06/18/2026
Before you take your child’s phone away, read this urgent, practical advice for families as online access, social media, and exploitation risks collide.
The phone is not just another device to your children. It is their social life, entertainment, identity, privacy, status, and often their only connection to friends. It can also be the place where predators manipulate and exploit children and pull them away from the safety of home.
Pew Research Center found that 38% of parents and teens report regular arguments over screen time, with 10% of parents saying these disputes happen often. And for teens who are online almost constantly, 47% of families experience regular conflict regarding device use.
At Finding Kids, we see how quickly conflicts between parents and children over cell phone use and access can escalate into dangerous situations. Restrictions on phone access can leave young people feeling punished, isolated, or disconnected from their friends. "I estimate that in at least 50% of our cases, cell phones and social media are significant factors in both the conflict between youth and parents and the circumstances leading to a child going missing," says Finding Kids Director of Aftercare, Michelle Guymon.
Here are some important, no-nonsense things parents can do:
- Create ground rules. Before the argument, set expectations, limits, privacy, and safety.
- Don’t make the phone the only consequence. Threatening to take the phone should not be your go-to solution to every argument.
- Keep the bedroom phone-free at night. Night time phone use is more dangerous. Phones should charge outside the bedroom.
- Use parental controls, but don’t rely only on them. Parental controls are better than no controls. As of June 2026, these are the top rated Parental Control tools:, Bark, Aura, Qustodio, Norton, Net Nanny, and Apple recently announced new child safety and parental control features expected this September.
- Teach children what grooming looks like. Manipulation and “grooming” can feel like friendship or romance. They should never accept a friend request from someone they’ve never met or they do not know. Let them know they can always come to you to help view messages.
- If your child threatens to leave over the phone. Take it seriously. Stop arguing and shift to keeping your child physically safe.
- If your child leaves home and doesn’t return as expected. Act quickly and calmly. Preserve evidence, use location tools if available, and immediately call 911 to file a missing persons report. Report your child as “missing and endangered.” Make a note of the case report number and note down the name of the assigned detective. Gather your child's left-behind devices and document any other information that might be helpful. For additional support, fill out the Finding Kids intake form.
- If explicit images of your child are involved. Don't blame your child. They are the victim of a crime. Never share or forward the images, preserve what you can without redistributing them, and report the situation in person to law enforcement. Use NCMEC’s Take It Down tool.
Bottom line Pediatric and Adolescent Psychiatrist, Dr. Allie Shapiro told us, "I asked a seven year-old patient if she talks to people online. She said, 'Yes, all the time on Roblox.' And the parents just looked at me like, 'That's news to us.'" The best protection is a strong relationship where your child feels safe coming to you and lets them ask for help without shame.
