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Herds R Us 4H Club We are a 4H club from New Haven county. A UConn 4-H program The members of this club show cows and sheep.

We show at the 4H fair, Wolcott fair, Chester fair, Haddem Neck fair, North Haven fair, BigE, Durham fair, Berlin fair, and sometimes Portland fair. this club is family based but we are accepting to others who aren't family.

10/08/2026

I think it’s time we had a conversation about sportsmanship, supporting each other and the culture we want within our agricultural industry.

I don't write this on behalf of any breed group or stud - I speak for no-one other than myself.

Deep breath 🫁....

I’ve been really disappointed by some of the lack of sportsmanship I’ve witnessed and heard around the cattle sheds/shows this year.

This isn’t about one result, one breed or one person. I’ve heard similar stories from exhibitors, spectators and breeders across the spectrum.

It is not fair, kind or constructive to say the judge is playing favourites.

That the judge is biased.

That the judge is judging the handler and not the animal.

That a smaller stud doesn't deserve the credit for a win because it's "easier" for them.

That someone only won because of who they are, who they know, where they come from, or some other conspiracy that makes it easier to explain a result you don't agree with.

That's all bu****it.

The judges appointed to these positions at Royal Shows are experienced cattle people who have been selected because they have the knowledge and ability to assess cattle.

And here’s the uncomfortable part:
Sometimes the judge sees something you don't.

We all have blinkers on when it comes to our own cattle. We love them. We bred them. We raised them. We’ve spent countless hours feeding, training, washing, clipping and preparing them.

Every animal has faults. Every animal has strengths.

And sometimes the difference between winning and not winning can come down to structure, balance, movement, finish, preparation, presentation or simply what the judge values on that particular day.

That's showing cattle.

You don't have to agree with the judge.

You don't have to like the result.

But you should be able to accept it with some resemblance of grace and congratulate the person who won.

Because here's another thing we seem to forget:

There is a person on the end of every halter.

Someone who has probably spent months — sometimes years — breeding, feeding, training and preparing that animal.

Someone who might have sacrificed weekends, family time, money and sleep to get there.

Someone who might be standing in that ring having the best day of their showing career.

You don't have to take that away from them because you think your animal should have won.

And this isn't just about the show ring..Our industry is hard enough as it is.

We have changing legislation, increasing regulation, climate challenges, rising costs, market pressures and a whole heap of uncertainty to navigate.

We need each other.
We need good breeders.
We need good exhibitors.
We need people investing in genetics.
We need young people coming through.
We need people prepared to have a go.

And we need people who are willing to share knowledge, lend a hand and celebrate someone else's success.

When I started showing cattle nearly 20 years ago, I remember an incredible amount of support from people who were happy to help, teach, give advice and genuinely see you succeed.

Somewhere along the way, it feels like we've started confusing someone else's success with our own failure. And I don't think that's healthy.

The more someone invests in improving their cattle, their breeding program, their preparation, their presentation, their knowledge or their business, the better our industry becomes as a whole.

Someone else getting better doesn't make you worse. And someone else winning doesn't mean you have failed.

If anything, use it as an opportunity to look at their animal and ask:
- What did the judge see?
- What can I learn from that?
- What can I do better next time?
- What genetics is that exhibitor using that could help my program?

That's how we improve.

Tall poppy syndrome isn't uniquely Australian, but it certainly seems to have found a comfortable home here.

And trying to discredit someone because they're doing well isn't sportsmanship.

It isn't constructive criticism. It's downright bloody rude.

And quite frankly, it isn't good for our industry.

So this is my gentle-but-not-so-gentle reminder:

Be kind. Be gracious. Be supportive.

Congratulate the winner. Learn from the result.

Have a b**r afterwards and complain to your mates if you really need to 😂 — we've all done it. But don't stand around the shed, around the ring or online trying to tear someone else down because you didn't get the result you wanted.

We can be proud of our own cattle while still being genuinely happy for someone else's success.

If this rings true to you, then pull your head in. Have some perspective. Show a bit of bloody sportsmanship.

We're all supposed to be in this together. ❤️

The end.

Congratulations to everyone who participated in the 100th Middlesex & New Haven County 4-H Fair this past weekend! Celeb...
08/03/2026

Congratulations to everyone who participated in the 100th Middlesex & New Haven County 4-H Fair this past weekend! Celebrating 100 years is an incredible milestone, and it was amazing to see so much hard work, dedication, and community spirit on display.

With so many events happening throughout the weekend, we forgot to recognize a few of our outstanding members.

A huge congratulations to our Emily for Supreme Champion and Emma on Reserve Supreme Champion Dairy Cows—what an incredible accomplishment!

