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06/10/2026

💔Dishearteningly, this is my present
emotional state.
l have entirely relinquished all hope and accepted that I will never again play a role in my four daughters' lives.
It has been 14 years, which is ample time.
I am done.
I no longer regard myself as a parent or even acknowledge having had children.🩷💙💚💜😭😭😭😭💔💔💔💔

06/10/2026

06/10/2026

💔Dishearteningly, this is my present emotional state. I have entirely relinquished all hope and accepted that I will never again play a role in my four daughters' lives. It has been 14 years, which is ample time. I am done. I no longer regard myself as a parent or even acknowledge having had children.🩷💙💚💜😭😭😭😭💔💔💔💔

06/04/2026

📘 Today I am sharing an excerpt from my upcoming memoir, BJs & Breast Cancer.

This is not a traditional memoir. It is raw, emotional, unfiltered, and uniquely told through real experiences, reflections, symbolism, artwork, humor, heartbreak, and truth.

It is a story about far more than breast cancer and yes, bjs. It is about survival, betrayal, healing, resilience, faith, and finding yourself again after life breaks you apart. 📘⤵️

“Love protects.❤️
Love supports.❤️
Love listens.❤️
Love comforts.❤️
Love gives peace.❤️

For years I kept trying to save relationships that were draining the life out of me emotionally while my body simultaneously struggled to drain physical toxins.🤮😩🤮

Now I finally understand the connection.💡

My healing requires release.🎣😉

Release of toxic people.🤮
Release of toxic relationships.🤮
Release of toxic chaos.🤮
Release of toxic patterns.💜
Release of emotional abuse.💜
Release of emotional instability.
Release of guilt.
Release of constantly trying to explain myself to people committed to misunderstanding me.🙃

I finally understand that protecting my peace is not selfish.🙏🏻🏝️🎨🎣

It is survival.🩷

God gave me one life.🙏🏻
One body.🙏🏻
One spirit.🙏🏻

And after everything I have survived physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually, I no longer owe anyone access to my peace, my healing, my heart, or my energy if all they bring into my life is toxicity.

I have a God-given right to follow my own path and not listen to the negative chatter constantly spoken into my ears by people who do not understand my heart, my intentions, my trauma, or my truth.

I know in my heart that I am on MY right path.

And God keeps sending me signs confirming that.🪙🪶🪽🪙

For the first time in a very long time, I am finally choosing myself.

I am choosing healing.💙
I am choosing peace.💙
I am choosing emotional safety.💙
I am choosing truth.💙
I am choosing calm.💙
I am choosing relationships, love, and friendships that uplift me instead of destroy me.💙

And just like my body is trying to flush out toxins to survive physically, I am finally flushing the toxic people, toxic chaos, toxic pain, toxic relationships, toxic patterns, and toxic emotional suffering out of my life too.😁🌺💕🛥️🎨🏝️

That is not weakness.

That is survival.
That is courage.
That is healing.

And that is finally learning my worth.🩷💙💚💜😇🪽🙏🏻🐾🐾”
~~ Debra L. Alms 💙

06/04/2026

If you've ever loved someone who slowly destroyed everything you built together…

I used to think the greatest pain was being betrayed.
I was wrong.
The greatest pain is realizing you gave your whole heart to someone who never valued it.
I trusted him.I believed his promises.I built a future around his words.
While I was fighting for our family...he was tearing it apart behind closed doors.
For a long time, I thought he broke me.
But healing taught me something different.
He didn't destroy me.
He destroyed the version of me that accepted less than I deserved.
The woman who stayed too long.The woman who kept forgiving.The woman who forgot her own worth.
Today, I don't hate him.
Because every lie, every tear, every sleepless night forced me to become stronger than I ever imagined.
Now I'm rebuilding my life.Not for revenge.Not for validation.
For me.For my children.For the future we deserve.
And that's something no one can ever take away.

You never know who needs this reminder toda

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