Mother Lovers MKE

08/12/2023

Parents of children with ASD, SPD, ADHD, special needs of any and all kinds, "disabilities".....

If you need support find a support group. If you are struggling talk with their team or your disability rights specialist..... There are so many ways to get education and support but PLEASE STOP framing your child's diagnosis in a negative way. How the hell would you feel to see a video or post from your parents riddled with words like "autistic" or "disabled" inserted before your name? How would you feel if someone shared private/personal things about you without your permission?

When you repeatedly use certain words it's hard to see anything else. When you cry, share about struggling with behaviors or symptoms you are telling your child something IS WRONG WITH THEM when in fact, they are just as they should be!

Please respect your children's rights and privacy. Know what your child is comfortable with (I have always tried to frame these different needs in a positive way while empowering my kids to use their abilities and differences in a way that works for them. My kids all have different levels of comfortability with labels, diagnosis,etc)

I understand having that parenting is overwhelming sometimes and it's ok to share but be mindful I'm where and how you are sharing.

Discrimination, misinformation, abelism and stigmas are out there but our job is to teach them self-love, self-respect, self-reliance, self-esteem, etc and we do that by finding ways around all the bu****it.

08/12/2023

08/11/2023

The Kids and I have been viewing these sculptures all over Milwaukee and I highly recommend the exhibit to anyone interested in art!

08/10/2023

MILWAUKEE (CBS 58) -- Milwaukee County leaders are continuing to address the opioid epidemic, as overdose numbers keep rising across the country. There were 667 overdose deaths in Milwaukee County in 2022.

06/20/2023

Honesty- Being a single parent of multiple kids is fu***ng exhausting! It is even more hellish when you don't have family or a strong support system!

"I can't" or "I give up" is not an option.

People think we are just super human but the truth is- I don't know how I do it either, It's not a choice. Some nights I tip toe to the bathroom and ugly cry in the shower for 5 hours. Other nights I'm asleep at 8:30.

MotherLovers MKE Group page is all about building a support system or strengthening The one that you do have!

It's dedicating time and energy to encourage and support other parents and people in the community while being able to ask for help when you need it. I know I've been horrible with routinely checking in on this page but that is going to be changing and I hope that we can build up our social media following as well as our community members!

From one tired mama to another ✌️😘

04/17/2023

May- MotherLovers MKE Group page Mother Lovers MKE

May brings flowers... AND our very first support meeting! ALL are welcome. Meetings are always a SAFE SPACE. A lot of people have suffered trauma through a broken system. A lot of people have suffered abuse or trauma coming from people they *thought* loved them so please understand this is a place of encouragement and support NOT bullying, judging or any other cruelty!

So the official date hasn't been decided yet, but we are narrowing down the dates! Support, resources, sharing, encouragement are all coming in abundance!

♥️

03/01/2023

"self care is care. You can't pour from an empty cup! Be gentle with yourself" I say to every other overworked underappreciated women I know while the physical and mental exhaustion overwhelm me. "Suck it up Buttercup, Don't be such a whiny bitch" I catch myself saying in my head.

Most Women Know that we can't put in 73 hours a day when the days have significantly less hours.

We push ourselves, we engage in negative self talk, we beat the s**t out of our own bodies and minds. Work, kids, errands, households, school, elderly parents or neighbors, volunteering, etc...

Personally I know all the psychology. I tell my clients that we have to love ourselves and know what we need to survive, thrive, be mentally and physically healthy. Every now and then I trip up. I see the warning signs mentally and physically. I ignore them and make excuses to myself that "so and so needs me" or "I'll sleep 6 hours tomorrow to make it up" I never ever get that sleep 🤣🤣🤣

I will treat myself the way I would tell any other woman to treat herself. I will remind myself the world won't be changed if I go to bed when I am tired instead of when I'm "done cleaning/working/etc"

09/02/2022

Welcome everyone! I apologize for the ridiculously long wait for this page. I want to clarify the group is called Mother Lovers but ALL are welcome. I have so many reasons why I started this group- I am sick of Mom's always feeling like we have to be perfect, the judgy s**t that goes on (Well, MY son was walking at 3 weeks and speaking 12 languages by 6 months old) I have been a mother 21 years (more then half my life) I know Mom's feel this need to be perfect.... We are expected to work full time, keep a picture perfect Pinterest house, volunteer, work out, cook healthy meals, take our kids to school, sports, therapy, doctors appointments... And somehow between all this s**t we are encouraged to "Make time for ourselves" sleep 7 hours a night (or whatever the recommended amount of sleep is these days)

I am outspoken and will be the first to say as a Mom - I am completely fu***ng winging it and I absolutely have no confidence in myself. I constantly worry about discipline, education, health, personality (Hey look I just don't want to raise hateful, cruel, selfish humans. That's pretty much my goal)

So let's be fu***ng honest. New mom's who have only been in the game a few weeks, months, years.... It doesn't matter. Every kid and every stage is different. The more experienced older mom's (ummm, hello? I may be a Grandma but I'm about 18 months from hitting 40 and let me tell you.... I do not FEEL 38.

I'm a single Mama of 6. I have 5 Absolutely amazing daughters 1 amazing Son stuck in the middle. I have 2 gorgeous Granddaughters and a daughter who makes my heart swell with a sick amount of pride because she is just such an amazing Mom. I have kids with disabilities, mental health issues, behavior issues, elementary kids, middle school and high school kids. When I say I will NOT allow judgement on this page I mean it.

I am a certified Peer Support specialist and finishing my MSW. I have mental health issues (Don't we all though?) I am a recovering Drug addict. I am an advocate for Humans everywhere. I fight for what I believe in.

We can get into all this another time.

For now

I want to reiterate-
This group is meant as a support group for parents. This is a safe place and people will be allowed to be honest and share whatever they are comfortable sharing. There will be NO hate speech, NO cruel comments, NOTHING but support.

I am so excited to share some of our projects, volunteer ideas, fundraising, monthly meetings, etc

I would love to add some admins and anyone who you think will benefit from being here is welcome.
Love and strength to all the women out there....

✌️ You got this.... And if you don't? Well we are here.

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