11/12/2022
The Difference... This is difficult to explain for people who have had a consistent support system and have not had the type of childhood trauma that a person doesn't realize is trauma, maybe not even as an adult. It usually takes someone else like a therapist or healer, these can come in many forms, to help them come to the realization that if they won't be vulnerable enough to at least acknowledge what they experienced in their formative years impacted their sense of self as in worth and how to "protect" themselves in relationships with others. Men are especially weighted with this burden but also affects all genders and races from the lower socioeconomic tier as our society stigmatizes the ones who are supposed to have been born with the same inalienable human rights as their middle to upper class counterparts from a two parent home with a support system in place, usually an extended family.
When you are born at or below poverty level where government assistance is needed to supplement entry level wages and lack of a support system, many times families will NOT be eligible for said assistance if there are two parents living in the home.
This is a viscous cycle for living in survival mode. When you have to make decisions daily that both involve risks. You're born into this situation so it starts young.... Maybe you have to choose protecting yourself or caught with a firearm, maybe you have to choose going without hygiene products or caught shoplifting, maybe you have to choose being sexual/physical abuse or chancing an arrest for possession. The school to "the system" pipeline is real. Many people often end up with a background check that prevents them from getting government funded student loans let alone a career to sufficiently support yourself. So many people are boxed in like this before they make it to 21.
Then take into account the number of low income households high chance of a dysfunctional home life and not feeling safe inside added to being stigmatized as a "bad person"by society outside.
The sad truth is that you can't heal spiritually EVER if you can't get the basics. All of the therapy and positive affirmations in the world won't matter at the end of the day if you live in a world that rips off the scabs everytime you have to decide whether to eat or not.
Middle and upper class people believe they are in their positions just out of hard work and often times won't even be grateful for the stability they inherited which means everything. The poor are viewed as lazy, as criminals, as lacking willpower... even my aunt once said she could never be a bum that just gave up and started holding signs by the highway.
I can relate, I grew up with no stability, witnessed lots of abuse and took lots of abuse all before I was 13. My mother blamed me for being the one that ruined her relationship with her son's pe*****le father. Unfortunately this is so common from toxic mothers with severe mental illness. By 15, I met someone who told me they knew a way out. I jumped at the chance to get my own place to live.
Grown men who meet grown women who can consent. I don't support any type of trafficking but in real life you either sink or swim and it's the johns fueling the billion dollar industry... Not the service providers, drug dealers or pimps.
THERE'S A BIG DIFFERENCE IN MANIPULATING A 15 YEAR OLD GIRL AS A 24 YEAR OLD MAN. AND EVERYONE AROUND ME JUST SAT AND WATCHED. LIKE WHEN I WAS A BAD KID... MY MOM LOOKED THE OTHER WAY. THE ABUSE IS TOO TABOO TO ADDRESS. IT'S MUCH EASIER TO BE GROSSED OUT AT THE PRODUCT. IT'S EASIER TO DISCREDIT HER, BLAME HER, SHUN HER, LAUGH AT HER.
BASICALLY EXPLOITING HER IN YOUR OWN WAY. IN GRAND RAPIDS THEY PROTECT THEIR S*X PREDATORS AND DESTROY THE VICTIMS AT ALL COSTS.
