Dheean Pukardian Inc

07/22/2016

ਕਾਸ਼ ਕਿਤੇ ਨਾਂ ਏਦਾਂ ਹੁੰਦੀ
ਤੇ ਮੈ ਵੀ ਸ਼ਾਇਦ ਪੈਦਾ ਹੁੰਦੀ।

ਅੰਮੜੀ ਮੈਨੂੰ ਲਾਡ ਲਡਾਉਦੀ
ਕਦੇ ਹਸਾਉਦੀ ਕਦੇ ਖਿਡਾਉਦੀ।
ਕਾਸ਼ ਕਿਤੇ ਨਾ ਏਦਾ।।।।।

ਰੰਗਲੀ ਦੁਨੀਆ ਵੇਖਣ ਦਾ
ਦਿਲ ਵਿੰਚ ਸੀ ਇੱਕ ਚਾਅ ਸਮੋਇਆ।
ਮੇਰੇ ਜੰਮਣ ਵਾਲਿਆ ਮੇਥੋ
ਕਿਹੜੀ ਗੱਲੋ ਹੱਕ ਇਹ ਖੋਇਆ
ਰੱਖਸ਼ੱਕ ਮੇਰੇ ਭੱਖਸ਼ੱਕ ਬਣ ਗਏ।
ਕੀਹਦੇ ਕੋਲ ਮੈ ਤਰਲਾ ਪਾਉਦੀ
ਕਾਸ਼ ਕਿਤੇ ਨਾ ਏਦਾਂ।।।।

ਇਸ ਦੇਸ਼ ਵਿਚ ਜਨਮ ਲੈਣਾ
ਕਾਹਤੋ ਮੇਰੇ ਲੇਖੀ ਆਇਆ।
ਦੇਵੀ ਮਾਂ ਦੀ ਪੂਜਾ ਕਰਦੇ
ਅਾਪਣੀ ਧੀਅ ਨੂੰ ਮਾਰ ਮੁਕਾਇਆ।
ਮੈ ਮਰ ਜਾਣੀ ਬੇਜੁਬਾਨ ਸੀ
ਕਿਵੇ ਮੈ ਆਪਣਾ ਹਾਲ ਸੁਣਾਉਦੀ।
ਕਾਸ਼ ਕਿਤੇ ਨਾ ਏਦਾਂ।।।।।

ਮੈਨੂੰ ਜਿਉਦੀ ਗੱਡਦੇ ਰਹੇ ਨੇ
ਜੰਗਲਾ ਦੇ ਵਿੰਚ ਛੱਡਦੇ ਰਹੇ ਨੇ।
ਮੈਨੂੰ ਪੈਰ ਦੀ ਜੁੱਤੀ ਅਾਖਣ
ਕਲਮੂਹੀ ਤੇ ਕੁੱਤੀ ਆਖਣ।
ਅਜਲਾਂ ਤੋ ਮੈ ਮਰਦੀ ਆਈ
ਫਿਰ ਵੀ ਰਹੀ ਹਾਂ ਵਫਾ ਕਮਾਉਦੀ।
ਕਾਸ਼ ਕਿਤੇ ਨਾ ਏਦਾਂ ।।।।।

ਮਾਏ ਨੀ ਮੇਰੀ ਨਾਨੀ ਦੇ ਘਰ
ਤੂੰ ਵੀ ਸੀ ਕਦੇ ਧੀਅ ਬਣ ਜੰਮੀ।
ਕੁੱਖ ਵਿਚ ਮਾਰ ਮੁਕਾਵਣ ਵਾਲੀ
ਫਿਰ ਕਿਉ ਕੀਤੀ ਗੱਲ ਨਿੰਕਮੀ।
ਕਿਉ ਨਾ ਤੇਰੇ ਅਥਰੂ ਡਿੱਗੇ
ਜਦ ਸੀ ਤੂੱ ਇਹ ਪਾਪ ਕਮਾਉਦੀ।
ਕਾਸ਼ ਕਿਤੇ ਨਾ ਏਦਾਂ।।।॥।

