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06/03/2026

If you were to ask 1000 people the question what is more important…. What you know or how you feel more important?

Almost all would respond “how I feel is more important” The dilemma it seems is that as universally true as this is, where our wisdom truly lives we act and live out as though the cognitive level is more important.

Learning to deal with matters of the heart, dare, I say, are the most critical skills a person can learn. If we learned to live from a heart based posture--where our true wisdom lives versus our thinking minds--there would be less problems in marriage, social problems such as drinking and drugs would be less tempting and kindness would be far more common place.

So what's missing to access this beautiful place of wisdom within? 🤔

Intention. A simple and yet profound quieting of the thinking mind. Seeing storming thoughts as a rock machine that has a huge funnel at the top and if you have too many coming in at once they will get clogged. Learning to back off the thought process is the clearest way to access this intention and wisdom within.

Once practiced over and over the strength grow just like any other muscle. You become stronger in using your inner wisdom, refusing to be pulled from the divide and division the world so easily serves up.

Life is beautiful is this place. Will you embrace the journey?

06/01/2026

This month two very loud voices at least in the states will shout at each other. It’s become a common battle-ground month for most. It’s almost unavoidable unless you choose the Narrow Enlightened Path. That’s the invitation I want to extend to everyone this month, heck—all months. Climb and Walk with me, up a path in the middle of two divisional points.

The world is almost always dividing us into ‘us and them’ in every single way. Division sells, products are made for both sides to purchase, rallies are held for both sides to protest and come to, money is made by those who support one side or the other.

The path least traveled offers a place of Truth, Love, Mercy, Grace, and Goodness that neither side often understands. It is no respecter of persons, it offers to all the peace found within the climb and walk for those who take its route.

May you choose to walk this enlightened path—this month and all months, and not be drawn into the either -or- paradigm. OR the ‘us vs them’ paradigm.

There’s only one race in the world — the Human Race and we are all more alike than we are different.

Come walk and climb with me.

05/31/2026

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This book was not written from a mountaintop. It was written from the valley, in the dark, on mornings when the only thing I could do was pick up a pen and tell the truth. What you are about to read began as a private practice — daily devotional journaling through the letters of Paul, the Prover.....

05/27/2026

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05/25/2026

Finding Your True North is about discovering who you are when you knock the clay of the world off. It's about remembering you are the canvas and the brush and painter of your life. The hues are set by the lens you wear. You can see beauty or darkness and sometimes you will find that life will show you both. What you fix your eyes on determines the action you take based on the meaning you give something.
I consistently choose to see the good and the light. Not because all things that happen are good, but because I've determined life is not tragedy. It is not comedy and epic adventure. It is a constant feeding of the wolf within. 2 exists ..which shall you feed. Faith or fear. Which you feed ...grows.

05/21/2026

Speaking Truth in Love — Courage Without Cruelty
There are two ways to destroy a person with words.
The first is obvious: cruelty. Direct attack. Dismissal. The kind of speech that tears down rather than builds up, that aims to wound rather than heal.
The second is less discussed: false kindness. Telling someone what they want to hear rather than what they need to hear. Allowing a lie to continue because confronting it would be uncomfortable. Smiling and nodding while a person walks toward something that will hurt them, because you did not want to be the bearer of difficult news.
Love without truth is cruel. Truth without love is equally cruel. The fusion of the two is the only way that speech heals rather than harms.
Jesus modeled this with precision that we rarely acknowledge. He was gentle with the woman at the well — not condemning, genuinely curious about her life. He was blunt with the rich young ruler — naming directly the thing that stood between that young man and freedom. He was fiercest with the religious professionals who had made the house of God into a marketplace and burdened ordinary people with impossible requirements. He did not use the same approach with everyone because everyone was not in the same place.
Truth spoken in love must see the person first. It must care about where they are going more than about being right. It must be aimed at their flourishing rather than at the speaker's satisfaction of having said the difficult thing.
The tongue that brings healing is the tongue that has learned to hold these two things together simultaneously — honesty that does not abandon compassion, compassion that does not abandon honesty. This is the hardest balance in human communication, and it is the most important.

05/18/2026

Most of us spend years of our life sitting at stoplights.
More years sitting at work.
And nearly a third of our existence asleep.

