Covenant of faith Family Ministries International

06/25/2026

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06/25/2026

Parenting, discipline, and church policies amid childhood trauma

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06/25/2026

Parenting, discipline, and church policies amid childhood trauma

Jun 24, 2026 • 6:32 PM • 1 hour

Overview

Church discussion focused on child discipline, parental authority, and community responsibility, especially within children’s ministry. Speakers debated the impact of “childhood trauma,” government policies on child protection, legal liability for ministries, boundaries for third-party correction, and faith-based guidance for raising resilient, content, and godly children. Multiple real-life anecdotes illustrated entitlement, overindulgence, and conflicts between caregivers and parents.
Children’s Ministry Governance and Legal Safeguards

Establish written, signed policies for the children’s ministry to define acceptable corrective measures (e.g., time-outs, verbal correction) and escalation steps to parents.
Parents should be informed of incidents “in the course of taking care of your child.”
Unsigned policies expose workers and ministries to litigation.
Require explicit parental permissions similar to schools’ field trip or medication slips; minors act through legal guardians.
If a guardian refuses a ministry’s discipline policy and the church does not allow kids in the main sanctuary, “maybe it’s not a good fit for the ministry.”
Government Policy Context and Extremes

Policies arose from real abuses (e.g., overcorrection, visible injuries, neglect leading to hospitalizations or deaths), prompting child-protective interventions.
Participants argued the pendulum sometimes swings to extremes: children may leverage rules against parents; some parents then resist any third-party correction.
One view framed this as the “enemy” working through government to confuse discipline with abuse and to undermine families.
Boundaries for Third-Party Discipline and Incident Examples

Some parents accept correction from known, trusted adults; others insist unknown adults must not touch their child and should call the police instead.
Retail theft incident: several youths reportedly stole items (w**d, ring). A caregiver restrained one youth and had bystanders call 911; youths returned items and fled. A parent later objected to police involvement, citing the child’s prior “two strikes.”
Anger and proportionality: even when confronting wrongdoing, excessive or physical responses can cause irreparable harm and legal liability; once suspects are restrained, further force is considered abuse.
Parenting Motives: Pain, Love, or Jealousy

Key self-examination: “Are you parenting from pain? from love? or from jealousy?”
Some parents overindulge to compensate for what they lacked growing up; others project unresolved hurt (e.g., harshness rooted in past wounds) onto children.
Call for balanced, age-appropriate, loving discipline (“tough love”), not permissiveness or punitive anger.
Communication, Priorities, and Teaching Contentment

After saying “no,” revisit the decision with the child to explain reasons (priorities, delayed gratification, safety). Without this, children remember only that “mommy or daddy always says no.”
Prioritize essentials over status goods (e.g., paying PG&E (Pacific Gas and Electric) bills before buying luxury shoes). Avoid trying to “buy” a child’s love.
Model contentment and resist covetousness fueled by peers’ possessions (e.g., Nike, iPhone upgrades). Teach children to “cut your coat according to the material.”
Use special occasions (e.g., birthdays) to set clear boundaries around gifts and reduce everyday entitlement.
Entitlement, Peer Influence, and Early Formation

Entitlement grows when constant demands are met; tantrums can be unintentionally rewarded.
Peer comparison at school can pressure families and foster bullying or envy; parents should frame differences in means and values clearly.
Formative window: several speakers stressed ages roughly 2–10 (some said “actually eight”) as pivotal for character and attitude formation; patterns set here become harder to change later.
Supervision and Safety Practices

Exercise caution with sleepovers: know the family and environment. If uncertain, join the activity or keep gatherings in visible, shared spaces at home.
Faith-Based Guidance and Scripture

Biblical rationale for firm, loving correction (“the child that you love you chastise”; warnings against withholding “the rod of correction”).
Romans 12:2: “Be transformed by the renewal of your mind” — release past hurts and relearn healthier patterns for parenting.
Titus 2:3–5: Older women should teach younger women to love husbands and children, be discreet and good “keepers at home,” so God’s word is not blasphemed.
“Contentment with godliness is great gain” as an antidote to covetousness.
Trauma, Choice, and Outcomes

