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Grief Share, 233 Carlisle Street, New Oxford, PA (2026)

09/18/2026

Why do I Grieve differently for each person ?

Have you ever wondered why two people can lose the same person and grieve so differently? One person may cry every day, while another rarely sheds a tear. One may want to talk about their loved one constantly, while another needs quiet. One may return to work quickly, while another struggles to get through the simplest tasks.

It can be easy to think, “Why aren't they grieving like I am?”
The truth is, there is no one right way to grieve.

We each had a different relationship with the person we lost. We shared different memories, experiences, conversations, struggles, and dreams. Even when we lose the same person, we don't lose the same relationship.

Our personalities, past experiences, faith, support systems, and circumstances also shape the way we process loss.

So don't judge someone else's grief—and don't judge your own.
You don't have to grieve like your spouse, your children, your siblings, or your friends.
Your grief is as unique as your relationship with the person you lost.
Give yourself—and others—the grace to grieve differently.
There is no timetable. There is no perfect way.

There is simply your way of learning to live with a loss you never wanted.

09/17/2026

Deciding Upon Their Wishes

There is something incredibly difficult about planning a funeral or memorial service while your heart is still trying to accept that someone you love is gone.

You are asked to make decisions when you don't feel like making any decisions at all.

What will they wear?
What songs should be played?
Who should speak?
What pictures should be displayed?
Burial or cremation?
What would they have wanted?

Sometimes these decisions feel overwhelming. Sometimes family members disagree. And sometimes you find yourself wondering, “How am I supposed to know what they would have wanted?”

If they left instructions, treasure them. They gave you a gift by making some of those decisions ahead of time. But if they didn't, give yourself grace.

There is no perfect service. The service is not meant to prove how much you loved them. It is an opportunity to honor their life, tell their story, and give those who loved them a place to say goodbye.
Choose what reflects who they were, not what you think everyone else expects.

Maybe their favorite song wasn't a traditional funeral song. Play it.
Maybe they loved laughter. Share a funny story.
Maybe they were quiet and private. A simple service may be exactly right.

Don't let the pressure to create the "perfect" goodbye become another burden in your grief.
You are already hurting.

Choose the details with love. Ask for help when you need it. And remember that the service is only one moment in your journey of grief.

You don't have to get everything right. You simply have to honor the person you loved.

09/14/2026

When the Patient You Cared For Dies

There is a grief that doesn't always get talked about. It is the grief of a caregiver when their patient dies.

You may have known you were not going to have them forever. You may have prepared yourself for that phone call, that moment, that final breath. But knowing death is coming doesn't make the loss easy.

You cared for them. You learned their routines. You knew how they liked things done. You listened to their stories. You celebrated their good days and cried through their hard ones. Somewhere along the way, they became more than a patient.

𝗧𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗮𝗺𝗲 𝗮 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲.

And then suddenly, they're gone.
The house may feel different. The schedule that once revolved around their needs is suddenly empty. You may even find yourself reaching for the phone to check on them—only to remember you don't need to anymore.

And sometimes there is guilt.
Should I be this sad? They weren't my family.
But grief doesn't require a family tree.

When you have given your time, your heart, your energy, and your love to another person, their absence can leave a very real emptiness.
So don't minimize your grief because you were "just the caregiver."

You were present.
You mattered to them.
And they mattered to you.

Give yourself permission to grieve the person you cared for. Remember the moments you shared. Be thankful for the privilege of walking with them through a portion of their journey.

Sometimes caregiving is one of the greatest gifts we can give—and one of the deepest losses we can experience when that journey ends.

09/11/2026

When the People You Expected Aren’t There

One of the painful surprises of grief can be discovering that the people you thought would be beside you… aren’t.

Sometimes it is your closest friends who become distant. The phone stops ringing. Invitations become fewer. They may not know what to say, or perhaps your grief makes them uncomfortable. Whatever the reason, their absence can add another layer of hurt to an already painful journey.

And then something unexpected happens...
Someone you barely expected to notice your pain shows up. An acquaintance sends a message. Someone from church brings a meal. A neighbor asks how you're really doing. Someone you didn't know well sits beside you and simply listens.

They step up to the plate.

At first, you may find yourself wondering, “Where were these people before?” or even feeling hurt and disappointed by those who aren't there.

But grief has a way of teaching us something important:

S𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝘄𝗲 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗿𝘆 𝘂𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻'𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝗚𝗼𝗱 𝘂𝘀𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗱 𝘂𝘀 𝘂𝗽.

Don't overlook the unexpected people.
Don't be so focused on who walked away that you miss who is walking toward you.

Some people may not know how to walk through grief with you. Others may surprise you with their willingness to stand beside you. Receive the love that comes. Let people help. Let them listen. Let them show up.

And if someone has stepped into your grief when you didn't expect them to, don't forget to thank them.

𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝗚𝗼𝗱 𝘀𝗲𝗻𝗱𝘀 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗴𝘁𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝘀𝘁 𝘂𝗻𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲.

09/09/2026

When Loneliness Shows Up

One of the hardest parts of grief is the loneliness that follows. The phone doesn't ring as often. The house feels quieter. The person you would normally talk to is no longer there. Even when surrounded by people, you can still feel alone.
If you are experiencing loneliness today, remember this: loneliness is a feeling, not a permanent destination. It is a moment that can be changed.
Here are a few simple tools to help shift the moment:
✨ Reach out to one person. Send a text, make a phone call, or invite someone for coffee.
✨ Change your environment. Step outside, take a walk, sit on the porch, or visit a favorite place.
✨ Turn on worship music or an encouraging podcast. Let positive voices fill the silence.
✨ Write in a journal. Sometimes putting your thoughts on paper helps release the weight you're carrying.
✨ Serve someone else. A card, a meal, or a simple act of kindness can remind you that you still have purpose.
✨ Talk to God honestly. He is not intimidated by your loneliness. Tell Him exactly how you feel.
Loneliness may visit, but it does not have to stay.

One small step can begin to change the atmosphere around you and within you.
Today, choose one tool and take one step forward.
You don't have to grieve alone.

09/07/2026

You Are Wonderfully Made

There are seasons in life when loss has a way of making us forget who we are.

When someone we love dies, a piece of the life we knew seems to disappear with them. The routines change. The conversations become memories.

Sometimes even the woman we used to be feels like a stranger. And somewhere in the middle of all that grief, you may begin to wonder, “Who am I now?”

I want you to remember something today:
You are still you. And you are still wonderfully made.

Before you were someone's wife, mother, grandmother, daughter, sister, friend, caregiver, or ministry partner, you were God's creation.

He made you.
Not a copy of someone else. Not a version that had to measure up. Not a woman who had to have everything together. You.

Your personality.
Your laugh.
Your compassion.
Your creativity.
Your strength.
Your tenderness.
Your quirks.
Your gifts.

Even the parts of yourself you sometimes wish were different. God knew exactly what He was doing when He created you.

Psalm 139:14 says, “Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—and how well I know it.”

09/06/2026

What do I do Now?

Your world is spinning. Is this true?
You have just answered the doorbell and find a policeman standing at your door. He tells you that your son has died in a car accident and he offers to take you to the hospital so you can see him.

Take a deep breath.
Call someone close with you
Let her call family members
Have her Call your Pastor
Ask questions for details
Let others help you
Talk about the loss,
Surround yourself with Support
Allow yourself to Grieve

09/04/2026

Handling Death
Years ago, when a person died, it was no longer spoke of after the funeral services. We were told to be strong, get over it, and life goes on. No one shared memories or the blessing they experienced with their loved one.
Today, it is different. It is healthy to speak about your loved one, hold onto good memories, and carry them in your heart. Yes, life will be different- a New Normal.
The journey of Grief is an experience that you cannot understand until you find yourself there. No journey is exactly alike, but has similarities.

Feelings and emotions are up and down
The thoughts race around your head and
you have trouble sleeping
You may have no answers to why
You lose interest in things
You struggle to do daily tasks
Your friends don't understand

Everyone needs support in the season of Grief. It helps to:

Talk to a close friend about your loss
See a Grief Counselor or Coach
Talk to your Pastor
Join a Grief Support Group

If you need someone who has walked the pathway of Grief to walk with you, contact me at
[email protected]

08/21/2026

Life Reclaimed

Progress does not mean the absence of grief; it means learning to navigate it with grace and faith. Every step forward, no matter how small, is evidence of God’s sustaining power. Every moment of joy, laughter, or peace is a declaration of life reclaimed. Life may never look exactly as it did before your loss, but it can still be rich, meaningful, and full of hope.

𝘌𝘹𝘤𝘦𝘳𝘱𝘵 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘓𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘉𝘦𝘺𝘰𝘯𝘥 𝘎𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘧: 𝘋𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘗𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘉𝘳𝘰𝘬𝘦𝘯 𝘗𝘭𝘢𝘤𝘦𝘴
go to https://kevinwells.sellfy.store/p/living-beyond-grief/ to order your copy today.

08/19/2026

The Small Signs of Healing

Sometimes healing reveals itself through small acts of courage: visiting the cemetery without panic, looking through old photographs without breaking down, or attending a family gathering and finding peace instead of emptiness. Each step forward is evidence that your heart is mending, one gentle layer at a time.

𝘌𝘹𝘤𝘦𝘳𝘱𝘵 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘓𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘉𝘦𝘺𝘰𝘯𝘥 𝘎𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘧: 𝘋𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘗𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘉𝘳𝘰𝘬𝘦𝘯 𝘗𝘭𝘢𝘤𝘦𝘴
go to https://kevinwells.sellfy.store/p/living-beyond-grief/ to order your copy today.

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