01/15/2018
While information about medical breakthroughs are great, I realize they may be of little interest to many. So I am going to try to share more practical, useful information about Alzheimers, that hopefully can help those dealing with a new normal.
Do's and Dont's when visiting someone with Alzheimer's (From personal experience, as well as reading and research I have done with the Alzheimer's Association)
1. Do visit. Do not make the assumption just because they have forgotten your name that there's no point in visiting, don't forget about them.
2. Introduce yourself when entering the room "Hey Dad, it's me, your daughter Jo." Don't ask "who am I/ what's my name" kind of questions. It can cause agitation and embarrassment when they can't recall a name.
3 Do not overwhelm with too many visitors at once. 1 or 2 visitors is just about right.
4. Sit at their eye level and make eye contact. Do not stand and tower above them, as it can be frightening or intimidating.
5 Do not correct their memories or argue with something they say. Even if you change their mind, it will be a fleeting moment.
6. Do not force conversation, it is okay to sit in comfortable silence.
7. Ask open-ended questions with no right or wrong answer.
8. It's great to give hugs but remember, they may have forgotten who you are, so it's best to ask first if it's okay.
9. Accept their reality as long as it's not harmful to them or anyone else. Dad used to look out the window and imagine seeing his sister on the roof of a barn. He would scold her and say he was going to tell his mom. It did not harm him or me to let him believe that's what he was seeing, instead I made a joke of it and changed the subject.
10. If your loved one asks about a family member that has passed away, it is not necessary to tell that love one again and again about the death. It can lead to repeated agitation and trauma. It is better to change the subject and move on if it all possible.