Then somewhere in between the routines, the schedules, the bills, the obligations, and the scrolling… life quietly slips by unnoticed.

The deeper question isn’t just how you spend your time.
It’s who decided where your time goes.

Are you building a life that reflects who you truly are?
Or are you managing a system someone else handed you?

A lot of people are surviving patterns they never consciously chose.
Wake up. Work. Consume. Repeat.
Existing inside routines without ever stopping long enough to ask if the direction still aligns with their soul.

You were made for more than maintenance mode.

There’s a difference between living intentionally and simply reacting to whatever the day throws at you. One creates. The other manages.

So ask yourself honestly:

Whose life are you living?
The one you consciously create?
Or the one you’ve been conditioned to manage?

Every stoplight gives you a moment to think about it.

05/17/2026

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05/16/2026

“Life is suffering. That’s clear. There’s no more basic, irrefutable truth.” — Jordan Peterson
“Man needs difficulties; they are necessary for health.” — Carl Jung

What if the very thing you’ve been trying to escape is also the thing shaping you into who you are meant to become?

Most people say they don’t want problems, pain, or difficulty. But when you look honestly at history — and at your own life — suffering is often the birthplace of transformation.

Think about COVID. The technology for online grocery shopping, remote work, and telehealth already existed. But it took disruption, fear, uncertainty, and suffering to push society through resistance and into change. Pain became the catalyst for innovation.

The same is true personally.

Hardship reveals what comfort conceals.
Struggle exposes patterns.
Difficulty builds resilience.
Pressure forces growth.

The question is not whether suffering exists. It does. The real question is: What will suffering produce in you?

Bitterness or wisdom?
Isolation or compassion?
Collapse or transformation?

One of the greatest realizations is this: there is something greater than suffering — love.

Love is what allows us to see beyond pain. It reminds us that people are never only their worst moments. We are all light and shadow. We all carry wounds, fears, failures, and hopes. And when we begin seeing others through that lens, empathy starts replacing judgment.

The ancient philosophers understood something modern culture often forgets: meaning matters more than comfort. A meaningful life is not the absence of pain — it is having a direction worthy of enduring pain for.

If you don’t like where your life is headed, move. You are not a tree.

Your focus shapes your energy.
Your perspective shapes your reality.
Your response shapes your future.

The “I” can become the source of suffering when life revolves entirely around self-preservation. But it can also become the source of love when we choose to live beyond ourselves.

You may not control every event that happens to you.
But you always retain the power to choose your response.

Prompt:
What struggle in your life might actually be preparing you for something greater?

05/15/2026

Peterson wrote, “If you are not willing to be a fool, you can’t become a master.”
Jung wrote, “Everyone carries a shadow, and the less it is embodied in the individual’s conscious life, the blacker and denser it is.”

Both point toward the same truth: growth requires humility and honesty.

Doing anything meaningful in life begins with being willing to do it poorly at first. To stumble. To look uncertain. To risk appearing foolish while learning. What many call weakness is often the birthplace of transformation.

The fool is often the precursor to the savior within us.

That journey always begins inward. Shadow work is not about becoming darker—it is about becoming whole. It is about facing the parts of ourselves we suppress, deny, or shrink away from, and discovering that hidden inside them may be strength, courage, creativity, truth, and purpose.

“What part of myself do I suppress that might actually contain strength?”

For me, it is often the deeper voice within that knows life is more than performance, more than survival, more than endlessly trying to rewrite the past or anxiously control the future.

The past can teach us, but it cannot be relived.
The future is built only through the habits and choices of today.
Life is happening now.

I believe Finding Your True North is a rebellion against shrinking back from who we truly are. It is the decision to stop living beneath our calling, our gifts, and our humanity.

We are all creating meaning from our lives. We are all telling ourselves stories to make sense of suffering, joy, failure, and growth.

But the art of becoming yourself requires remembering this:

You are both the canvas and the brush.
You are both the artist and the masterpiece.

The broken pieces of our lives are not proof that we are ruined. They are often the very pieces that create the mosaic.

The seasons that nearly broke you may become the very thing that equips you to help someone else survive theirs.

Questioning your worth forever helps neither you nor the world around you. Your worth was never truly the question.

It has always been about direction.

The compass was within you all along.

Sometimes we simply need to remember True North again.