04/18/2026
"Dad, it doesn't help."
Those four words from my 11-year-old son changed everything about how I watch baseball.
I asked him what kids think when parents yell instructions from the stands during games. His response was brutal: "They don't like it."
"What about when I give you last-second reminders before you bat?" I pressed.
"Dad, it doesn't help. When I'm in the batter's box, I follow my coach and get in the zone. Parent noise doesn't help me or any other kid."
I was stunned.
So I talked to former pros and MLB players. Every single one said the same thing: their fathers watched quietly and NEVER said a word. They cheered good plays, but never thought their sideline coaching would make the difference.
I watched big league parents at games. Silent. Even when their sons struck out or made errors. Nothing. They just looked happy to be there and let the coaches coach.
Here's what I learned: Baseball is designed for failure. Our kids face enough pressure without us adding our egos to their at-bats.
I thought I was helping, but really? I was helping my own pride.
Now when I drive my son home, I tell him I enjoyed watching him play. I laugh about his mistakes with him. And if he's ready to listen, I might bring up one thing... maybe.
But mostly, I've learned to make my voice a ghost. Take the pressure off and let them love the game.
Because if your kid keeps looking at you after mistakes, they're worried they disappointed YOU. That's not their burden to carry.
The goal is simple: Let our kids say someday, "Dad, you were a great help."
Not by coaching from the stands, but by letting them play.
The hardest lesson for baseball parents: Sometimes the best thing you can say is nothing at all.