09/17/2026
When Kim and Philip married in 2015, it was impossible to believe that in four short years their lives would be totally upended.
"2016 was like out of a fairy tale," said Kim, now widow to Philip who became a donor in 2019. During their first year of marriage, Kim remembered fondly their summer spent at their lake house, and how every day Philip would have everything ready for them to go out on the boat. "He would have lunch packed, or dinner, my swimsuit laying out, my flip-flops ready, the towels, everything loaded into the four-wheeler so we could drive down to the boat and load it up... I remember thinking, 'I can't believe this is my life.'" Then, in 2019, Philip lost his life to su***de. Because he was a registered donor, Philip was able to heal many lives through tissue donation. "To me, this is his gift to the world."
Last November, EBKY officially started our Donor Legacy Tree project, a meaningful space for donor families to honor their loved ones and their incredible gift to organ, tissue, and eye donation. Donor families are invited to create artwork that represents this gift in the shape of a leaf to add to the Donor Legacy Tree, and last week, Kim came by our office to drop off Philip's leaf. Dedicated to his, "electrifying blue eyes," Kim's leaf incorporates Philip's signature and a rainbow, a deeply meaningful symbol to Kim. "Everybody that knows me knows about rainbows- every time I see one I feel like it's Philip." To this day, when friends and family see a rainbow, they snap a picture of it and send it to Kim. "So, he comes to me a lot."
Kim, a hospice volunteer, was always registered as an organ donor for as long as she can remember. When she and Philip first met in 2005, she was surprised he wasn't already signed up as an organ donor through his driver's license. With time and lots of conversations, Philip decided to join the registry when he went to renew his driver's license, a day Kim never forgot. "Philip made the world such a better place for all those who knew him. He was quiet and shy and smarter than a whip, with a heart of pure gold. He knew love, happiness, pain and sorrow, but most importantly he knew the Golden Rule and lived his life accordingly. He understood the true meaning of treating all people with dignity and respect... I am so proud of him and his decision to be a donor, not even death could prevent him from this selfless act of compassion. It has and always will be an honor to be his wife."
Perhaps this is what's so meaningful about donation: it creates connection in the midst of loss. It gives families a way to carry their loved one forward, recipients a chance at healing, and all of us a reminder that even after a life ends, the impact of that person's life does not. For Kim, Philip's leaf is one more way to keep his story present, his memory alive, and to honor the man she loved, the life they shared, and the incredible decision he made years before he ever knew how important it would become.
We are deeply honored to give Philip's story a place to live and welcome Philip's leaf to our tree.