Differing views on “childhood trauma”: some see corrective discipline as beneficial; others see it as lasting harm. Speakers emphasized adult agency in reframing the past.
Story of two sons of an alcoholic father:
One became alcoholic, saying, “That’s all I’ve known.”
The other avoided alcohol, citing firsthand knowledge of its damage, and achieved success.
Takeaway: adopt a victor’s, not a victim’s, mindset; “grow through your pain,” using it as a springboard rather than a lifelong excuse.
Proposed Actions and Next Steps

For the church/ministry:
Draft, adopt, and require signatures on children’s ministry discipline and incident-communication policies; define time-outs, verbal correction, and escalation to parents.
Collect specific parental permissions (e.g., field trips, medication) and decline enrollment if guardians reject core safety/discipline terms.
Encourage older women and seasoned parents to mentor younger mothers (Titus 2:3–5) on biblical, balanced parenting.
For parents/caregivers:
Audit your motive: pain, love, or jealousy; choose balanced, age-appropriate correction delivered in love.
After a “no,” debrief with children to teach priorities, contentment, and delayed gratification.
Set clear spending priorities; resist peer-driven purchases; teach stewardship and gratitude.
Supervise relationships and environments (e.g., sleepovers) and default to safer, known settings.
Renew your mind (Romans 12:2): release past patterns, end generational cycles, and align with the word of God.

06/25/2026

Real Talk, Real Faith | Pastor Dr Steve Fagbule
Wednesday Covenant Family Table

06/24/2026

Faith was never meant to stay silent.

Joshua 1:8 says, "This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth." God's Word is not only meant to be read, but it is also meant to be spoken.

Confession leads to possession. What God has promised must first be declared. Too many people believe in their hearts but never open their mouths. Stop speaking your fears. Start speaking God's promises. 💙

Open your mouth wide, and let His Word fill it. Your breakthrough may be waiting on your confession. 🙌🏾

06/23/2026

Dominion is not proven by what you post, it’s proven by what your life produces.

It’s easy to declare power. It’s different to demonstrate it. Real dominion shows up as growth when others expected stagnation. Impact where there used to be a limitation. A transformation where there was once struggle. Testimonies that cannot be denied. 🙌🏾

The world is not waiting for more noise. It’s waiting for evidence. Let your life be the proof that God is working through you. 💙

06/23/2026

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06/23/2026

How Biblical Faith Comes, Grows, and Acts

Jun 22, 2026 • 8:08 PM • 1 hour, 49 minutes

Overview

Teaching on “faith foundations” focused on what biblical faith is and is not, why faith operates “now,” and practical ways faith comes and grows. The session emphasized God’s unchanging character and Word as the sole basis for faith, the necessity of hearing, receiving, meditating on, speaking, and doing the Word, and avoiding presumption. Scripture examples and personal testimonies illustrated how faith is formed and exercised. A weekly faith-building plan and assignments were given.
What Biblical Faith Is—and Is Not

Faith became the identity of the early church (Acts 6:7, NKJV).
What faith is not: hope; natural faith (“see then believe”); mental assent (knowing verses without corresponding action); presumption; denial; mere positive thinking or motivational talk.
What faith is: confidence in God’s Word and character; trust that “it is impossible for God to lie” (Numbers 23:19); acting on what God has said.
God binds Himself to His Word (reference to Genesis 3 promise fulfilled in sending His Son ~2000 years later).
Faith vs. Hope—Faith Is Now

Hope says “God will do it (tomorrow)”; faith says “God has done it (now)” (Hebrews 11:1: “Now faith is…”).
Since God is not more powerful tomorrow than today, believers should act in confidence today, not defer to tomorrow.
How Faith Comes: Hearing and Receiving God’s Word

Faith “comes” (present, continuous) by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God (Romans 10:17). Church attendance alone does not produce faith.
Hearing vs. receiving: The Word must be received into the heart, not left in the mind where over-analysis can choke it (Hebrews 4:2).
Parable of the sower (Mark 4:14–20): same seed (Word), different soils (hearts) yield different results—Satan’s theft, shallow roots under pressure, thorns (cares, deceitfulness of riches, other desires), or fruitful hearts (30/60/100-fold).
Diet of the heart: What you feed grows. Media (TV, social platforms, news) often feeds fear; feeding on Scripture grows faith.
From Hearing to Believing to Acting

