10/09/2026
Coercive control isn't always physical.
Domestic violence is often thought of as physical abuse, but many survivors experience a pattern of behaviors called coercive control long before physical violence occurs.
Coercive control is a form of abuse where one partner uses manipulation, intimidation, isolation, monitoring, and control to dominate the other person's life. The goal is to take away a victim's independence, freedom, and sense of self.
π© What coercive control can look like:
Constantly checking your phone, messages, or location
Isolating you from friends, family, or support systems
Controlling finances or access to money
Monitoring where you go and who you talk to
Making threats to harm you, children, pets, or themselves
Dictating what you wear, eat, or how you spend your time
Gaslighting you into questioning your memory or reality
Using jealousy, guilt, or fear to maintain power
Over time, coercive control can leave survivors feeling trapped, anxious, and afraid to make decisions without their partner's approval.
π Domestic violence is about power and control, not just physical violence. Recognizing coercive control is an important step in supporting survivors and preventing abuse from escalating.
If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse, help is available. You are not alone.