Koa Foundation

02/28/2021

#1 Best State
Kentucky was the first state to enact an explicit rebuttable presumption of joint legal custody and equal physical custody for temporary and final court orders, according to the report. That means that equally shared decision-making and joint time with a child is assumed (unless there is sufficient evidence supporting the need for a different arrangement).

"This law has been active for a year, and court reports have showed divorce filings went down more than 10 percent and also, domestic violence claims went down," Gentile says. The reason? She says people who run shelters for victims of domestic abuse theorize that if there is less conflict post-divorce, there is going to be less domestic violence.

Following divorce or separation, equal parenting is integral for kids' well-being. A new report from the National Parents Organization shows how states stack up when it comes to statutory provisions promoting shared parenting.

02/28/2021

08/05/2020

Parental Alienation is real, some children will never see this kind of support because the courts turn a blind eye to alienation tactics...

CHILDREN DESERVE THEIR PARENTS, PLEASE STOP IGNORING THE ISSUE, not all non-custodial fathers are dead beats, some struggle every day knowing that their child is lacking the support they need to be strong, confident, and successful in life.

05/29/2020

I've been asked similar versions of this many times, I however don't tell the truth, I simply respond:

"Don't worry, I am not going to give up."

03/04/2020

By Karen Woodall

I am an alientor. You know me well. You lived with me once and you witnessed my behaviour patterns but you did not spend time studying and internalising them. I know your behaviour patterns better than you know them yourself. I know how to measure you, test you and control you. I know what your hooks are and I know that the depth of the love for your children is a weakness I can exploit. I am an emotional terrorist. I will terrify you into submission. You will do as I tell you to do, if you do not, I will take your children away.
I am an alienator, you didn’t notice that when we lived together but I began my work long before we went our separate ways. I created fissures and fractures within our family and I managed and manipulated reality, though for a long time you did not notice that.
I am an alienator, at times in the past you felt a chill wind blow through you when my moods changed as I raged and then sweet talked you to smooth the ripples in your growing awareness. My mind is distorted but the projection of shadows causes you to believe it is yours which has failed you. Eventually you came to believe that it was you and not I who was crazy. You shivered as I turned down the gas light.
When you appeal to the outside world for assistance I will turn my most charming face to the sun and open my arms wide and beseech them to believe that I only want the best for my children. I will widen my eyes and up turn my palms and say ‘what can I do when they don’t want to see you’ and suck into my airspace all those who attempt to bring change to the lives of the weapons I know I can use.
My children are assets, collatoral, extensions of plans that I make to wreak my revenge upon people who challenge my views or attempt to remove the control that I have in my life.
My children are satellites orbiting sunshine coming only from me – you could never compete with the warmth that I wind around each of their hearts so that only my love is enough; making yours surplus, not needed, discarded like clothes that you bought and I won’t let them wear.
I am all that they need.
You are not.
When our love ended my rage recruited our children to a campaign of revenge that joins us together against you.
In my mind your betrayal awakened the traumas of people long dead and ignited the fuse that lead to the bomb that blew up our lives. Now, the souls of our children are hostage to wrongs which come howling from hell and you are helpless to hold back the tide which will sweep you and they to the death that is living with losing your children whilst they are still breathing. Your loss not mine which you and not I will have to survive.
Sometimes you mirror me, two perfect projections that weave webs of destruction that sever our children in two, one side light, one side dark, you there in the shadows.
But mostly it is because I cannot see my behaviours, I am blind to the sight of myself in the mirror. The only reflection I need is the love of my children to feed me and give me a sense of my self which I lost even before I was born.
I am the alienator, annihalator, terminator. My aim is to end by fair means or foul, your place in the hearts and the lives of your children.
I am easily spotted by those who know me but invisible to those who do not. You will spend your time, your energy and money telling them I am behind this whilst I smile and continue to shred the trust our children once held in you. I am an alienator even when I do not know it and the failure to see the shadows I cast in the projections I throw onto you, is the fault of a system so blinded by bias it is frozen like the minds of our children, the children being harmed right under the noses of those who should know how to help them but sadly, do not.
In the plain sight of you and of them, the lives of the children you love are stolen, erased and extinguished.
And your anguish and pain are the gifts that I treasure.
And your suffering compensates for the things I perceive you to have done.
And whilst chaos reigns and the system colludes with my delusions, the power I seek remains mine.
Along with the children.
Whose eyes are wide open but able to see nothing at all.

02/12/2020

Sad that it got to this level.... I was almost in a similar situation and the judge was not only lenient to her, but also scolded me for luckily being able to stop her. Sheriffs were able to get her and my son off the plane before they closed their doors.

Mistakes were made, the biggest was asking the Sheriffs NOT to take her into custody even with their insistence, she learned nothing..... we learned plenty

Here is why courts fail to recognize Parental Alienation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5fgRJh26Jho Video and audio of this public hearing was acquired by ...

02/09/2020

This is all one big WTF moment

The Texas Supreme Court is set to hear oral arguments in a parental rights case that could shape up to be truly groundbreaking. The case (known as In re CJC) centers around a father who is battling against a non-relative for custody of his four-year-old daughter. This non-relative was the boyfriend....

01/22/2020

Learn the signs these things can stay with you for life....

While a healthy mother protects her child early on from harm and danger of the outside world… the narcissistic mother is the SOURCE of fear for her children and distorts the child’s self perception. Instead of being given the knowledge and tools to build and maintain a healthy self-esteem, children of narcissistic mothers have seeds of doubt and low self-worth planted deep into their being.

While a healthy mother embraces her child with unconditional love and acceptance to provide confidence and a safe space to discover and grow into who they are, the narcissistic mother gives performance-driven, conditional love – only for stakes to be raised even higher without the reward being given. This creates a persistent sense of anxiety, self doubt, and distrust.

The purpose of this article is not to explain “how” the narcissistic mother came to be but to help validate adult children of narcissistic mothers. You may have found yourself among people from “healthy” families who cannot fathom...