/2025
For most of us, the holiday season is a time to relax with family and friends, find peace, give to those we love, and create memories that will last forever. However, for some, this is not how it looks because they are victims of domestic violence.
The holidays bring out a lot more stress than usual, and this, "should be" enjoyable time, sees heightened chaos and surges of violence in their home.
You may ask yourself why domestic violence is more likely to occur during the holidays. Here are some reasons domestic violence becomes a serious problem during this time of year:
*financial stress: all the pressure to buy gifts, host parties, and essentially, just the social status of the holidays causes strain on a budget. Having this burden added on top of a relationship that may not be healthy to begin with, causes tension and therefore, triggering violent behavior.
*emotional factors: let's face it! holidays are emotionally taxing. We are expected to maintain a cheerful demeanor, and being around family that may not get along can lead to heightened stress or anxiety. And again, if there is an existing volatile relationship, the emotional triggers may escalate into violence.
*Increased alcohol consumption: alcohol is a well-known risk factor for domestic violence. Alcohol impairs judgement and lowers inhibitions, making already existing tensions higher.
*Family dynamics: family gatherings can be exhausting, and if the abuser's family enables or normalizes their violent behavior, it is challenging for the victim to feel comfortable, let alone speak out.
*Social status: holidays exude togetherness as a family. For this reason, the victim may be more reluctant to report their abuser during this time because they fear they will ruin the holidays for their family.
You may keep your eye open while you're around family and friends this holiday season. Someone may be a victim of domestic violence and will be too afraid to talk, but you could end up being someone's saving grace, if they need help. Here are some signs to watch for:
*If someone is typically outgoing but now they are isolating themselves
*Wearing clothes that seem to be covering more of their body than normal, wearing a lot of make up or sunglasses
*Partner talks over them, demeans them or talks down and then they seem to just shut down
*Sudden loss of finances (financial control)
*They are more jumpy, fidgety, and frightful
I hope that this helps you be aware that the holidays are a very dreadful time for some people, so if someone doesn't seem thrilled about the holidays, be comforting and ask if there is anything they would like to talk about or how you can help them through this difficult time of year.
~Cheyenne