Camden Community Family Center

09/02/2026

Separation anxiety often shows up in the behaviours we can see — the tears, clinginess, difficult drop-offs, repeated reassurance or physical complaints.

But those behaviours are only the tip of the iceberg.

Underneath may be fear that you won’t come back, worry that something bad will happen, difficulty coping with uncertainty, a recent change or loss, sensory or social overwhelm, or simply not yet feeling secure enough to manage separation.

Understanding what sits underneath changes the question from:

“How do we stop this behaviour?”

to:

“What is this child finding difficult — and what will help them feel safer?”

Separation anxiety isn’t about being difficult or overly dependent. The behaviour is communication.

Save this one to come back to — and share it with someone supporting a child who finds separation hard.

09/01/2026

09/01/2026

09/01/2026

Separation anxiety can feel huge for a child — but support doesn’t have to be complicated.

Small, predictable steps can help a child begin to feel safer with separation: knowing what will happen, trusting that you will return, keeping goodbyes calm and consistent, and gradually building confidence rather than expecting it all at once.

These strategies won’t remove anxiety overnight, but they can help a child feel more secure while they develop the confidence to manage time apart.

My free Bitesize Guide to Separation Anxiety was released this morning — see my earlier post for details of how to obtain a copy.

08/30/2026

Understanding why some children crave intense oral input is key to recognising oral seeking as the nervous system's way of finding regulation, alertness, and control. 🌻

PART 3 OF 8: THE SCIENCE OF ORAL SENSORY SEEKING

WHY SOME CHILDREN CRAVE INTENSE ORAL INPUT

Oral seeking behaviours are often the nervous system's way of getting the input it needs to feel organised, alert, and in control. It can be regulating, organising, and even motivating.

James has taught me that when he reaches for something to chew, bite, or mouth, he is not misbehaving, he is telling his nervous system exactly what it needs in that moment. Learning to read oral seeking as communication rather than a habit to stop changed how I respond to him. James is nonspeaking and his body tells me what he cannot.

WHAT ORAL SENSORY SEEKING LOOKS LIKE

Chewing on objects, clothing, toys, fingers, or non-food items. Biting down on objects, jaw toys, clothing, or chewy items. Sucking on straws, chewelry, fingers, bottles, or fabric. Licking objects, surfaces, lips, hands, or foods. Crunching, enjoying crunchy foods or textures for the sound and feeling. Seeking strong flavours, preferring intense, spicy, sour, or minty tastes. Mouth play, moving the tongue, chewing repeatedly, or making noises with the mouth. These behaviours are not random or naughty, they serve a genuine sensory function.

WHY CHILDREN SEEK ORAL INPUT

Oral input can help the nervous system by improving regulation and calm, increasing focus and attention, boosting arousal and alertness, supporting sensory integration, providing comfort and self-soothing, and helping the brain feel organised and in control.

WHAT'S HAPPENING IN THE NERVOUS SYSTEM

Oral input activates sensory receptors in the mouth, tongue, and jaw. These signals travel via cranial nerves V, VII, IX, X, and XII to the brainstem, which helps regulate arousal, heart rate, breathing, and muscle tone. Proprioceptive jaw pressure and tactile mouth touch input help organise the sensory system, and this can bring the body into a more regulated, alert, and connected state. Seeking oral input is the nervous system saying, "I need more input here to feel right."

COMMON REASONS BEHIND ORAL SEEKING

Low oral registration, where the mouth may not be getting enough input, so the child seeks more. Need for alertness, where oral input can help increase arousal when the body feels low. Self-regulation, helping manage stress, anxiety, transitions, or sensory overwhelm. Sensory integration, helping the brain organise and make sense of sensory input. Comfort and security, where oral input can be soothing, grounding, and predictable. Habit becomes helpful, where what started as a need can become a regulating habit. Understanding the why helps us support the child in safe and effective ways.

A trauma informed lens helps us see oral seeking as a genuine regulatory need, not a behaviour to eliminate.

TRAUMA INFORMED GUIDANCE FOR PARENTS AND CAREGIVERS

Offer Safe Chew Tools Proactively: Keep chews, tubes, chewelry, jellies, or silicone items accessible before oral seeking intensifies.

Provide Crunchy or Firm Foods: Offer crunchy, chewy, cool, or firm foods if tolerated, such as carrots, apple, or crackers.

Allow Safe Mouthing Where Possible: Permit mouthing of clothing edges, blankets, or soft textures if non-harmful, rather than stopping it outright.

Observe Patterns Without Judgment: Notice when and why oral seeking increases, and respond with connection rather than correction.

Support Regulation Holistically: Pair oral tools with movement, deep pressure, and predictable routines rather than relying on the mouth alone.

TRAUMA INFORMED GUIDANCE FOR PROFESSIONALS

Explore Strong Flavours Safely: Where appropriate and enjoyable, offer minty, sour, or spicy flavours as a regulated way to meet sensory needs.

Recognise Communication, Not Misbehaviour: Understand that oral seeking is the nervous system's way of asking for input, not defiance or attention seeking.

Reduce Intensity Through Early Support: Meet needs early to help reduce the intensity of seeking before it escalates.

Respond With Connection: Approach oral seeking with warmth and understanding rather than restriction or discipline.

Build Oral Tools Into Daily Support: Make chew tools and oral sensory options a standard, judgment free part of the environment.

REMEMBER

Oral seeking behaviours are the child's way of getting the input their nervous system needs to feel safe, organised, and connected.

RESEARCH BASE

Oral sensory seeking is supported by research in sensory processing, proprioception, and self-regulation. Informed by the American Occupational Therapy Association (2020), Occupational Therapy's Role in Sensory Integration and Processing. Miller, L. J., Schoen, S. A., Brett-Green, B. A., & Nielsen, D. M. (2009), Physiological and behavioural differences in sensory processing in competent children with autism spectrum disorder and sensory processing disorder, Frontiers in Integrative Neuroscience, 3, 1 to 10. Ora, R. & McGinnis, E. (2014), The relationship between sensory processing patterns and functional behaviour in children with autism spectrum disorders, Research in Autism Spectrum Disorders, 8(3), 260 to 281. Schaaf, R. C., & Benevides, T. W. (2018), Occupational therapy using a sensory integrative approach for children with sensory processing disorders: a systematic review, American Journal of Occupational Therapy, 72(1), 1 to 11.

Connection over correction. Understanding over expectation. 💙

See beyond the surface. Support the nervous system. 🌻

Does your child, student, or client crave intense oral input, like strong flavours, crunchy foods, or firm chewing? What safe tools have helped meet that need? Drop a 💙 and share.

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This poster breaks down what it looks like and why.

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08/30/2026

Yesterday on the Signs of... posts, the most common comment was "How can we help?" - so here you are. A new series, starting with Inattentive ADHD

When a child has inattentive ADHD, “try harder” is rarely the answer.

They may already be trying incredibly hard — to hold onto instructions, get started, filter distractions, keep track of time and remember what comes next.

What often helps is reducing the load.

Small adjustments such as giving one instruction at a time, making things visible, breaking tasks into manageable steps and creating predictable places for belongings can make everyday life feel far less overwhelming.

And perhaps one of the most important things we can do?

Notice the effort — not just the outcome.

This follows on from my recent Signs of Inattentive ADHD and From the Inside posts, moving from what we notice, to what it may feel like, to how we can help.

Save this one for the moments when you’re wondering where to start. 💜

08/29/2026

ADHD vs Autism 💛

Different challenges, Unique Stengths 💕