05/31/2026
If you aren’t following Kaelynn’s Autistic Angle and are raising or teaching a person with autism…follow her.
I just recently saw her compared to Temple Grandin. She truly is a wealth of knowledge. I can’t wait until the day I can see her (and Temple finally) in person.
Here my first snippet sharing her!
There’s a lot of sh*tty things about being autistic. Here’s one of them:
How quickly a small social issue can turn into an emotional explosion.
For many folks, autism means experiencing emotions more intensely than would otherwise be expected.
On top of that, we often have an undying NEED to be understood.
When these autistic traits come in contact with, say, a small disagreement… we can go from 0 to 60💥 almost instantly.
So here’s a strategy I’ve found useful:
Solve arguments with your hands, not your mouth.
Hear me out, I know that sounded bad! 😜
When you speak, you don’t have to backspace option. Whatever awful things come out of your mouth have the capacity to haunt you, and whoever you said it to…for a very long time.
Instead, use your hands to WRITE.
✉️ an email
📱 a text
📝 or even a physical letter
When you write, you slow down, and when you slow down, you can actually think.
Your thinking brain can ask itself questions like:
▪️What am I trying to communicate?
▪️What outcome do I want?
Generally, if you’re trying to FIX conflict, the goal isn’t to win.
It’s mutual understanding and problem-solving.
If I write something harsh, I can delete it.
If my tone is off, I can adjust it before it ever reaches the other person.
I can’t always control how intense my emotions are…
but I can control what I do with them.
And sometimes that means forcing myself to write it out, and come back to the conversation in a way that actually moves things forward.
If you also struggle with conflict escalating quickly, this might be something worth trying!
