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Abby's Light Abigail died from a traumatic brain injury after her mother's car was rear-ended by a drunk driver.

Grief has become an old, crotchety friend at this point. But Abby’s birthday still packs a punch. I close my eyes, and ...
03/14/2026

Grief has become an old, crotchety friend at this point. But Abby’s birthday still packs a punch.

I close my eyes, and I’m transported to that night. It plummets me to places I don’t want to go and to memories I don’t want to relive.

I don’t know where I fit anymore. I’m a Girl/ Boy Mom without my girl. I lost her. I couldn’t protect her and I couldn’t trade places.

The sound of her voice has grown faint. I can’t feel the weight of her in my arms anymore.

If I could just hold her hand again. If only we had stayed home that night.


📸

Grief tends to make people uncomfortable. No one knows what to say or how to act, and frankly, neither do we.* There’s ...
12/20/2025

Grief tends to make people uncomfortable. No one knows what to say or how to act, and frankly, neither do we.* There’s no guidebook, unfortunately. And so, I often feel it’s important to share our journey in an effort to normalize grief so that new members to this crummy club know that they aren’t alone.

Luke was only 4 when Wendell blew up our lives. At that age, he adjusted to our new “normal” quickly because he really didn’t understand the finality of it all. Back then, I didn’t realize that Luke would circle back and re-live the trauma and grief through the lens of older, mature eyes. Apparently, it’s common, and let me tell you - it SUCKS.

So this idea of the Elf on the Shelf bringing kisses from Heaven is pretty perfect timing-wise. I pray it brings him comfort. And if you have a baby struggling with grief and loss, perhaps this will bring your baby some much needed peace too.

Big hugs to my fellow grief travelers. You aren’t alone.

PS: DRIVE SOBER or Phone A Sober Friend.

💛


*If you haven’t picked up on it yet, I *adore* talking about my girl, and I am 100% an open book.

Four years ago tonight, our world slowly began to implode. It should have been a wonderful mother-daughter date, and it ...
10/23/2025

Four years ago tonight, our world slowly began to implode. It should have been a wonderful mother-daughter date, and it was … until it wasn’t. Just a few hours later, I would watch helplessly while good Samaritans tried to save my girl. Two days after that, Abby was gone forever.

We are forever changed: battle-scarred and resilient, but also grateful.

- Grateful to be her mother / father / brother.
- Grateful that she was a ham for the camera.
- Grateful to have known and loved Abby.

🚨 : Please don’t drink and drive. Don’t get high and drive. The consequences aren’t worth it. Call Uber or Lyft (Trust me: they would love to be your bestie). Call your parent(s). Call someone who you can depend on to bring you home.

Our boys with Abby’s Wings.
08/04/2025

Our boys with Abby’s Wings.

A Love Letter From The Afterlife. I miss you, Tails. 💛
07/19/2025

A Love Letter From The Afterlife. I miss you, Tails. 💛

She’s traveling the world, one light at a time. Florence (📸 1 and 2); San Antonio (📸3).
07/06/2025

She’s traveling the world, one light at a time. Florence (📸 1 and 2); San Antonio (📸3).

I’ll let my friend, Grace take it from here:
07/04/2025

I’ll let my friend, Grace take it from here:

Our girl made it to Arizona. 💛
06/29/2025

Our girl made it to Arizona. 💛

1/2/25The appellate court released their decision on Wendell’s appeal this morning. 📌 The 30 year sentence for Abby’s de...
01/02/2025

1/2/25

The appellate court released their decision on Wendell’s appeal this morning.

📌 The 30 year sentence for Abby’s death has been UPHELD.

📌 The 5 year sentence for my injuries has been vacated. This portion of the case will return to the trial court for resentencing.

Below: an excerpt of the opinion that noted the contents of Wendell’s car at the moment of the wreck, as well as his BAC level which was taken 2.5 hours after the wreck. The court also took specific notice of our victim impact statements.

Thank you for the support, prayers, and love. 💛🐝

* GOOD VIBES REQUEST * 12/2/24. Hi all. We humbly request that you storm heaven and the universe with all of the good vi...
12/02/2024

* GOOD VIBES REQUEST *

12/2/24.

Hi all. We humbly request that you storm heaven and the universe with all of the good vibes, prayers, and juju that you can muster. has appealed his sentence for killing Abby on the grounds that it is cruel and unusual / excessive. [Side Note: Do you know what’s truly “cruel and unusual”, Wendell??Watching Good Samaritans and EMS revive your little girl on the cold cement. Living a lifetime without your baby. Hearing your sons say “I love you to Abby and back” because their sister is an insurmountable distance away.]

The Louisiana 5th Circuit Court of Appeal will be holding oral arguments on Wendell’s appeal this afternoon. Unfortunately, the verdict / opinion won’t be handed down today.

Please:

• Pray for the discernment & judgment of the judges who are handling the appeal.

• Pray that the only form of “justice” for Abby is affirmed / upheld by the Court.

• Pray for our family as we are forced to re-live this horror show, yet again.

• Pray that Abby be allowed to rest in peace.

• Pray that Wendell finds the grace to finally take accountability for his choices and actions.

📸: October 2021. This is one of the last photos of my girl at her bestie’s house. The girls bought these shirts together, and Tails was wearing that top, along with my sweatshirt, the night of the wreck; it comforts me to know my girl was swaddled with a physical reminder of our love in her last moments.

Walk for Recovery, 2024.
10/26/2024

Walk for Recovery, 2024.

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