ਕਿੱਥੇ ਹੈ ਉਹ ਬਾਬਾ ਨਾਨਕ
ਜਿਸਨੇ ਸੀ ਮੇਰੀ ਸਿਫਤ ਸੁਣਾਈ ।
ਆਪਣੇ ਹੀ ਬੱਚੇ ਖਾਵਣ ਲੱਗ ਪਈ
ਐਸੀ ਸੀ ਉਹਨੇ ਕੌਮ ਬਣਾਈ।
ਪੁੱਤ ਦੀ ਖਾਤਿਰ ਦੁਨੀਆ "ਪਰਗਟ"
ਕਦ ਤੱਕ ਰਹੂ ਧੀਅ ਦੀ ਬਲੀ ਚੜਾਉਦੀ।

ਕਾਸ਼ ਕਿਤੇ ਨਾ ਏਦਾ ਹੁੰਦੀ
ਮੈ ਵੀ ਸ਼ਾਇਦ ਪੈਦਾ ਹੁੰਦੀ।
।।।।ਪਰਗਟਜੀਤ ਸੰਧੂ ।।।॥

02/07/2016

At present our non profit organization is helping 180 girl students spread over many colleges and some high and higher secondary schools in 4 districts of Punjab. Rupees 1000 per month for the college students and 500 for the School going girls does not pay all their expenses but it does help substantially. At least it gives an assurance to those parents who dared to give birth to daughters and are raising them as good as they can.I have given free hand to all these girls that whenever they have any problem they can make a missed call to me and I will call them back to save their calling charges. Although I have told them about the time difference between India and the US yet quite often they call me between midnight and 3 am.
Today I started my day answering one such call. A young lady who is going to finish her BA degree in May 2016 wants to study further but the father insists that she should not study further because he cannot afford any more." After all what is the use of higher education anyway, all you are going to do is Bake Rotis which you can do all right with your present education" was father`s logic."You are marriageable and a big source of worry for me, I want you to get married and go to your own house" was the second reasoning. I talked to the girl at length . She told me all the details about the family. Her younger sister who has passed +2 and was just sitting at home not doing much . She also wanted to go to college but family finances stood in between.
After knowing all the facts i told the girl to give the phone to her father. He explained to me all the financial hardships he is going thru . I asked him what are you going to do ?. I will first get married the older one and then the younger one and have this load off my shoulders. How much dowry you are going to give ? Dekho ji kuch na kuch ta karna hi pawega Dhee nu khali hath ta tor nahin sakde. Zmane da riwaz ju hoia.
Who makes these customs. When there were no DJ`s, Commercial singers and dancers, Marriage Places, Per plate servers , Band Wajas even then people did get married. Who is adding more to this list of items in a wedding ? Who made it necessary to shoot live ammunition in the air ? I asked him a long list of relevant questions and then it was his turn to speak.
Sardar ji some people in this country have a lot of money. Mostly it is black money, if they spend anywhere else they get caught so they spend on lavish weddings. How much black money money you have? Kithe ji main ta ik rice sheller wich munshi an. Bajhi tankhah mildi aa jis nal masan guzara chalda hai.
I felt that now the iron is hot to give some good blows of logical hammer. The hard earned money which you are ready to spend on modern wedding, why do`nt you spend on the education of both the girls. A rupee spent on their education will bring return of 1000 rupees during their lifetime. Money spent on dowry and wedding will bring B***e B***e for a day and misery afterwards for you and your daughter. Dowry opens the door to further demands for money and gifts by the in laws. There is shortage of girls in Punjab. 856 girls for 1000 boys. If you open your eyes a little wider you can find a groom and a family which will be more than willing to accept your daughters as their daughter in laws without any dowry. You can do a simple wedding in a Gurdwara and serve the food in Langar.. This kind of marriages are happening and are more successful than the lavish ones.
In a nutshell my counselling session worked on him and he was thankful for the advice, in the end. He said he will send the second daughter to the college too and not save money for wedding. In my next trip to India in SEPT- OCTOBER I will see him in person and reinforce what we talked on the phone. This is just one of the many hats I have to wear as founder president of this organization. When I succeed in changing someone`s mind on these socioeconomic problems hurting our society I feel that I am not only wearing hat only I have added a feather into it too.

