08/13/2026
DID YOU CHOOSE YOUR RELIGION—OR WAS IT CHOSEN FOR YOU?
By: Jeric Yurkanin
Being raised to believe that a religion is true does not make it true. It shows how that belief was passed down to you.
I was raised in born-again, evangelical/Pentecostal Christianity. I did not begin with a blank page, study the world’s religions, compare their evidence, and then freely decide Christianity was the only truth. I was given one answer before I was old enough to question it.
My parents, siblings, church leaders, and nearly everyone I trusted told me it was true. I was taught that my eternal future depended upon believing it. When everyone around you repeats the same worldview, it does not feel like one possibility among many—it feels like reality itself.
Leaving was not emotionally or socially free, either. I knew that questioning Christianity could bring anger, disappointment, or rejection from my family. When I eventually became agnostic, some of my siblings cut me off.
Research shows that this experience is not unusual. A longitudinal study following 2,352 young people found that leaving religion was associated with poorer parent-child relationships, partly through reduced parental warmth and religious agreement. That does not happen in every family, but it demonstrates that changing beliefs can carry genuine relational consequences. (Hendricks and colleagues, 2024)
This process is called religious socialization. A study using data from the National Study of Youth and Religion found that religious beliefs were transmitted most strongly in religiously conservative families, largely because of more intensive religious instruction, parenting practices, and congregational involvement. (Smith, 2021)
Pew Research Center also surveyed approximately 1,800 American teenagers alongside one of their parents. Nearly half of the teenagers said they shared all the same religious beliefs as that parent. Two-thirds of teens who participated in family religious activities said they did so partly or mostly because their parents wanted them to. (Pew Research Center)
Geography matters, too. According to Pew’s worldwide analysis, 80% of people live in a country where most people share their broad religious identity. Approximately 99% of the world’s Hindus and 98% of its Buddhists live in the Asia-Pacific region. (Pew’s Global Religious Landscape)
That does not prove Hinduism, Buddhism, Christianity, Islam, or any other religion false. But it does demonstrate that religion is usually inherited through family, culture, and geography—not selected through a neutral investigation of all the available evidence.
That realization forced me to ask a difficult question:
What were the chances that I just happened to be born into the family, country, church, and denomination that possessed the one and only truth?
I cannot honestly calculate that chance as “0%.” Truth is not determined by demographics. But I also cannot treat my birthplace, childhood teaching, or family tradition as evidence that my former religion was uniquely true.
If I had been born into a devout Hindu family in India, a Muslim family in Saudi Arabia, a Buddhist family in Thailand, or a Latter-day Saint family in Utah, I probably would have been taught a completely different “absolute truth”—and I may have defended it just as passionately.
Human beings naturally search for meaning, safety, identity, community, and answers about death. Psychological research describes religion as an especially powerful social identity because it can provide belonging, certainty, sacred meaning, and the promise of an eternal group connection. (Ysseldyk, Matheson and Anisman, 2010)
In another series of four experiments, reminders of death increased certain supernatural beliefs among participants. That does not mean everyone believes because they are afraid to die, but it does show that mortality concerns can influence religious thinking. (Norenzayan and Hansen, 2006)
Religion can provide real comfort. A meta-analysis of 49 studies found that positive forms of religious coping were associated with better psychological adjustment, while negative religious coping—such as feeling punished or abandoned by God—was associated with greater distress. (Ano and Vasconcelles, 2005)
But comfort is not evidence of truth.
A belief can be comforting and true, comforting and false, uncomfortable and true, or uncomfortable and false. How a belief makes us feel does not determine whether its supernatural claims are accurate.
As society has advanced in medicine, neuroscience, psychology, and mental-health education, we have gained evidence-based explanations and treatments for many conditions that some religious communities once blamed—and sometimes still blame—on sin, demons, curses, weak faith, or insufficient prayer.
Religion may provide emotional support, but it cannot replace qualified medical or mental-health care. When religious claims make measurable predictions, they can be scientifically tested. For example, a randomized study involving 1,802 heart-bypass patients found that distant intercessory prayer did not improve complication-free recovery. That study did not disprove God; it simply failed to support that particular measurable claim about prayer. (STEP clinical trial)
I now see organized religions as human systems. Their scriptures were written, copied, translated, selected, and interpreted by human beings. Their doctrines were debated by human beings. Their denominations, hierarchies, rules, and institutions were created and operated by human beings. Someone may believe that this process was divinely guided, but that is a faith claim—not an established scientific fact.
Science also cannot rule out every possible God or afterlife. As the National Academies explains, supernatural possibilities that produce no testable evidence fall outside what science can evaluate. Science can investigate measurable claims about the natural world, but it cannot test an invisible being defined as existing beyond observation. (National Academies)
That is why I am agnostic.
I am not claiming with absolute certainty that no God or afterlife could exist. I am saying that I do not know—and I will no longer pretend to know simply because one religion was handed to me as a child.
A God could exist without Christianity being true. An afterlife could exist without any church, preacher, scripture, denomination, or religious institution owning it.
Ask yourself honestly:
If you had been born into another family, culture, or country, would you still believe exactly what you believe today?
What evidence distinguishes your religion from the competing claims of every other religion?
Are you following evidence—or are you afraid of losing your family, community, identity, or promised place in heaven?
Changing your beliefs after questioning and learning is not rebellion. It is not a moral failure.
Sometimes saying “I don’t know” is more honest than claiming certainty about the only answer you were ever allowed to hear.