08/24/2021
Friendship is one of the best things in the world. Just like love, real friendship comes into your life in the most unexpected ways. It can be found in your colleagues, your neighbor, your childhood playmate, your lover, your brother or sister and even in your online chat mate.
๐๐ง๐๐๐ฃ๐๐จ ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐ค๐ข๐ฅ๐๐ฃ๐๐ค๐ฃ๐จ ๐๐ค๐ง ๐ก๐๐๐, ๐๐ก๐ฌ๐๐ฎ๐จ ๐๐๐ค๐ค๐จ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐๐ค๐ค๐ ๐ค๐ฃ๐๐จ!
To share to us their story, here are ๐๐ฎ๐๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ฏ๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐๐น๐ถ๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ฏ๐ฒ!
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๐ญ. ๐๐ผ๐ ๐น๐ผ๐ป๐ด ๐ต๐ฎ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ธ๐ป๐ผ๐๐ป ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต ๐ผ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ? ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ฑ๐ถ๐ฑ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐บ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐?
Haven: Since 2016! Wow 5 years do fly by huh? Idk how to answer the second question cus I meanโฆhe was Noah Shaw back then and we were facebook mutuals and idk, I probably went into his inbox and was all like โwHErE is mARa dYeR, NoAh sHaW???โ HAHAHA Please, donโt judge me. 2013-2016 were like my s**tposting years. I was just there to be trash on peopleโs timelines ahahahahahaha OMG DO YOU GUYS REMEMBER THAT ERA OF JUST SH*TPOSTING ON EACH OTHERโS WALLS? Yea, I did that a lot. His wall was probably full of my crap back then too ahahah
Julien: we met around 2016 โ and trust me when i say haven was one hell of a mischievous person few years back. sheโd constantly send me books from time to time. she would bring a live giraffe in her home (i think she named it joey haha). we didnโt start with the casual plotting though, i think our friendship started with trash-posting and lang leav? we were friends who wrote love poems a lot.
๐ฎ. ๐ช๐ต๐ฎ๐โ๐ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ณ๐ฎ๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ถ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ผ ๐ฑ๐ผ ๐๐ผ๐ด๐ฒ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ?
Haven: Right now? Just rant and be sad together? Hahahaha We have a lot of similarities, so we either rant or spazz about the same things (HELLO CAT VIDS?? Animes? Life miseries? Ahaha ) But we werenโt always sad asses though, I think. Back then, we were, well not exactly happy but not exactly sad either? Ahaha We pretty much just joked around back then. Heโd tease me for my burnt pancakes and Iโd call him a hobo, just those kinds of easy banter.
Julien: we enjoy talking to each other because we like the same things - and itโs fun to talk to someone who likes what you like. you know what i mean? it feels so easy to go with the flow. sometimes, sheโd send me a link to a clip that iโve already seen and vice versa? i guess that says it all. heck, we even have the same course ooc, so we shared the same struggles too. but the oddest part is, since 2016, we wanted our muses to live differently. one time, we decided to roleplay as homeless people, and we actually did and it was fun. weโd share a pack of ramen noodles for dinner, weโd shop for groceries with $7 budget. a lot of people wouldnโt get it since most roleplayers create a muse with a perfect lifestyle and a perfect routine - while, haven and i, we just wanted to have fun and write.
i remember quitting last december, and she was the first person to know. i told her about my real life struggles with grad school along with my two jobs and i lost the ability to write happy pieces anymore, and she didnโt want me to go. i can still recall her words, โhow about, letโs just start a new life and just live with no rules?โ
she gets me, inside out. she gave me a place where iโm allowed to be โmeโ. i will always be grateful for that.
๐ฏ. ๐ช๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐บ๐ฎ๐ฑ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ธ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ "๐ผ๐ต ๐ถ'๐บ ๐ด๐ผ๐ป๐ป๐ฎ ๐ฏ๐ฒ ๐ณ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฒ๐ป๐ฑ๐ ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ ๐ผ๐ป๐ฒ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐ฎ ๐น๐ผ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ถ๐บ๐ฒ."?
Haven: Tbh, I donโt think there was a specific moment that I can recall. I mean Julienโs pretty chill and laid back and the fact that we get to spazz about the same things just sort of made it all come naturally, I guess? I mean, he was Noah freaking Shaw and I read (and loved!) that book series so much, sooo you know? It was cool and comfy that we read the same books and I pretty much badgered him with epubs after that AHAHAHA. But I think anyone whoโs talked to him would agree with me when I say, heโs like the easiest person to really just get comfortable with. I donโt know how he does it!
Julien: i never really thought about it that way. it just sort of happened and we just clicked. sometimes i think people donโt know her the way that i do. sheโs an ally of mine and yet she wouldnโt tolerate me with the wrong things and that makes her genuine. time flies so fast and a lot of things changed, i think the main reason why we lasted is because we respect each other? she respects my boundaries (which is really, really important to me because im not a fan of people who constantly cross the line between rp and rl) and we take care of each other. she gets my feelings, calms me down whenever i feel bad, supports me in every decision i make, sheโs everything you could wish for a sister.