Kuldeep S Sra
President, Dheean Pukardian Inc
USA based public charity working to help born and unborn daughters of India

01/28/2016

My three brothers live in Michigan state and I travel to that state very often. My brother told me that one family in Battlecreek Michigan has four daughters and no son yet and they are going to celebrate Lohri for the youngest girl who is about a year old. This kind of awakening was a dream come true for me and my NGO Dheean Pukardian Inc. I was very excited to join this rare celebration but the weather turned very bad and I could not travel to Battlecreek on that day. I sent them a note which I would like to share with along with some pictures of the celebration.

01/12/2016

ਕੌਣ ਹੈ ਜੋ ਮਰ ਗਿਆ ,
ਤੇ
ਕੋਣ ਸੂਲੀ ਚੜ੍ਹ ਗਿਆ ,
ਰਾਮ ਰਾਜੀਆਂ ਦੇ ਦੇਸ਼ ਵਿੱਚ ,
ਕੌਣ
ਭੀਲਣੀ ਨੂੰ ਜੂਠੀ ਕਰ ਗਿਆ ...?

ਬਦਲੋ ਇਹ ਨਾਮ ਦੇਸ਼ ਦਾ ,
ਜਾਂ ਬਦਲੋ ਨਿਜ਼ਾਮ ਏਸ ਦਾ ,
ਕੌਣ ਦੇਵਤਿਆਂ ਦੀ ਧਰਤ ਤੇ ,
ਸੀਤਾ ਨੂੰ ਨੰਗੀ ਕਰ ਗਿਆ ... ?

ਪਹਿਲਾਂ ਇਹ ਦੇਹਾਂ ਭੋਗਦਾ ,
ਫਿਰ ਬੋਟੀਆਂ ਨੂੰ ਨੋਚਦਾ ,
ਕੋਲ ਖੜ੍ਹੇ ਸਭ੍ਹ ਵੇਖਦੇ , ਅੱਜ
ਰਾਮ ਤਮਾਸ਼ਾਈ ਬਣ ਗਿਆ ,
ਪਰਮਪਰਾ ਨੂੰ ਗੰਦੀ ਕਰ ਗਿਆ ,
ਧਰਮੀਆਂ ਦੀ ਧਰਤ ਦੀ ,
ਇਹ
ਕੌਣ ਹੈ ਜੋ ..
ਤਹਿਜ਼ੀਬ ਰੰਡੀ ਕਰ ਗਿਆ ...????

ਸੋਚੋ ਵੇ ਕਲਮਾਂ ਵਾਲਿਓ ,
ਸੋਚੋ ਵੇ ਨਜ਼ਮਾਂ ਵਾਲਿਓ ,
ਤੀਆਂ ਦੀ ਸੁੱਚੀ ਪੀਂਘ ਦਾ ,
ਰੱਸਾ ਕਿਓਂ ਫਾਹੀ ਬਣ ਗਿਆ ...???

ਸੋਚੋ ਵੇ ਦਰਦਾਂ ਵਾਲਿਓ ,
ਸੋਚੋ ਵੇ ਅਣਖਾਂ ਵਾਲਿਓ ,
ਸ਼ਗਨਾਂ ਦੀ ਚੁੰਨੀ ਚੀਰ ਕੇ ,
ਇਹ ਕੋਣ ਸੂਲੀ ਚੜ੍ਹ ਗਿਆ ...???

ਸੋਚੋ ਵੇ ਯਤਨਾਂ ਵਾਲਿਓ ,
ਸੋਚੋ ਵੇ ਵਤਨਾਂ ਵਾਲਿਓ ,
ਰਾਮ ,ਰਹੀਮ ,
ਨਾਨਕ ਦੀ ਸੁੱਚੀ ਧਰਤ ਤੇ ,
ਸੱਚ ਮੁੱਚ ਹੀ ਕੌਣ ਅੱਜ ਮਰ ਗਿਆ ...???

