07/02/2021
2017: The year āmeā became āweā!
Over the last decade, Iāve been lucky enough to work with 5 full-time employees, 1 part-time employee, and 9 interns. Together, weāve shaped One Bead into the organization you know today. š„³
But not without challenges. One lesson Iāve learned is that in order to get feedback in my role, I have to ask for it (or risk waiting until everyone hits their breaking point and is fed up with me, which I have also tried and do not recommend).
However, asking for feedback, Iāve found, is not always as straight forward as it sounds.
Outside of One Bead, I am (or was up until the pandemic hit) a yoga instructor. During training, I was taught to replace āDoes this feel okay?ā with āMore pressure? Or less?ā when offering hands on adjustments to students. While the first question implies that being uncomfortable means you are ānot okayā, the second two questions empower the student to consider how/if the adjustment could improve their practice.
I didnāt think much of this nuance until a couple of months later, when I was frustrated with a co-worker and sought out advice from one of my mentors. āEvery time I ask this employee if they are okay, they say yes. But then something happens and it is obvious to me that they are overwhelmedā I said, fully convinced that I was the worldās best boss.
āWell, maybe you are asking the wrong question,ā My mentor responded. āAfter all, who wants to tell their boss that they are not okay?ā In that moment, it dawned on me that what I needed to ask was āMore pressure? Or less?ā aka āDo you want me to take this off your plate? Or do you want to make time to work through it together?ā
This picture of Maddy (my first employee) and Eliza (our intern at the time) crunching numbers on my living room couch is one of my favorites from 2017. Although, Iām sure if I could go back and ask, they would say āmore spaceā, āless numbersāā¦ šš©š¼āš»š„“