01/26/2026
Balance can be the hardest part. How do you absorb-and-process the good and the bad? What’s the line to walk when you communicate these things back to your family and friends and giving community? Because this work is both, and my bark has gotten too hard to shy away from the awful. Both sides of that coin can-and-continue-to-exist in our city’s forgotten parts. It only further qualifies the need…so you do your best to sand the corners smooth.
Over the last weekend, so many of us stood at tent flaps, stared down into dug holes and tried to fill the gaps. You’d breathe the smoke of pallet fires, work hooked fingers straight (and apologize for the navigation needed to find the mitten holes) and tell our folks that the new bag you were handing them was rated for “true zero”, but couldn’t guarantee survival in what’s coming. You’d pet their dogs…the ones they’d wrap in their own down vests…and you’d move on to the next.
We’d see a man ‘cooking’ a frozen pizza by setting the box on fire under an underpass. I’d watch a woman set a dormant shrub on fire for heat. I’d managed Aaron’s hands into his new mittens…the same hands he’d been protecting in knotted plastic bags. We’d find a warm room for Mr. Smiley…a man living and dying between a freezer and a live bait tank. And a man would tug on my coat as I crawled out of his tent…”Do you have a child-sized jacket? My dog is pregnant and I want her to be warm.”
For me, this culminates in certainty. An actualization that I am owed nothing…no assurance-of-justice for our neighbors. Or that any of this awful needed to make much sense. But the grander questions hold no weight when you’re face-to-face. You trust your science and the gear and your ability to communicate. Then the only certainty that matters wins the day…that this work works. We need to be here. We HAVE to be here.
Before I left Aaron, he’d hug me. “I love you.” “Aaron, I love you too.” The thing is, he loves ALL of us. Everyone who decided to give to Project Winter Watch. Every person that decided to share a post. He loves you for loving those you’d never meet. You ARE the good in all the bad. I am simply the caffeinated messenger of your kindness.
Gang, we’ll keep after it.
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