06/23/2026
I received these 2 DMs in rapid succession:
DM #1: “Chris, I saw you speak at our church, and I’m desperate for help. I feel like a failure as a mom. My son has been looking at p**n. He’s only 10. It’s hard for me to look at him. Now I think he’s damaged. Can someone from PYE help me?”
I offered her a phone call. At one point in the conversation, I paused her and said, “It feels like I need to remind you of something. I think the Holy Spirit is prompting me to say this. Just remember, he’s still your amazing son.”
She burst into tears. Apparently, it was exactly what she needed to hear.
DM #2: “I just caught my 9-year-old looking at P*rnhub. I’m totally heartbroken. How to recover from this? I have failed him. He was my innocent boy. I feel betrayed, and I look at him differently now because he’s not as innocent.”
Similarly, after we talked about how to fix some technical things at home, I said:
“Above all, please, please remember this. He’s the victim. He’s still your amazing son.” Followed by a long silence from Mom, “Thank you. Thank you. Yes, he is.”
I don’t know who needs to hear this right now, but I want to make sure your kids know certain things, relationally:
✅ No matter what happens to your children online – whether it’s their fault or not – please make sure they know there’s nothing they can do to change how you feel about them.
✅ That you’ll love them just the same.
✅ That there’s nothing wrong with them.
✅ And that he/she is, and will always be, your amazing child.
Technically:
✅ That you have all 5 layers of protection in place: relationship, router, devices, location, and apps
✅ That you’re actively monitoring all devices.
Unsure about any of this? Comment below.
Parenting with you,
Chris
