11/20/2025
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Why emotional reactions hit so hard — and the tower moments that finally set us free
Uninstalling the Trigger Button
~ It’s pretty common these days to hear someone say someone is “triggered.”
Recognizing a triggered reaction is the easy part.
Understanding what it actually is — and even more, learning how to dissolve it — that’s the deeper work.
Before we go there, let’s get on the same page.
😡 What Is a Triggered Reaction?
A triggered reaction is an intense emotional surge in response to a person or situation. Most of us notice it more easily in others than ourselves.
🚗 Think of road rage.
Someone gets cut off and goes from zero to sixty — not in their car, but in their nervous system.
The emotion could be anger, fear, sadness, frustration, or panic.
Let me be clear:
The emotion isn't wrong; it's not necessarily unfounded or made up. It's extreme.
(Notice I’m saying reaction and not response.)
~ A response is grounded, intentional. A reaction is involuntary — it hijacks your system so quickly that you don’t “think,” you erupt.
That’s why we say things like, “I lost it.”
⚡ Why Such an Extreme Reaction?
~ A trigger is a trauma-based response — fight, flight, freeze, or fawn.
Some past experiences were so painful that your mind and body couldn’t process them at the time.
So the emotional imprint stayed behind. It becomes what I call the trigger button. I once heard someone say,
“I didn’t install the button — I just pushed it.”
That hit me hard.
We ALL walk around with various buttons. And when someone accidentally presses one
💥 Kaboom!
~ Which brings us to the real question:
"How do we uninstall the button?"
Stay with me. I’ll walk you through the process. But first, let’s talk about how we make it worse without realizing it.
💔 How We Accidentally Strengthened the Button
When we get triggered, the typical reaction — from others and ourselves — is something like:
• “That wasn’t normal.”
• “I overreacted.”
• “What’s wrong with me?”
• “I’m making a big deal out of nothing.”
In that moment, we invalidate our entire experience. We show no curiosity, no compassion, no understanding. We label it “bad,” push it down, and move on.
And here’s the kicker:
Suppressing a trigger magnifies it. The button becomes more sensitive, more reactive, more insistent.
It’s your body saying:
⚠️ “Please pay attention — this needs to be healed.”
The First Step to Uninstalling the Button
The key is to approach the trigger through a lens of acceptance and appreciation.
A trigger isn’t proof that you’re broken — it’s a message.
A signal that something wants attention, healing, and truth. Understanding where the button originated and what situation is activating it is the starting point.
But it’s not the removal. The button dissolves only after a Tower Moment.
🗼 What’s a Tower Moment?
A Tower Moment is a sudden, disruptive experience that collapses old structures, beliefs, illusions, or patterns.
It’s a breakdown that becomes a breakthrough.
A catalyst for transformation. This can happen during big life events — a breakup, job loss, or health crisis — but often it’s a smaller moment that hits with massive clarity.
It’s that moment when you see the truth so clearly, you cannot unsee it.
♡ The illusion shatters.
♡ The distortion dissolves.
And the trigger button? ✨ It finally loses its power.
Once the truth is seen, the button dissolves — almost magically — because the distortion around it no longer exists.
💡 Example: When You Don’t Acknowledge Yourself
~ The Scenario:
You’re working your ass-off for a boss who is never satisfied.
The Trigger:
~ Lack of appreciation
~ Dismissive tone
~ Constant pressure
Sound familiar?
The Button:
~ A past experience or a belief that you must do more in order to prove you are enough.
The Tower Moment:
~ Realizing that no matter how hard you work, it may never be enough for that person. Or realizing maybe they really didn't value you. Or maybe realizing they did value you, even though you couldn't see it. And deeper still, the real truth — realizing you’ve been chasing their approval because you didn’t value yourself. That truth lands so hard it knocks the illusion to the ground.
The Illusion Collapses:
✨ They’re not the validator of my worth — I am.
♡ That truth is blinding. And liberating. And with that clarity…the button dissolves.
🌱 The Real Turning Point
~ Once you see the truth, the real work begins:
• LEARNING to value yourself
• RECOGNIZING your own worth
• BREAKING the habit of seeking external validation
• DEVELOPING new emotional patterns
• HONORING yourself without needing permission
♡ You don’t become “enough” because someone tells you so —you become enough because you finally believe it.
And the button? It dissolves. Because you no longer need the pattern it was protecting.
🌙 Closing: Your Triggers Are Not the Enemy
The next time you feel that surge — that intensity — pause.
♡ Ask yourself:
• What is this reaction protecting?
• What truth is trying to break through?
• What illusion is finally collapsing?
~ Your triggers aren’t flaws. They aren’t proof that you are too emotional or too irrational, they’re proof you’re ready to release and heal.
~ They’re invitations —pathways to the truth, doorways into healing, and the first step in reclaiming your power.
~ Your Tower Moment may be uncomfortable-- an energetic purge, but it will always set you free.
💛 Heal the Hustle Habit
So many of our triggers come from the same root: proving, performing, perfecting, and pleasing.
~ This is exactly what we’ll be exploring in the FREE Heal the Hustle Habit Event — how to reclaim your energy, alignment, and truth
♡ If this resonates, you’re already in the right place. Join the event and step into a version of yourself that no longer reacts…but responds with clarity, calm, and truth.
♡ This is an honest, soul-centered conversation about releasing the need to prove, perform, and push.
✨ Reconnect to your energy, your worth, and your light — not your to-do list.
👉 IF this resonated with you, please JOIN this FREE event hosted by Dr. Robin Lavitch owner, Surpass Your Goal
Tuesday, December 2, 2025
6:00-7:30 PM
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