Acts 14:7–10: A man lame from birth “was listening” to Paul; seeing he had faith to be healed, Paul commanded, “Stand upright,” and he leaped and walked. Faith came through hearing; action followed; the miracle resulted.
Mark 5:27: The woman with the issue of blood “heard of Jesus,” believed, said within herself, touched, and was healed—hearing preceded believing, speaking, acting, and receiving.
Avoiding Presumption; Standing on the Word

Faith is not blind optimism. It requires a clear Word-basis. Avoid “borrowed faith” and imitative acts (e.g., discarding medication or sowing major “seeds” merely because of someone else’s testimony).
Stand on at least “two or three” Scriptures as witnesses for a matter; cite them specifically, not vaguely. Build authentic, personal conviction from Scripture.
Meditation Turns Information into Revelation

Joshua 1:8: Meditate day and night to observe and do the Word, leading to prosperity and good success.
Reading puts the Word in the mind; meditation drives it into the heart—like a cow chewing cud (repetition, pondering, visualizing oneself in the Word).
Be a doer, not a forgetful hearer; look into the “perfect law of liberty” and continue (James 1:22–25).
Rightly divide the Word (2 Timothy 2:15): avoid isolating texts out of context. Let the New Covenant (Gospels; especially Epistles like Ephesians, Colossians, Galatians; 1–2 Timothy, Titus) illuminate the Old.
Faith Speaks and Is Practiced

Believing and speaking work together (Mark 11:23). Confession leads to possession; pray and declare audibly. Fill your mouth with God’s Word.
Faith grows through practice: be doers; trials are “God’s gymnasium.” David’s victories over lion and bear prepared him for Goliath.
Shared Scriptures and Reflections

Colossians 4:6: Guiding conversations with grace; redirecting negative thoughts.
Psalm 32:8: God’s instruction, teaching, and counsel.
Psalm 23: The Lord as Shepherd—guidance, provision, peace, righteousness; living selflessly; goodness and mercy following.
Proverbs 3:25–26: Do not fear sudden terror; the Lord is your confidence.
Proverbs 22:6: Training children early; ongoing prayer and example for adult children and influence on grandchildren.
Philippians 1:28: Not terrified by adversaries; confidence in God in the face of intimidation.
John 10:10: Contrast of the thief’s work with Jesus’ life-giving purpose.
Exhortations and Resources

Consistently invite others and share the teachings; recordings available on “Covenant of Faith Family Ministries” YouTube and Facebook. Transcripts and summarized pamphlets will be distributed after sessions.
Corporate Declarations (Themes)

Identity and stance: “I am a person of faith… I walk by faith and not by sight… I am strong in faith.”
God’s Word at work: “God’s Word is producing results… Every seed of doubt is uprooted… My heart is fertile ground.”
Victory and establishment: “I am victorious… I am established… My testimony is coming quickly… My faith shall not fail.”
Action Plan and Assignments

Weekly faith-building plan (daily):
Read Scripture for 15 minutes (start with Mark and continue forward).
Meditate on one verse (ponder, repeat, visualize).
Speak that verse aloud and pray it.
Act on whatever God says.
Study for next session: Read Mark 4 fully; also Mark 11, Romans 4, and Hebrews 11.
Write and reflect:
Three things that build your faith.
Three things that weaken your faith.
One promise from God’s Word to meditate on daily this week.
Ongoing: Feed your faith more than your fears; share/invite others to the studies; access recordings via YouTube/Facebook; review provided transcripts/pamphlets.

06/23/2026

How Faith Comes | Pastor Dr Steve Fagbule
Monday Covenant Bible Study

06/21/2026

Growth is scary for some people, not because they can’t handle success, but because success requires responsibility. Increase will demand maturity. Expansion will demand discipline. Fruitfulness will demand accountability.

Some stay small on purpose because growth means stepping up. But you cannot be fruitful if you are afraid to grow. Maybe it has felt like barrenness. Maybe delay, dryness, or opposition has tried to convince you to shrink back. But hear this: whatever has resisted your increase will not survive the anointing. 💙

You were not called to stay stuck. You were called to expand. 🙌🏾