10/08/2026
You’re at a party. Someone seems uncomfortable, and something about the situation doesn’t feel right. You don’t have to know exactly what’s happening to take a safe step that could change what happens next.
Remember the 3 Ds:
Distract: Create a distraction to interrupt the violence or diffuse the situation.
“Oh my gosh, hey! I haven't seen you in forever, how are you?” can give someone a way out.
Direct: Talk directly to the victim or the perpetrator and tell them why their behavior is not okay.
You might check in with the person: “Are you okay? Do you want to leave with me?”
Delegate: Refer to an authority figure. Enlist others so you don't have to step in alone.
Ask a friend, upperclassman, bartender, or security staff member to help.
Make sure that you are able to remain safe while intervening and follow up with the victim or the perpetrator afterward. It is better to intervene later than not at all.
Stepping in can be as simple as noticing, checking in, and staying with someone while they decide what they need. If you or someone you know needs support, SAVA Center’s 24/7 crisis hotline is available by calling (970) 472-4200 or toll-free at (877) 352-7273.
Want to help build a community where more people know how to respond and prevent sexual violence? Learn about volunteering, support SAVA's programs, or donate to furthering this work at savacenter.org.
1.) Basile, K.C., Smith, S.G., Kresnow, M., Khatiwada, S., & Leemis, R.W. (2022). The national intimate partner and sexual violence survey: 2016/2017 report on sexual violence. Atlanta, GA: National Center for Injury Prevention and Control, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. https://www.cdc.gov/nisvs/documentation/nisvsReportonSexualViolence.pd