PAL/Parents of Addicted Loved Ones Grant County

02/12/2024

PAL will no longer be meeting on Monday evenings at Bethel Worship Center due to lack of attendance. If you are interested in meeting to learn how to restore joy to your life during your loved ones addiction please reach out. You are not alone.

09/21/2023

So true!

👇🏼True👇🏼

The jury is still out on exactly why some become addicted to chemicals and some don’t.

There are theories:
~ One theory says that drugs cause a chemical imbalance in the brain for some and not others.
~ Another says that addiction is a disease that some have and some don’t.
~ Yet another theory states that addiction stems from a state of despair.

I don’t know with certainty what causes one to succumb to chemical dependency and another to overcome, or if it matters how they got there, but I do know this: it’s not from moral failure.

Substance use disorder isn’t about being a ‘bad’ person. No matter how one arrives at chemical dependency, once there, it is a sickness that requires healing.

And it’s not just the user that needs healing; it’s the whole family.

No matter how your loved-one arrived at a desperate place, we are here to help you deal with it.

Parents who are struggling with having a loved-one who is suffering from this malady can find education, hope and healing at a free, PAL local parent support meeting.

We’re here to help.

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08/26/2023

You are not Parents with an adult child dealing with substance use disorder involving either drugs or alcohol find hope and support through Parents of Addicted Loved Ones (PAL). Meetings are available all over the country, and lives are being changed every day. It’s not an easy journey, but you do...

10/25/2022

PAL will not meet next Monday, October 31st.

09/10/2022

Love them while they learn how to save themselves.

ONLY they can save themselves.
When they have a change of heart.
When they want to.
When they are ready.

Love is manifest in learning about addiction so you can see the desperation of your loved one, and learn to be kind without enabling.

Love is getting support so you can understand how others are making it through this, and how you can too.

Love is helping only toward healing and wholeness.

If you need guidance in these ways to love, come to a PAL free parent support meeting near you.

We’re here to help.

08/22/2022

PAL will NOT be meeting on Labor Day, September 5th. Please feel free to reach out if you need support. You are not alone!

We meet on Mondays at 7:30!

07/26/2022

We are only responsible for our choices.

At PAL, we hear about self-blame and grief all the time.

Often, parents take full responsibility for their addicted son or daughter becoming a substance user.

“If only I had…” , “If only we hadn’t…”,
Friends, that’s just not truth.

There are endless stories of people coming out of horrible circumstances, and becoming whole, healthy, successful people.

There are also the most loving, caring, whole and healthy homes that have an addicted loved one under the roof.

Don’t make yourself crazy by assuming guilt for your loved one's condition, or by taking on the responsibility to “fix” your loved one. It won’t work.

In the end, you can only fix yourself. Grow, learn how to love without enabling, learn to treat you adult son or daughter as an adult, and care for yourself and the other members of your family who need you too.

I love this testimonial.
“PAL has given me my life back”.

Want a life again?
Need help with this?
No idea where to start?
Need support?

PAL can come alongside and be your champion.

We’re here to help.

07/21/2022

As parents of addicted loved ones, we have to make the choice to change our behavior. It’s the best thing I have ever done for my children.

I’m guessing you’ve heard this saying before. I have.

Have you ever applied it to how you interact with your addicted loved one?

Maybe you’re the most loving parent. You just can’t bear to stop fixing, protecting, rescuing, controlling, getting angry….

What’s the result? Is it working? Is it helping your addicted loved one to stop using?

If you keep doing what you’re doing, do you think you’ll keep getting what you’re getting?

Maybe it’s time to try a new way.
What if you change your approach? What if you started treating your addicted loved one as an adult?

What if you encouraged her? What if you stopped rescuing, and fixing and controlling everything?

Maybe you could start getting different results?

Do you wonder if maybe it’s time?

PAL. We’re here to help.

07/19/2022

You are not alone.

07/19/2022

This is such a hard lesson for all of us… but this is where we find healing and freedom!

👇🏼True👇🏼
It’s called SURRENDER.

Surrender is not giving up.
Surrender is not giving in.
Surrender doesn’t mean giving up hope.
Surrender is a humble acknowledgment that I cannot fix or control this; that I cannot impose my will on another adult and call it ‘good or loving’.

Surrender can be hard, and can require a lot of personal work and growth to accomplish.

Surrender requires faith.
It requires we allow others - even our children - to be who they choose to be.

Need help learning how to surrender?
We can help you with that goal.

PAL. We’re here to help.

palgroup.org

05/10/2022

We meet on Monday evenings at 7:30. Bethel Worship Center in the fellowship center. Reach out… you are not alone.

Overwhelmed? Losing hope? Need ideas?
Here you go:

1- Get Knowledgeable
Read books. Learn about addiction.
We recommend Mike Speakman’s, The Four Seasons of Recovery.

2- Be Willing to Change
Some of your own beliefs, habits, and actions might not be helping your addicted loved one.

3- Accept Help
Attend a PAL parent support meeting. Support from other parents walking the same journey is priceless.

4- Release Control
Refuse to take responsibility for your loved one’s behavior. This is an ongoing process.

5- Choose Hope
It is a daily, conscious decision to believe that change can happen, and to look forward with hope to that day.

👉🏼 Are you working on any of these?
Have any we missed? Add them to the comments!

Learn how to apply these 5 steps and more at your local PAL meeting.

We’re here to help.

04/04/2022

True- Definitely TRUE!

👇🏼True! 👇🏼
Adult children need to be treated like adults.
Mike Speakman, in his book “Four Seasons of Recovery,” shares a simple quote:

“No consequences, no new learning. No new learning, no change.“

In the substance use disorder world, no change means the problem will grow.

Attend a PAL free parent support group near you to learn more ways to help your adult child.
We’re here to help.
Find a support group at palgroup.org > find a meeting.