06/07/2026
So well said by Jane of Newhouse Wildlife Rescue. As I said to her, boundaries absolutely do matter and you also can't fix stupid. Unfortunately, there are a lot of selfish stupid people in this world but karma does exist.
“I couldn’t handle this. I don’t know how you do it.”
Tom said it with his mouth hanging open after reading a post I showed him from a local Woburn Facebook group.
A woman was publicly criticizing us, claiming we were awful. According to her, we “make bank off donations” but have no problem saying no to animals.
I didn’t have to explain to Tom how far from the truth that was. He and his wife are close friends. They have seen firsthand the countless hours, sleepless nights, financial sacrifices, and emotional toll that come with caring for wildlife.
The donations we have received recently have gone directly toward purchasing a clinic so we can help even more animals in the future. Yet somehow, we’re being criticized for that too.
I told Tom those posts don’t bother me much anymore. The moment you become visible, there will always be someone ready to criticize what you do.
I drove home from his house and, as I pulled into my driveway, I noticed a box sitting beside my mailbox.
It wasn’t mine.
Inside was trash. Buried within that trash was a smaller box, sealed shut with painter’s tape.
Inside that box were five baby bunnies. I have no idea how long they were left out there in the heat like that.
We are full.
We have posted it publicly. It’s on our voicemail. We have told people repeatedly that we need a pause to catch our breath and properly care for the animals already entrusted to us.
And yet, there they were. I brought them inside. I had no choice.
What gets me isn’t the Facebook post.
It’s the lack of respect for boundaries. It’s using my empathy against me.
It’s the belief that if someone dedicates their life to helping others, they lose the right to say, “I can’t take on any more right now.”
I guess what I’m trying to say is that boundaries matter.
Not everyone will respect them, but they matter.
Our voicemail clearly states that we are full. It also directs callers to a website listing more than 180 other permitted wildlife rehabilitators across Massachusetts. But that wasn’t enough. We couldn’t accept the animals this woman found, so the conclusion was that we must be terrible people and she felt the need to publicly bash us.
We currently have more than 140 animals in our care.
We made promises to those animals and their finders. Those promises mean something to us.
We promised that they would have enough food, enough space, clean enclosures, proper medical care, and the time and attention they deserve.
We cannot keep those promises if we continue accepting more animals than we can responsibly care for.
We cannot pour from an empty cup.
Pushing past someone’s boundaries -whether that’s publicly attacking them for saying no or abandoning animals at their doorstep after they’ve clearly said they’re full - isn’t compassion.
It’s entitlement.
To my fellow wildlife rehabilitators, and to anyone carrying more than they should, you do not have to set yourself on fire to keep others warm. Hold firm my friends. You deserve the same empathy you show everyone else.