10/08/2026
When you accept the reality of freedom, you experience a profound change for the better in your relationships. Freedom is critical for leadership and any other relationship, so here is a simple tool. Change the words you are saying or thinking about the person. Your new freedom starts when you pay attention to how often you use "should, ought, and must" or the negative versions "shouldn't, ought not, and must not." For example, suppose a person curses at you. If that happens, your natural tendency is to defend yourself. Unfortunately, that reacts and responds to their lousy values. Additionally, your thinking typically has some form of complaint about their behavior like, "what a jerk" or "that's unacceptable." Any statements like those, or if you curse back at them, is a "should not, ought not, or must not" statement about them or their behavior.
When you accept the reality of freedom, you experience a profound change for the better in your relationships. Freedom is critical for leadership and any other