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ਜਸਮੇਰ ਸਿੰਘ ਲਾਲ ,
11/01/2015

01/12/2016

"ਮੇਰੀ ਨੰਨੀ ਬੱਚੀ !
ਤੇਰੀ ਮਲੂਕ ਗੱਲ੍ਹ ਤੇ ਉੱਭਰੀ ਹੋਈ
ਆਪਣੇ ਕਠੋਰ ਹੱਥ ਦੀ ਲਾਸ ਦੇਖ ਕੇ
ਮੈਂ ਬਹੁਤ ਸ਼ਰਮਸ਼ਾਰ ਹਾਂ
ਮੈਨੂੰ ਮਾਫ਼ ਕਰ
ਮੈਂ ਤੇਰੀ ਗੁਨਾਹਗਾਰ ਹਾਂ

ਪਤਾ ਨਹੀਂ ਕਿਉਂ
ਮੈਂ ਤੇਰੀ ਉਮਰ ਤੇ ਸਮਰਥਾ ਦੇ ਉਲਟ
ਚਾਹੁੰਦੀ ਹਾਂ
ਕਿ ਤੂੰ
ਛੇਤੀ ਛੇਤੀ ਸਿੱਖ ਜਾਵੇਂ
ਊੜਾ, ਆੜਾ
ਕਾਇਦਾ, ਕਿਤਾਬ ਤੇ ਕਵਿਤਾ

ਤੇ ਜਾਣ ਜਾਵੇ:

ਮਰਦ ਮਾਇਨੇ ਹਕੂਮਤ
ਔਰਤ ਮਾਇਨੇ ਬੇਬਸੀ
ਝਾਂਜਰ ਮਾਇਨੇ ਬੇੜੀ
ਚੂੜੀ ਮਾਇਨੇ ਹਥਕੜੀ

ਤੈਨੂੰ ਇਹ ਵੀ ਪਤਾ ਲੱਗੇ
ਕਿ ਇਹਨਾਂ ਸ਼ਬਦਾਂ ਦੇ ਉਲਟੇ ਅਰਥ
ਕਿਸ ਨੇ ਅਤੇ ਕਿਉਂ ਬਣਾਏ ਨੇ

ਚਾਹੀਦਾ ਤਾਂ ਸੀ:

ਮਰਦ ਮਾਇਨੇ ਮੁਹੱਬਤ
ਔਰਤ ਮਾਇਨੇ ਵਫ਼ਾ
ਝਾਂਜਰ ਮਾਇਨੇ ਨ੍ਰਿਤ
ਚੂੜੀ ਮਾਇਨੇ ਅਦਾ

ਇਸੇ ਲਈ
ਮੈਂ ਚਾਹੁੰਦੀ ਹਾਂ
ਤੂੰ ਛੇਤੀ ਛੇਤੀ ਸਿੱਖ ਜਾਵੇਂ
ਊੜਾ, ਆੜਾ
ਕਾਇਦਾ, ਕਿਤਾਬ
ਤੇ ਕਵਿਤਾ

ਤੇ ਮੁਕਤ ਕਰ ਸਕੇਂ
ਸ਼ਬਦਾਂ ਨੂੰ
ਗ਼ਲਤ ਅਰਥਾਂ ਦੀ ਕੈਦ ‘ਚੋਂ
ਲੜ ਸਕੇਂ
ਸ਼ਬਦਾਂ ਦੇ
ਸਹੀ ਅਰਥਾਂ ਲਈ ||" _______ ਸੁਖਵਿੰਦਰ ਅੰਮ੍ਰਿਤ

12/18/2015

http://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2015/12/13/457409865/why-this-boy-started-helping-his-sister-with-chores-15girls

All his life, Aniket Sathe has been taught that men rule the world. He lives in India, one of the worst countries for women. Now a new class is changing his attitude.