๐ฐ. ๐ก๐ฎ๐บ๐ฒ ๐ผ๐ป๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐น๐ถ๐ธ๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐ผ๐๐ ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต ๐ผ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ.
Haven: I like that he gets me. Like, I say something and heโs like โyes, you mean bdsfsdjfโ and Iโm like โYES, ABSOLUTELY THATโ. No explanations needed. Itโs like weโre on the same wavelength and it makes talking to him so much easier. Twins, I tell you!
Julien: this is the hardest question out of all because thereโs just way too many to like so i canโt choose.
but i like the fact that despite not having enough time for ourselves, we still get to check up on each other. sheโs always been there when things get rough. and as much as it annoys her sometimes, i will always be there for her to brighten up her mood.
๐ฑ. ๐ ๐ผ๐๐ ๐ถ๐บ๐ฝ๐ผ๐ฟ๐๐ฎ๐ป๐ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ผ ๐ธ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ฝ ๐ถ๐ป ๐บ๐ถ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ "๐ถ๐ป๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ป๐ฒ๐ ๐ณ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฒ๐ป๐ฑ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ฝ" ๐๐ผ ๐น๐ฎ๐๐.
Haven: Iโd say, respect? Idk if thatโs the right word but we both have crazy corporate slave lives OOC and we understand that and you know, even way back, we took up the same course in college and were usually busy as hell. We understand that weโve got lives outside of the internet and to keep the friendship we didnโt have to check in on each other all the time (even if there are times we do talk for hours). We just, you know, pop in when we can and appreciate those little talks and be all cool when we canโt. Iโd say, our friendship is pretty low maintenance. We disappear for awhile but when we get in touch again, itโs like no time even passed. I mean, for reals. We didnโt get in touch again til late last year after literally years and I was like โOMG NOAH IS THAT YOUโ (well duh but you know, what if it was someone with the same name AHAHA had to make sure) and he was like โWHO YOUโ AHAHAHAHAHAHA cus I changed my name and all that but after reacquainting ourselves, we really just picked it up from where we left off. He kept slipping and called me by my old name for awhile too ahahaha. It was like 2016 all over again, just spazzing over new things this time like AOT (PLS, LEVI IS A GOD).
Julien: there are certain things that virtual friendships make easier. the thoughts, struggles, and feelings we never get to share to people we live with, we can share it with friends from afar. most of these people are unbiased so they give out the best advice as well. so probably the most important thing to keep in mind is to be genuine. donโt love them any less than your ooc friends just because theyโre from the internet. connection can happen even without face to face physical interaction.
๐ฒ. ๐ ๐ฒ๐๐๐ฎ๐ด๐ฒ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต ๐ผ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ.
Haven:
Hello, you.
You are a warm cup of matcha after a long day of work.
I donโt know if itโs the comfort of knowing each other for years or just how you get me so thoroughly itโs like sometimes, you know me better than I know myself. Speaking to you feels like looking at a mirror sometimes. We share the same darkness, only in different shades. We laugh over the same dumb jokes because our 3 braincells are just struggling to make it.
Neither of us are perfect. You can have your mean streak and I have my anger and potential toxicity(??) issues but weโve been through enough to understand and accept each other. There is comfort in the fact that there is absolutely no judgment here. Thank you for listening to my rants and melodramatics from time to time! And for talking sense to me when I overthink or just need a sounding board.
I still absolutely have no idea how this friendship started but I feel really lucky that it somehow did and just kept going! I donโt want to reminisce too much cus then Iโd feel old ahaha but you should know that you are an absolute gem, as a person and as a friend. You are one of the sweetest people I know and I think you deserve all the good things that come to you. I hope you know Iโll always be a listening ear when you need one (and a nagging mouth too when you need some sense talked into you as well! Ahahaha).
Thank you for the trust, time and understanding. Please know that I appreciate you everyday even when itโs not Friendship day (or month??). We may only have 3 braincells but I trust your sound judgment and that means I support you in all your endeavors as well. If I had to describe this friendship with a single word, it would be โcomfortableโ because thatโs what you areโmy comfort zone. With you, everything just falls effortlessly into place. Iโm not gonna worry about keeping this friendshipโ because you and I know we are both flight risks AHAHAHAHA (pls our attachment issues are waving)โ but I want you to know that no matter what happens, our bond is one I really do cherish.
Julien:
haven,
i like it when i disappear for who knows how long and youโd still recognize me hahaha. i hope one day you wake up and see yourself the way i see you - and that your insecurities are instead filled with care and empathy you share with others. weโve known each other for 5 years now (going 6!) and thereโs just so much about you that i aspire to be like (minus the sad part because we both have it in our genes now haha)
you are one of the few important people in my life right now. you supported me in everything, nobody knows me better than you. i wish that instead of counting your imperfections one by one, you begin to see the real beauty of not being perfect. i hope the day comes when you get to meet the right people that you truly deserve, the kind of people who will add peace, love, and happiness in your life.
i hope that one day, youโd view yourself with the amount of love people have for you. and when youโre happy, iโm happy. when youโre down, iโm down. when you win in life, i feel like iโm winning it too. i hope the day comes when you see yourself the way i see you. but until then, i will always be here by your side, reminding you.
