For Your Record

11/07/2023

The Supreme Court is hearing a pivotal case on gun rights related to domestic violence today. The link below gives details.

It is alarming — and revealing — that justices making potential life or death decisions for others have no understanding of the inner workings of domestic abuse.

For example, one judge has suggested that if gun rights were restricted for domestic abusers it would be a slippery slope for other citizens who speed or don't recycle. As if those infractions are in any way comparable to abuse or murder.

Another judge said there are other ways to protect domestic abuse survivors than restricting gun rights of their abusers, by arresting the abusers and prosecuting them. That's cute. And short sighted. And naive.

How are people with no clue about the system running the system?

The court, whose gun rights decision last year set a new historical legal standard, will consider whether the government may disarm people subject to restraining orders for domestic abuse.

10/16/2023

That feeling we get when we start a Monday by paying one survivor's deferred filing fees and notifying another that her abuser has been successfully served -- and we got the tab! 👊💪🙌

09/21/2023

We've heard from survivors — a lot — on this issue. Asking for advice, wondering how to unlock themselves from their digital entanglements.

This blog, ahead of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, offers tips from experts.

Leaving a relationship might mean leaving behind old passwords and accounts. Here’s how to move on.

08/10/2023

Bullet points. And dates. They're so so important for protective orders.

And if you can, try to leave out anger, resentment and emotion that isn't useful for a judge. Abuse is not fair, at all. Judges understand that.

Focus on the fear you have for your future safety.

08/07/2023

Hey. If your kids are seeing it they're affected by it. Our grants help victims get out.

08/03/2023

If you can, make an escape plan. Even if you don't think your situation is "that bad."

Make a plan. 👌 Things tend to escalate when you leave.

08/01/2023

Need a protective order? Here's some info.

07/27/2023

Quick reminder: Recovering from an abusive relationship doesn't happen in a straight line. Expect a few blind curves along the way. It's normal.

07/25/2023

Make decisions. Wear what you want. Socialize. Sleep. Work. Experience peace. Life changes when you leave an abusive relationship.

07/16/2023

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05/23/2023

Ever wonder how For Your Record got started? And why?

Listen to this podcast, featuring our founder. It gives all the details. And, to learn more about our organization, visit www.foryourrecord.org.

https://guidinggrowth.co/episodes/lisa-abelar

Lisa Abelar is an accomplished storyteller and copywriter based in Gilbert who seeks adventure for her blended family and runs a non-profit called For Your Record to support domestic abuse survivors with court fees. Her experience as a survivor herself, navigating the legal system and dealing with t

05/17/2023

Do you have a friend who needs to leave an abusive relationship but needs financial support to file paperwork with the court? We can help.

www.foryourrecord.org