05/28/2026
This is what I’m dealing with with Patches and Jasper. I thought they would be good candidates to get adopted since I’ve been their constant from tiny babies, but they’re clearly NOT cut out for home life. Mama Wayne certainly is, but she came from indoors and is older and already socialized, but she won’t be as “marketable” with her eye and the fact she’s not a kitten. Her children, on the other hand, they were born outside and are friendly and social with me, but no one else. Patches has warmed up well over the last week that they’ve been in the house, but Jasper isn’t doing well. He stays hidden. It breaks my heart. I don’t want to return him to the other side of the park with his “big brothers” that he’s gotten so bonded to, but he’s not playing with my boys like Patches is. They try, but he just doesn’t have confidence indoors, despite being so bubbly and bouncy outside. It’s not fair to him or humane to allow him to live his life in fear indoors. We decided it’s best that they stay here with us and not going up for adoption due to this fact. However, they’ll be immensely loved and cared for, and they won’t be adding to the homeless cat population! We have to look out for their mental well-being, as well as their physical health.
Taming Feral Kittens - Should You Let Kittens Socialize at their Own Pace?
Ben Franklin left something out here. "Nothing in this world is certain except death and taxes and KITTENS! " It is true. If you get involved in TNR, there WILL be kittens. And what do you do with them? If they are TNR'd with the adults, you have already greatly improved their quality of life. But most trappers end up socializing and adopting out the kittens. Altered cats can enjoy a good quality of life in a colony, but it is hard to beat life as a loved family cat in warm home.
Niko was one of these kittens. Born in a neighborhood over-run with feral cats and free roaming dogs, Niko walked in a trap baited with KFC chicken. Yum. At 8 weeks, he was young enough to be socialized but possibly old enough to harbor a lifetime suspicion of strangers. Kittens like Niko bond closely to their family, but some may not extend that love to strangers. Happily, Niko made fast progress. He played with interactive toys, allowed handling with little fuss and took food from his foster mom's hand, but he clearly preferred cats to humans.
How can foster homes improve the adoptability of kittens like Niko? Some influencers on social media promote letting them come around on their own. They don't recommend touching the kitten at all until the kitten comes to you to be handled. They recommend plenty of hiding spots so the kitten can feel safe and invisible. And some disagree with separating from littermates to hasten the process. Do we agree?
I would agree if the kitten was going to live with me forever. But this passive socialization mind set results in fewer kittens getting into homes. It takes longer and, in some cases, it can be many months longer. This results in fewer kittens being helped. Why?
1- Mixing kittens isn't recommended due to the risk of spreading illness. So, while a foster home is waiting for a kitten to move at his own pace, kittens trapped in later TNR projects will likely have to be returned to site.
2- If kittens aren't actively socialized, they could be in foster for many months. A scared kitten will always choose a dark hiding spot to being handled. Kittens who can avoid human contact indefinitely may not learn to bond with humans during those early critical weeks of life. And hiding can become a hard-to-break habit. Few people want to adopt a cat who chooses to live their life under a bed. Is it humane to allow a cat to live a life of hiding in fear?
3- Kittens with a wilder temperament may not be identified until it is too late to return them to their colonies. It is difficult to predict how quickly an individual kitten will socialize. We have all been surprised by half grown kittens that completely socialized and tiny one pound babies that remained fearful for life. It is important to return kittens to their colonies before the weather turns cold and before their colony mates forget who they are. We know of one "rescuer" who trapped a kitten in August and then returned it to his colony in December. He was immediately chased off by the resident cats who considered him an intruder. For me, the cut off is a maximum of 2 to 3 weeks.
While we don't believe in forcing kittens to socialize, we do think they need a little push. Socializing kittens is an act of kindness that gives the kittens a chance at an indoor home. And if it is done expediently, it will leave a vacancy for other kittens needing a foster home.
The 4 main steps to socialization are C.A.T.S.
-Containment: House the kittens in a small space like a cage or bathroom. If they are scared, its okay to let them chill for the first day or so to get used to their new environment. But after their terror has subsided, remove hiding spots so they get used to your presence. If you have a tall cat tree or can put a cage up high near eye level, they will feel less threatened.
-Acclimatization: Start off with quiet voices and slow movements. As they become less fearful, introduce normal movements and sounds. Keeping a radio or TV on can help. Introduce them to people and cat-friendly animals. Use toys and treats so they develop a positive association with humans. With older ferals, consider feeding canned food or treats ONLY while you are in their presence so they associate you with good stuff.
-Touch: Begin touch with toys or soft bedding and then progress to your hands. Short sessions spread throughout the day are best. Start with brief pettings while feeding wet food, chicken or squeeze treats. As they relax, you can briefly pick up. My first "pick ups" are usually just to place them in front of food. With small kittens, you can watch TV with them in a hoody sweatshirt pocket or inside a covered cat bed. They feel safe while they get used to your presence.
-Socialization: Introduce the kittens to new people. If they are accepting touch, encourage visitors to hold them while feeding treats or hand them a wand-style toy to engage the kitten in play.
Did Niko tame down and find a home? Yes! He learned to approach people for food and toys and to accept handling without complaint. He was adopted with a very social kitten who will help him to continue to gain confidence around humans.
More information on socialization can be found here: https://communitycatcoalitionwa.org/socialization/
