10/10/2026
The next transition: an occasional reflection on caring for an aging loved one on the spectrum
This week we reached another transitional milestone … adding Katie’s sister as a guardian.
Even though her father and I have been guardians for many years it took several months and nearly $10,000 in legal fees to achieve this goal.
Mountains of paperwork, evaluations to ensure she is still autistic, and even a criminal background check had to be redone.
If your loved one is served by DDS I suggest getting on a waiting list for guardianship sooner rather than later. The last time I checked it was only $500. Unfortunately when our name was called it was during the early days of the pandemic and we went to the end of the list!
Because Katie turned 50 a few months ago, I didn’t think I should wait much longer to get it done. So we started the legal process privately.
I knew that if we waited and then could no longer make adequate decisions regarding her health and care, she could end up in a legal nightmare.
The Boston Globe recently did a series of stories on warehousing of disabled patients due to the lack of a conservator or guardian.They are often unable to discharge or transfer the patient due to this legal glitch.
There are so-called public guardians, but it would be someone without any knowledge of the individual’s needs.
Having come out the other side of this, I worry about all of the families unable to cough up the legal fees or find anyone to take on such a major responsibility.
Even the lawyers say they wish something could be done to streamline the process.
Meanwhile, start saving your $$$. But better yet, get on the waiting DDS list if you can.
And most of all, thank you to my first born for stepping up for Katie ❤️❤️❤️
Anita