05/06/2026
Frederica Mathewes-Green produced a pamphlet entitled "12 Things I Wish I Had Known". It is an introduction to the Orthodox Church that may be helpful as you watch us on You Tube or if you visit us for the first time. Here is a summary of that pamphlet.
There are a number of things that are different from the services of other churches.
1. You may feel overwhelmed as soon as you walk in the doors of an Orthodox church. You will find that you are surrounded by color in the priests' vestments and the icons. You will immediately sense the incense being used. Rich, deeply moving music will fill your ears and hopefully your heart. People may be lighting candles, venerating icons, crossing themselves, bowing, standing in prayer.
It is important to remember that everything you see, hear, smell and touch or do in an Orthodox Church serves to lead us closer to God. God created us with physical bodies and senses for that purpose.
2. Traditionally, the Orthodox faithful stand throughout almost the entire service. Many Orthodox churches have no pews or like ours, have a few chairs around the edges of the room for the elderly and/or infirmed. If at any time you find the amount of standing too challenging, please feel free to be seated. With practice it will get easier.
3. Believe me, we make the sign of the cross frequently. We cross ourselves whenever the Trinity is called upon, when we venerate the cross or an icon and as Father Stephen has taught us, cross yourself whenever you feel the need or desire to do so. Some people may cross themselves three times in a row; some may bow and touch the floor with their right hand; some my cross themselves kiss an icon and bow. All are appropriate.
We cross ourselves using our right hand and we touch the forehead, chest, right shoulder and left shoulder ending over our heart. When we do this we hold our thumb and first two fingertips pressed together, and the last two fingers are pressed into the palm. The three fingers that are held together represent the trinity. The two finger pressed int the palm represent the two natures of Christ.
4. We usually do not knee on Sundays although we do sometimes prostrate. This is done by kneeling and placing our hands on the floor and touching our forehead between our hands.
Not everyone is able to prostrate. Some only kneel, some stand with their head bowed or even sit crouched over. No one should judge you for your choice or ability to prostrate. In Orthodoxy we accept individualized expressions of our faith.
5. As the author states: "Pucker Up"! We kiss things. When we first enter the church we kiss (venerate) the icons. The altar servers kiss the priest's hand when they give him the censer. We all line up to kiss (venerate) the cross at the end of the Liturgy.
We may greet each other with a kiss before receiving Holy Communion.
The usual greeting in the Church is "Christ is in our midst". We respond by saying "He is and always shall be."
6. Blessed bread and consecrated bread.
Only Orthodox may take communion, but anyone may partake of blessed bread. Communion bread is imprinted with a seal. As the priest prepares for Divine Liturgy, he cuts out a section of this seal and sets it aside. This is called the "Lamb". The remaining bread is blessed, cut up and placed in a bowl or basket.
The "Lamb" is consecrated to be the Body of Christ and the wine in the Chalice is the Blood of Christ. The priest places the "Lamb" in the chalice. During communion, we line up to receive a portion of the wine-soaked bread from a spoon from the priest. The priest prays over each one of us and calls us by our baptismal or chrismated name.
After receiving communion, we take a piece of the blessed bread. People may take additional pieces for guests and non-Orthodox friends who are present. This is a sign of fellowship. Non-Orthodox are welcome to step forward during communion to receive a blessing, but they do not receive communion.
7. Confession
Orthodox faithful are expected to make regular and private confession to Christ in the presence of their priest. The priest is our spiritual father and is called Father (first name). If he is married, his wife also holds a special role and title which varies depending on ethnic background.
During the Liturgy we say the Nicene Creed which affirms that the Holy Spirit proceeds from the Father. This adheres to the Creed as it was originally written.
8. Music
A major portion of the Liturgy involves congregational singing. The music in our church is a capella (without instruments). Our choir leads the singing but all of the faithful may sing if they choose.
To someone new to Orthodoxy, the amount of singing may feel overwhelming at first. Frederica Mathewes-Green states that "it feels like getting on the first step of an escalator and being carried along in a rush until you step off ninety minutes later. It has been fairly said that the Liturgy is one continuous song.
Relatively little changes from one Sunday to the next. The songs and prayers are the same with the exception of songs dedicated to Feast Days or Individual Saints (Troparia and Kontakia), and the Epistle and Gospel readings.
9. No Shortcuts in Orthodox worship!!
Originally, the Liturgy lasted for over five hours. Saint Basil edited it down to two and a half hours. Around AD 400, St. John Chrysostom edited to about one and a half hours.
We begin our Divine Liturgy with the reading of the Hours at 9:10 am. Divine Liturgy begins promptly at 9:30 am.
10. Mary, the Theotokos
The word Theotokos means "Mother of God." When you hear the words "Most Holy Theotokos, save us," we are asking her to "protect, defend, and take care of us here on earth." We ask for the prayers of all the saints and the Theotokos. We are reminded that all of the saints are joining us in worship.
11. Three Doors
Every Orthodox church has an "Iconostasis" (icon-stand) separating the altar from the rest of the church. The center doors in front of the altar itself, (usually two doors) is called the Royal Doors. This is where the King of Glory (Christ) comes to the faithful during the eucharist.
There are two additional doors to the left and right of the Royal Doors. These are referred to as the "Deacon's Doors". These are used by Deacons and altar servers. No one is allowed to use these doors without an appropriate reason. Altar servers and priests can only be males. Females may participate in every other part of the church life with the exception of serving in the altar or the priesthood.
12. Ethnicity
You may notice that many Orthodox churches are designated by ethnicity. At Saint Nikolai Orthodox Church, we use the English language and welcome people of all ethnic backgrounds. Orthodox everywhere hold to the basic Christian doctrines taught by the Apostles and handed down by their successors. We also hold to the moral standards of the Apostles.
The more you experience Orthodoxy, the more it will begin to feel like a home and it will draw you into the Kingdom of God.
COME AND VISIT US. . . COME AND SEE!