We also want to give a big shout-out to Russell for doing a great job in the tractor pulls. Your hard work and determination were great to watch!

Finally, congratulations to Delaney, Lexi, and Emily on your officer positions. Your leadership and countless hours of work played a major role in making this historic fair such a success.

We're so proud of all of you and everything you accomplished.

08/02/2026

Chin UP. Losing sucks, but being a poor loser sucks worse.

You have every right to be disappointed. If you poured months of early mornings, late nights, money, sacrifice, and hope into something, it should sting when it doesn’t end the way you imagined. But disappointment and entitlement are not the same thing.

The judge didn’t take something that belonged to you.
Another exhibitor didn’t steal your placing.
One set of results doesn’t invalidate the work you put in.

One of the most overlooked skills in this industry is learning how to lose without making everyone else carry your frustration.

Congratulate the people who had a great day. Thank the people who invested their time in judging you. Load your trailer, go home, and ask better questions than, “Why wasn’t it me?”

Ask, “What did today’s winners do that I can learn from?”

Study this industry long enough and you’ll see that the exhibitors who improve the fastest aren’t always the most naturally talented, they’re the ones who can separate their ego from the outcome long enough to let the outcome teach them.

Someday you’ll have a great day in the ring, too. When that happens, the respect you earned after your losses will mean far more than the banner you’re holding ever will.

07/21/2026

If you want to find the biggest bullies at a county fair, don't look in the show ring.

Look in the stands.

I'm not talking about the kids. I'm talking about the adults.

Today I texted my friend to congratulate her on her family's success at their county fair. Her son earned Supreme Champion Heifer. She told me that immediately after his win, a woman walked up to him, looked him in the eye, and told him he didn't deserve it.

Think about that for a minute.

An adult. Speaking to a child. Trying to take away one of the biggest moments of his young life.

That makes my blood boil.

Let's be honest. Livestock judging has always been subjective. There isn't a single judge who has ever pleased everyone standing around the ring. That's part of showing livestock.

Telling a child they didn't deserve to win is not.

If you have a problem with the results, have that conversation with your spouse on the drive home. Talk to your friends over a hamburger after the show.

But leave the kids out of it.

One of the things I love most about 4-H is its pledge: “…My Head to clearer thinking, My Heart to greater loyalty, My Hands to larger service, and My Health to better living….”

Choosing to tear down a young exhibitor doesn't demonstrate clearer thinking. It doesn't show greater loyalty to our youth. It isn't service. And it certainly doesn't help create the kind of positive environment 4-H works so hard to build.

So here's my challenge.

If you're an adult at a livestock show, act like one. The kids are watching every conversation, every Facebook post, every eye roll, and every comment you make under your breath. Whether we realize it or not, we're teaching them what sportsmanship looks like.

And if you feel the need to bully someone, at least pick on somebody your own age.

Actually, here's an even better idea.

Don't pick on anyone at all.

County fairs should be where kids build confidence, friendships, and memories they'll carry for the rest of their lives. Let's make sure the adults aren't the reason those memories are ruined.

07/03/2026

Hey young showpeople!

Remember, every animal deserves respect and gentle handling, whether they're going home with you or moving to their next chapter. Treat your animal with patience - they're nervous too! Remember, they're your partner in this journey.

06/19/2026
Come out today, June 14th, for another Calf Selfie day!  📸 🐮 Come out to Greenbacker's Brookfield Farm, between 11 and 3...
06/14/2026

Come out today, June 14th, for another Calf Selfie day! 📸 🐮 Come out to Greenbacker's Brookfield Farm, between 11 and 3 to take adorable pics with the Beautiful Bovine Babies!! Say “CHEESE” 🧀 with our adorable calves! We may have a couple tractors to check out also. Proceeds of this selfie fundraiser will benefit our 4-H club, based out of Durham, CT. Snacks and drinks will also be for sale. Cash or Venmo accepted! If you can’t make it, you can still donate on Venmo, -Groves-6
(Bring a phone or camera to capture your adorable selfies!)

06/05/2026

On Sunday we are 1 week away from hosting another Calf Selfie day! 📸 🐮 Come out to Greenbacker's Brookfield Farm on June 14th between 11 and 3 to take adorable pics with the Beautiful Bovine Babies!! Say “CHEESE” 🧀 with our adorable calves! We may have a couple tractors to check out also. Proceeds of this selfie fundraiser will benefit our 4-H club, based out of Durham, CT. Snacks and drinks will also be for sale. Cash or Venmo accepted!
(Bring a phone or camera to capture your adorable selfies!)

Hope to see you all there!!
04/22/2026

Hope to see you all there!!

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