02/11/2019
Hello Breathe family,
It’s been awhile so I should reintroduce myself. I’m Kara, I help Wade on occasion with this group. I lost my aunt in 2011 and almost exactly 4 years later I lost my little brothers best friend (who yes was like a brother to me), in the past 8 years I’ve been to more funerals then I care to talk about and each one hurts my heart.
I wanted to write today something that has been on my mind for awhile. When Wade took group a different direction then what we had been going, I was nervous. But, let me tell you what I learned. I learned that it was ok to step outside our comfort zone and discover new ways to heal. The first drum circle I went to, was nothing I’ve never experienced before. Learning about sound and energy, history and roots, bringing in positivity and releasing negativity.
Grieving had consumed my life to unhealthy levels. I was in a really bad place mentally. It took several of drum circles, I went through life coaching and took classes before I learned that I can remember my loved ones and still grieve for them without having to be sad and depressed all the time. Yes, I still get sad and my heart hurts so much I think I might fall apart BUT it’s not a consistent pain. I had to step back from everything su***de related for 6 months to a year and just this past month I feel like I can share more.
Each of us is in a different place of grief, not everyone will grieve the same, so what I found worked for might not work for you. However, if you feel like everything you have tried isn’t helping , I encourage you to follow Wade’s example like I did and try something new. The peace and hope that I experience a drum circle is one is the only things I have found that helps me break through the fog and pain. Just recently I’ve been learning about the healing powers of crystals.
No matter how many years it’s been the pain will always be there, no matter how long it’s been you’ll still miss them. There’s still days I want to call my aunt and remember I can’t. Grief is ugly and dark but at some point you have to find the hope and the healing along the way.
