10/18/2021
Julie Owens: There are many in the church these days who focus on intervening with abusive husbands. These are my friends Ty and Barb Shroyer who developed the gold standard intervention program for court-ordered churchgoing male abusers. They are a really awesome couple, longtime domestic violence experts, and a real example of a beautiful Christian marriage. Ty’s father was abusive, though, and of course, Ty started out life influenced by his Dad’s beliefs and behaviors towards women. While he was still young, though, he was confronted about his abusiveness and decided to commit himself to work diligently on changing. He was able to adopt a new belief system and turn his life completely around. When he and Barb dated, he confessed his past abusive behavior to her.
Changing Men, Changing Lives (CMCL) is THE intervention program I recommend for any abusive man who claims to be a Christian. It uses solid Biblical teaching to debunk the popular myth that women were created to be under men’s authority, and Biblical equality of men and women, and mutuality in Christian marriage. Unlike secular intervention programs, this one directly addresses the specific twisted beliefs and misguided Biblical justifications abusers use for oppressing women, and the trained facilitators can speak back to and properly interpret every scripture that abusers misquote to claim their superiority as husbands and the inferior status of wives.
I don’t know how available the groups are, but I really wish there were CMCL facilitator training and abuser intervention groups all over the country. I believe the Shroyers are available to speak and train in churches. They can be reached on the CMCL website.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=2Hzf5Ssk6zg&fbclid=IwAR0skYNIaC9SlNn65_Ms0R2o6_RG41PpitNkj7JvQwfqsDA3tZwsg1WWvmk
The Changing Men, Changing Lives program was created for working with Christian men. It is a supplement to the Creating a Process of Change for Men Who Batte...