05/28/2026
How to make friends as an adult
đKnow yourself:
When you are in touch with yourself, you have a greater capacity to meet people. You also have more to offer others. With age comes more flexibility and adaptability, which helps with relationships. New phases in your life, such as starting a job, going to college, parenthood, etc. can change what youâre looking for in a friend.
Self-love is the start of going out to make new friends. When you are filled up, you have much more to offer others. Reach out to others with your âfeel goodâ energy. You might explore groups that interest you, such as outdoor activities, volunteering, classes, and support groups. Ask yourself what kind of time commitment you want to put into friendships. Decide whether you want deep relationships where you can bear your soul or if you want to keep it casual by enjoying activities together.
đBe a friend to make a friend:
From past friendshipsâand friendship break-upsâwe learn that good friendships are built on good communication which fosters trust and honesty. Part of good communication is listening. Our friends need to feel safe and comfortable with us and vice versa. Feeling safe enough to be vulnerable will create a genuine emotional connection. Good communication also means showing up for and not âghostingâ our friends. Get on your friendsâ calendars! This can look like meeting regularly in person, scheduling phone or video calls, checking in via text, etc.
đ§Identify your needs:
Ask yourself, âWhat kinds of friendships work best for this time in my life?â How many friends would make me fulfilled and happy? Who are my people? Who is âsafe?â âDo I need a âride or dieâ kind of friend?â Are work friends included as well as family friends? âDo I embrace the diversity within my circle of friends?â Each friend brings unique gifts and perspectives and that should be celebrated.
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