All Things Whitt

06/05/2025

Maybe they are right. It does get easier with time but they don’t tell you the pain never goes away.

Whitt you are the last thing I think about at night and the first thing I think about in the morning.

Missing you sucks. Not having you here sucks even more. I would do anything to have you here with us. Anything. I would give my life to bring yours back.

Everyone has forgotten you but I haven’t. You are always here with me and always on my mind. I love you sweet boy. I’m sorry I couldn’t save you.

05/08/2025

05/01/2025

The time to build emotional resilience in ourselves and our communities is now.

This and beyond, we are encouraging people to think about what best helps them cope with challenges and move beyond basic “self-care” to consider true resilience, for ourselves and our communities.

We're all in this together.💙

09/01/2024

9/8 will mark the first annual ! 📅

988 Day is a national initiative dedicated to raising awareness about the 988 Su***de & Crisis Lifeline and emphasizing the importance of mental health and su***de prevention.

Learn more from SAMHSA: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/988/newsroom/988-day

08/19/2024

At the end of the year, we will be closing down the nonprofit. We will continue doing what we do and have hopes to go speak at as many places this year as we possibly can.

Our two final fundraisers will be flowers. All proceeds will go to pay our website fee and stock up on supplies.

Thank you all for continued support!

Please contact us if you would like us to come speak at your school, business or function. Our message is not just for young adults. Su***de knows no boundaries. It does not discriminate.

07/11/2024

PSA time.

There are many reasons why someone has chosen to take their life. Here are just a few that we have heard about from our many talks.

1. Abuse - sexual, mental, physical and emotional

2. Sexual orientation

3. Grief

I am going to say a few things about these. Again, my opinions and you have the right to disagree.

Abuse - you have no idea what happens behind closed doors. I have heard way too many stories from kids and adults of the awful things they have endured. Be someone’s safe place. Speak up for them if you know the abuse is going on. Protect them.

Sexual orientation - Maybe you don’t agree with their choice. Your right, but it is also their right to be who they want to be. You don’t have your like it, BUT you can also keep your opinions to yourself. So many young adults have taken their lives because their “family” has taken every single chance to tell them they are going to HELL. Last time I checked there is only one person that will decide their fate and it is not you.

Grief - Many people have lost someone that has meant the world to them. Now their death could be from anything and not just su***de. They truly feel that there is no going on. Grief has consumed them. Reach out. Love on them. Don’t try to put yourself in their shoes because everyone’s grief is different.

Nothing ruffles my feathers more than when I hear someone attacked for any of these reasons. Nothing makes my blood boil more to hear that it is “family” who said these things. If we really sat down and put pen to paper and made a list of all our wrong doings is there one of us that is perfect. We are not here to judge.

I found this quote and I find it fitting.

“People in glass houses should not only not throw stones, they should sit down, shut up and be thankful someone hasn’t thrown a couple bricks at their glass house yet.”-Author Unknown

Be kind. Spread love. Bring joy. If can’t, put the stones down and walk away.

06/23/2024

Dreams are worth chasing. I’ve recently learned that the path to the dream is not a straight one. It has many twists and turns. It takes a lot of sweat (it’s summer), tears (I’m tired and want things done yesterday) and sometimes blood (when you mess up and hurt yourself). BUT it is going to be so worth it in the end. My family and friends may have thought my dream was crazy at first, but they have encouraged me every step of the way and added to my dream. Chase your dreams, no matter how long it takes. Believe in yourself. I’ve actually amazed myself on this project. Try not to be too hard on yourself. Guilty of this. I gave up at one point and just floated in the pool because why not. I’m proud of what I’ve done so far. My dream makes me happy and the Lord knows I’ve been chasing it for long time now.

06/19/2024

Today’s PSA…..When someone comes to you and says “HELP” or “I AM NOT OK” do not dismiss them. Do not tell them they are weak. They have just pulled up every ounce of strength to speak up. You have no idea how much time, energy, strength and heart it has taken them to say those words. Simple words for some but for others it is the only words they can speak.

06/19/2024

Hey Whitt. It has been awhile. You are still in my thoughts every single day, but I just can’t bring myself to say everything out loud.

Summer is my all time favorite time of the year. I start looking forward to it in April, but you see it is mid June now and the dread and sadness are creeping in.

This past year I have been on a mission of sorts to find something that makes me happy. Don’t get me wrong, there are lots of things that make me happy, but there is this space that consumes me at times I just can’t fill. A space of sadness, depression, self doubt and so much more.

It had gotten a little easier to hear someone speak your name. Tell stories about you. Recall the memories of you. Unfortunately it is not that way right now. A few weeks ago we were at a basketball tournament and Robby was talking to some man. I have no idea how the conversation was started, but I soon realized they were talking about you. I wanted to run. I wanted to cry. The look on my face must have given my feelings away. Annesha hugged me and gave me the look that she understood that I was freaking out on the inside.

You would be so proud of your brothers. This year has been one of growth for both of them. Collins is going to be a Senior this year and I’m afraid he is more like me every single day. He doesn’t mind speaking his mind, but is a genuinely good human being. He acts like you a lot too. It can be a little frustrating! Teagan is getting taller, but blames me for getting the “short” genes. I know you don’t want to hear this but he might just be better than you in basketball. He is so much like you it’s scary.

I try really hard not to compare them to you. It’s hard not to though. Every situation it analyzed and decisions are flip flopped based on the feelings of the day. I am so scared of making the wrong decisions. I don’t want to be too hard nor too easy. I don’t think I’m a good parent.

You have changed absolutely everything about me. I’m not saying some of that is a bad thing.

I don’t talk about you much to my friends or family anymore. Nobody knows what to say and most of all they don’t understand where I am at or what I’m going through. I’m always the downer. I don’t ever what them to understand the way I feel.

I miss you Whitt. There are so many times I wanted to call you and tell you something, but I can’t. I wish I could have saved you. Stopped you. Protected you.

Every single day I miss my baby and yes you will always be my baby. There is a pain and emptiness that no matter what will never get better. It’s a complicated life I live now.

I’ve heard way to many times “that it will get better”, “you have other kids to think about”, “be happy with what you have”, and “life does move on”. I want to scream and fight and say “no s**t. Like I don’t know all those things”. These are things that people who struggle to survive and get up the next day keep to themselves and therefore struggle alone.

Grief sucks. Missing you sucks.

I love you Whitt. I miss you even more. I wish you were here.

03/07/2024

I love listening to crime podcasts and I’m a huge Crime Ju**ie fan. I recently asked them for permission to share their “If I go missing” file. They of course were kind enough to say YES.

Now hear me out.

I believe this file is important for many reasons. When Whitt died there were so many things I couldn’t get into. I just wanted to hold onto every single piece of him, but passwords and pins were not something that I had. I also think it is important for young adults going off to college or moving to a new city or basically EVERYONE to fill out. If something were to happen, most colleges will not release a lot of information about legal adults. Time is valuable.

I realize this probably makes me sound paranoid or a little crazy.

Wouldn’t you rather have it and not need it than desperately need it and it not be there?

Click the link and fill out the form to get your file sent to you. Fill it out. Keep it somewhere safe.

If I Go Missing If you’re a Crime Ju**ie, you know how important Ashley & Brit think it is to be your own advocate! Help yourself by helping your loved ones in a time of crisis if anything should happen to you. This form will give you a good jump start on all of the things that could be relevant s...