05/20/2013
Chalk Talk- Proverbs Series
Week #32 – Anger vs. Self Control
“The one who has knowledge uses words with restraint, and whoever has understanding is even-tempered.” Proverbs 17: 27New International Version (NIV)
Today’s Proverb has countless applications for our life! This Proverb reminds us that a wise person is not in love with the sound of his or her own voice but rather realizes that understanding comes from listening, using few words and remaining in control of our emotions. A few weeks ago I was in a conversation with another coach that had asked for my input on something but I realized after about two minutes that he really was only interested in hearing himself talk, and talk, and talk! Proverbs 18:2 says “A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions”…how true that is! I could go on for days about how true that has become in our society and the media but we won’t go down that rabbit trail!
I recently heard it said that brevity requires good thinking. I’m sure we have all been in situations where we have heard people babble on and on only to realize that they really didn’t say much and at other times been around people that didn’t say much but their words were full of wisdom so actually they said a lot, they just didn’t have to use a lot of words to do it.
The second part of this verse speaks to the issue of self-control, it tells us that one of the ways wisdom is exhibited in our lives is in the area of how we control our temper, the wise do not fly off the handle in a rage of passion and spout off all kinds of words that they will regret later. They learn to spare their words by controlling their spirit – their inner man because that’s where the words come from. Being even-tempered cuts down on words immensely – especially the harsh, hostile, angry, unkind, corrupt words… the kind that especially need to be restrained. There is great wisdom to know when and where to speak… and when and where to be silent. Let’s try to all work on that this week, it’s harder than it sounds!