The Love Your Marriage Project

11/23/2025

11/23/2025

Our Trail to Table events are more than a hike—they’re intentional adventures designed for couples to reconnect in meaningful ways.

Each pair walks through five guided conversation stages, all crafted to spark deeper connection. It’s amazing to watch couples move from the trail to the table with a stronger bond than when they started.

Our latest Trail to Table was an absolute blast to lead. Grateful for every couple who showed up, leaned in, and shared the journey with us. Can’t wait for the next one!

11/10/2025

We loved coming along side West Bridge Church. So much thought and intentionality was put into this weekend to help marriages move toward oneness. Thank you for having us, we had a blast.

10/26/2025

Kelly and I love when we are able to serve marriages that are impacting other marriages. This weekend these couples came to learn how to help marriages in their community. Let’s go…

10/19/2025

Recently, Kelly and I took on a pretty challenging hike out west. We love discovering the beauty that each trail reveals — along with the challenges it brings (though that second part might be only half true). There were definitely moments when I started questioning my decision-making: Does this trail ever level out? Will the view be worth the effort? Can we even finish this?
Honestly, hiking for us often feels a lot like marriage — and maybe you’ve felt the same. We wonder, Will this season ever ease up? Do we have the strength to face what’s ahead? Is all this effort really worth it?
Scripture has plenty to say about trusting God’s path. One verse that keeps coming to mind for me is Proverbs 3:5–6:
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.”
That hike was tough — but the view at the end was absolutely worth it.
Keep walking together, trusting His way for your marriage.

10/12/2025

Dr. Alan Weissenbacher has written a book called The Brain Change Program. In his book, he writes about a counseling term called “discounting the positive”. This happens when someone gets so lost in a state of sadness or depression that they are unable to give or receive positive feedback or compliments. Positivity slides away from them because they are consumed with negative thoughts. How can someone completely miss the good and positive things in life? Dr. Weissenbacher states that it isn’t a conscious choice, but a “habit” that comes from “brain training”.

In our marriages, if we focus only on negative things about our spouse, we will train our brains to see only their faults. We will forget all about their good qualities, and see only their weak spots, their annoying habits. But, the encouraging news is that we can actually retrain our brains! As we intentionally look for the good in our loved ones, we can create more positive neural pathways in our minds. This can strengthen our emotional connection as we start to notice all of the great things about our spouses. We challenge you to look for and purposefully express the wonderful things you see in your partner today!

“Keep your thoughts continually fixed on all that is authentic and real, honorable and admirable, beautiful and respectful, pure and holy, merciful and kind. And fasten your thoughts on every glorious work of God, praising Him always.”
Philippians 4:8 (TPT)

10/05/2025

If you are like us, there have been many situations in our marriage, and in our family, where we simply do not know what to do. God promises to give us wisdom if we ask Him for it. Praying together is one of the best things that you can do to strengthen your marriage. Here's a prayer for you based on Proverbs 18:15, James 1:5, Jeremiah 33:3, 1 Corinthians 2:16(b), Proverbs 9:10, Proverbs 2:6, Matthew 7:24-25(b).

Father God, please give us discerning hearts to acquire knowledge. Give us ears that are tuned to Your wisdom. Thank You that You promise to give us wisdom when we ask You for it. Thank You that You tell us great and unsearchable things that we don't know. You have given us the mind of Christ. Father, we know that the fear of You is the beginning of wisdom and that knowledge of You is true understanding. Father, please make us wise in our marriage. Fill us with Your wisdom. In Jesus' name we pray - amen.

09/28/2025

Dr. Heather Holleman is a writer, speaker and professor at Penn State. She has a new book out called "The Six Conversations: Pathways to Connecting in an Age of Isolation and Incivility." In her book, she discusses creating a warm connection with others. We are sharing this as a positive resource for your marriage relationship! Dr. Holleman recommends four basic ways to foster a warm connection between yourself and others.

1. Be curious. Ask really good questions that can't be answered with a simple "yes" or "no". Try to better understand one another.
2. Believe the best about your spouse. Show positive regard for one another, especially with your body language and facial expressions.
3. Invest in one another. Express concern for each other. For example, remember things that your spouse has shared with you, and then check back in a few days later.
4. Share your life together. Create intentional memories together.

09/21/2025

Everytime we go camping it rains! Recently we were part of the teaching crew for the All4One Marriage Challenge in MI. We had a wonderful weekend helping couples to grow and connect with one another. The weather was perfect! But it did rain for 2-3 hours on Saturday. This is when I discovered the wonders of the rain poncho!!! Wow! The poncho kept me completely dry as we hiked. It was a reminder to me that because we were prepared for the unexpected, the rain really wasn't that big of a deal. Actually, it was peaceful trekking through the rainy woods together. In marriage, we have to be intentional and prepared for the unexpected twists and turns of life. We prepare ourselves by 1) staying spiritually strong by feeding ourselves God's Word, 2) staying connected with one another, and 3) by expecting the unexpected! Life will happen!

"He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the the Almighty." Psalm 91:1

07/26/2025

We love serving marriages and helping them to achieve oneness. The Love Your Marriage Project recently had an opportunity to host a marriage sailing adventure to the British Virgin Islands. Thankful and humbled by all that God has done and is doing!