01/16/2015

January 14. Maghi
Maghi is beginning of the month of Magh in Desi calendar. Most of the schools and colleges were closed so I could not visit any. With my uncle I went around the village and met my old friends and relatives . I met one lady who is a distant relative from my father side and is in her eighties. She is blind from both eyes , she lives alone in a one room house, does her own cooking on the open fire, her house was cleaner than any other house on the village and above all she also is a village moneylender . She figures out the denomination of the paper bills by feeling the thickness of the bill. She was very happy to meet me after 63 years and showered me with her blessings innumerable times. I was touched by her love and enthusiasm for others. Age and blindness did not diminish her love for life . Leaving the comfortable house of my sister , on a farm around Chandigarh and go to Dhaulpur was an adventure in itself . At my host's house , cell phone was the only source of light
If you want to use the bath room . I have some more details to add but cannot keep my eyes open. I do not have wi Fi at this place and my IPhone is the only functional gadget I have it with me.I will entertain you more in the morning
Kuldeep s Sra

01/16/2015

January 13 , 2015
It was Lohri today . A relative was visiting us at Chandigarh. I used the empty seat and went to Amritsar on way Dhaulpur via Batala. Today officially it was Lohri festival but there was nothing Lohri like . There were no groups of boys going from house to house singing Sunder mondrie. Ho..,..., there were public bone fires smell of gur in the air. Lohri has shrank to some mere rituals within the families but nothing like it used to be . We did burn some til seeds on the fire before going to bed and early in the morning ate some kheer made with rice and sugarcane juice along with some yogurt and khichri and that concluded the Lohri celebration . We the visiting NRI s feel the change in society in a year or two years long jumps while the Resident Indians at a gradual pace and do not feel its intensity

01/09/2015

Today at Chandigarh with the help of my friend Shree Krishan Kamboj I purchased Tata docomo Photon Max wi-fi data card and am waiting for its activation. Then I was interviewed by The Tribune reporter Mr Sarbjit Dhaliwal and he told me that the interview about Dheean Pukardian will be printed in the Sunday issue of the paper on January 18th. I also got an invitation from PTC channel reporter and that appearance will be on Monday January 12th I am all set to go to Punjab and meet the previously sponsored girls and meet new ones too. I am receiving emails from the Principals of Schools and colleges and all of them are waiting for my visit yo their schools. I will share all of my experiences with you in next posts
Kuldeep S Sra

01/06/2015

yesterday it was partly sunny and somewhat tolerable but today it is miserably cold I had plans to go out for my usual 4 KM walk on steep road and then take shower.. Looks like both plans are in jeopardy. Modem has given up emitting any Wi Fi signal and wired internet is frustratingly slow. I have been searching about the colleges and high schools in district Gurdaspur. Based on my impression I have made a short list of five colleges.
1 Sikh national college Qadian
2 Govt college Gurdaspur
3 Govt college Kala Afgana
4 Baba Aya Singh Riarki Girls college Tugalwala
5 Bebe Nanki Khalsa College Dhariwal

Now I will write emails to them, make appointments with them and visit these colleges. Talk to the staff and students of both genders.
Tell the suggested girls to write essays on the subject of gender tested female foeticide and the resulting gender imbalance out of it.
I will keep you posted .. Please log into this page and stay in touch with our mission.
Kuldeep S Sra

01/04/2015

I am back in India to carry my mission forward through our non profit organization , a public charity established in Naperville Illinois USA. Our twin mission is to spread the awareness about gender tested female foeticide and gender in equality in most spheres of daily life. We believe that empowering girls and women through education and employable skills is the only way to achieve this goal . With the genrous help of our donors in the US , at this time we at Dheean Pukardian Inc are helping 90 girl students with their education , among them 28 are in the colleges. I arrived at Delhi on January 1st only 2 hours after the beginning of new year 2015. During my this 2 months long trip I will travel through Punjab ,meeting the previously sponsored girls, go to more High and Higher secondary schools and colleges and share my views with the staff and the Students of both genders . While traveling I will take you along through my posts on this page .
Kuldeep s Sra