10/13/2026
How i get people to open up about mental health
Episode 26 is available on YouTube, Apple Podcasts, and Spotify
The best advice I’ve ever been told: the last thing you’d ever want to do is make them feel bad about themselves.
Too easily are we fixated on how to fix a person or be a part of the solution. But we need to remember that a whopping majority of the time, we usually just want a shoulder to cry on and get things off our chest. What I’ve learned is the most important process is creating a safe space for them to know they’re not a bad person. When people don’t open up, they usually are holding lots of guilt or shame with what they are going through. Do whatever you can to remove any of that pressure from them:
“I appreciate you telling me all this man, it mustve been really hard…youre totally good dude, wait dont sweat it and we can figure it out together…wait everyone’s been there before, ive actually done that too.”
By creating that safe, non judgmental space, people are more likely to open up more candidly. Not only will they realize they don’t have to go through things alone, but an incredibly large weight will be lifted off their shoulders knowing they won’t be criticized.
And even if they did something wrong, who are we to judge them as friends and loved ones! Even while saying these kind things, we are not absolving them from their faults — but we are showing all the support they deserve as a person we love. I’ve learned it is not my place to be the judge, jury, and executioner in these situations.
someone is doing better because of you 💜
