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10/19/2026

Two years ago, I went to Italy to dog-sit. Yes, you read that correctly. I think it was our first night in Rome and we were booking it to try and get to this church that had a Caravaggio painting. Dear friends, I had never heard of Caravaggio. I made a C in middle school art. We got to the church with only a minute or two until it closed. I’d give anything to return to that moment because at the time I wasn’t really interested.

Fast forward to last week.

I’m in a spiritual direction group led by my friend and artist Michelle Floyd Bickers and lo and behold she had us study a Caravaggio and notice what it stirred in us. It brought me to tears.

All this to say, maybe linger longer somewhere. Notice the beauty that bypasses your brain and stirs something deeper in you. And if anyone in Rome needs a dog sitter again, sign me up.

10/13/2026

I hope this serves the Church. I define “Church” as the priesthood of all believers which includes your local church and ministry setting. Let the conversations be had!!

10/04/2026

I was reading James 5:15 this morning about how the prayer in faith will make a sick person well. I know this verse makes me uncomfortable because we’ve all witnessed prayers of physical healing go a different direction. I looked up what the word sick meant in this verse. It means to be weary. 😭😭😭

I needed the reminder that we need others to pray for us in our weariness - to save means to keep safe and sound. I know God uses weariness to depend on him but I also know there comes a point when it’s making us sick.

That’s my prayer for us today. Jesus, would you keep us safe and sound? And would you heal our weariness? So be it.

10/03/2026

We are coming down to the final days to register for Days of Encouragement and Rest in the Wrestle.

During the chaos of fall, we invite you to take some time to take care of yourself - to let others tend to your life for a few hours. Set the weight of your responsibilities down and receive. If you don’t want to talk to anyone, we even have a table for you. 😂😄 You can register at withincorporated.org/gatherings
We do have some partial scholarships available if you have some financial restraints.

Rest in the Wrestle is almost full but there’s still time to register. We intentionally keep it small. You can engage as much or as little as you like. Kent and Karla are just some of my favorite people and teachers. Probably because they’re honest about their own lives and don’t pretend. There’s something refreshing about leaders who are honest from up front.

Beth Wayland will be kicking our time off as she invites us to consider Jesus.

Jen Hand is our emcee for Thursday night and Friday morning. Her storytelling is masterful and you’re guaranteed to laugh.

Brent Crenshaw is a shepherd of people. He’s wise, an encourager, and trustworthy.

Becky Crenshaw lights up a room with her love for Jesus and passion for the whole person.

Kent and Karla Denlinger served as Larry Crabb’s spiritual directors at his schools. They are warm, wise, and are in touch with our bottomless pit of need as humans.

Jim Coffield is a counselor and pastor. He served as head of Reformed Theological Seminary’s counseling department for many years. He’s just finished a book called The Autistic Theologian about lessons learned from his son, Skylar.

Melinda Bentley is an author and teacher. She’s passionate about seeing people walk in freedom and truth. Buckle up.

09/23/2026

Four years ago, this group of ragtag women from all over the world showed up in England for our soul care trip. You should hear them talk about that first full day together. We were a hot mess. Things each woman carried were enough to break a person. We had an amazing trip but no one ever expected this group to still be talking every day years later. These women are in it with one another. They visit. They send meals when there’s a cancer diagnosis or a death of a parent. We grieve the loss of pets, of friends, of men. They show up in every way possible. We all thought we would have a wonderful eight days in England, but 1500ish days later, our self-proclaimed name of Tulip Town is still living out WITHness in ways no one imagined.

Sometimes I stand back in awe. Look what God did. We couldn’t have conjured it up, even with the best itinerary or perfectly timed question. I think Tulip Town brings Him a lot of joy.

09/16/2026

Years ago, I found myself sitting across from my boss, telling her I was done with my job. She had seen this coming months prior and had tried to help me shift, but I assured her I was fine. I mean, I still loved my job. Commuting 420 miles/week to pursue my MA, leading a team of 12, discipling 30 women, training four staff, events four nights a week, and I still thought I wasn’t doing enough. A student confronted me about going to the gym and said I could be using that time to “save souls.” Punk. 😂🚬🤷‍♀️ So many things contributed to me getting to the place that I did. I needed rest but that wasn’t going to come from a week off. The work would take a year and counseling and a lot of wrestling. I haven’t been the same since.

As much as I desire to help tired people in ministry prevent burnout, sometimes it’s the best thing that can happen to us. We get stripped down to a place where we need God, good counselors, spiritual directors and the gift of being honest in order to find deep, internal rest.

I’d love for you and a friend to join me and Kent & Karla Denlinger for our Rest in the Wrestle retreat October 23rd and 24th here in Knoxville. Fall in Knox is hard to beat, but more than anything, we just want to be with you in the wrestling, even if you can’t quite find the language for what it is you’re wrestling with.

Link in bio to register.

09/15/2026

I wrote about belonging today. While Pew Research says that 93% of singles want to be married, 100% want to belong somewhere. Let’s be honest, married or single, we all want to belong. If you were to ask my closest friends, this is front and center of my mind. Who do I belong to and how do I offer belonging to others? If you are in a family, maybe consider the single people around you. Invite them in. Celebrate their milestones. Don’t ask if they’ve tried online dating. 😘 Single peeps, be auntie and uncle to 25 kids and show up for the families in ways they don’t even know they need. Belonging. Such a beautiful and vulnerable word.

09/04/2026

09/03/2026

Link to Days of Encouragement in bio.

09/01/2026

I can see the finish line. I think I will finish this dissertation in December. A lot of the content is hard and heavy because it tells the truth about the invisibility of singles (especially if you’re over 35) within the Church. However, today my heart is full reading how the women answered this question. There’s a passion and a depth to their answers that bring joy and levity. I can’t wait to share them with you.