10/18/2026
❤️ I NEVER EXPECTED TO BE THE ONE TEACHING THEM... ❤️
On Friday, I went along to a Restart A Heart Day event expecting to help someone else teach people how to perform CPR and use a defibrillator.
And that’s how the day started.
I knew my dad and my brother, Michael, were coming along to at some point to support me and maybe watch one of the sessions.
Neither of them was sure whether they'd actually take part in the training, but they'd told me something that meant a great deal.
Seeing what I'd been doing with Pauline's Law, and the first aid training I'd undertaken myself over recent weeks, had inspired them to want to learn some of these lifesaving skills themselves.
But what happened that day was something none of us had expected.
I ended up teaching them myself. ❤️
And to understand why that meant so much to me, I need to tell you a little about our family.
In March 2025, our mum, Pauline, suffered a cardiac arrest at Dobbies Garden Centre in Stirling.
My dad and Michael were both there when she collapsed.
Dad witnessed members of the public, staff and emergency services doing everything they could to try to save her life, including performing CPR and using a defibrillator.
Thankfully, someone took Michael away from what was happening and stayed with him, so he didn't have to witness those efforts.
Sadly, Mum didn't survive.
We'll always be grateful to every single person who stepped forward to help her that day.
Those people are the inspiration behind Pauline's Law.
❤️ SO YOU CAN PROBABLY IMAGINE WHAT IT MEANT TO ME TO BE TEACHING MY DAD AND MICHAEL THOSE VERY SAME SKILLS.
It wasn't something I'd ever imagined doing.
I was conscious of what our family had been through, particularly what Dad had witnessed, but we approached the training practically, concentrating on what they were learning.
And for the most part, that's exactly how it went.
Until we reached the defibrillator.
As I began explaining how to use it, I found myself looking over at my dad.
I didn't say anything, but I think my face probably asked the question for me.
Are you okay? Is this okay?
I knew that he'd watched them perform CPR and use a defibrillator to try and save our mum, and I was very conscious of what seeing a defibrillator again might bring back.
Dad stood up and came over for a closer look, and Michael came over too.
I could see there was emotion there.
I think Dad wanted to see how it worked, but part of me also wondered whether he'd picked up on how I was feeling and was trying to reassure me, too.
I don't know if he realised it, but that small gesture helped me enormously. ❤️
I felt calmer, more focused and able to continue.
And that's what we did.
We carried on, looking at what was inside the defibrillator kit and going through how to use it.
❤️ AND WHEN WE'D FINISHED, I FELT SO INCREDIBLY PROUD OF THEM BOTH.
Neither of them had been sure whether they wanted to take part when they arrived.
But they did.
They'd chosen to learn skills that, for our family, will always be connected to one of the most difficult days of our lives.
And I was so proud of them for that.
I also couldn't quite believe that I'd been the person teaching them.
After everything our family had experienced, I'd just taught my own dad and brother how to perform CPR and use a defibrillator.
It wasn't something any of us had planned, but it's a moment I'll always treasure.
And then something happened yesterday that made me smile all over again. ❤️
During the training, we'd talked about what to do if someone started breathing normally again, and I'd mentioned the recovery position.
I'd promised Michael that I'd show him how to do it another day.
Well, yesterday he reminded me of that promise!
With a big smile on his face, he asked when we could practise it together.
He was laughing and joking as we talked about it, and I couldn't help smiling too.
Because there was my brother, who'd experienced the loss of our mum, now looking forward to learning another lifesaving skill.
He wanted to learn more.
Not because anyone was making him, but because he was genuinely interested.
And I can't really explain how happy that made me.
It wasn't just that he'd learned CPR and how to use a defibrillator.
It was that he was already looking forward to what he could learn next.
❤️ AND THAT GOT ME THINKING...
My dad and Michael had told me that what I've been doing with Pauline's Law had inspired them to learn lifesaving skills.
But what they probably don't realise is just how much they've inspired me, too.
Seeing them take part, knowing what our family had experienced, and then hearing Michael so enthusiastic about learning more meant more to me than I can put into words.
And it reminded me of something I've come to believe very strongly.
Learning emergency first aid isn't just about being shown what to do.
It's about having the opportunity to practise, ask questions and build confidence.
Sometimes people are nervous about learning.
Sometimes they have difficult experiences or memories associated with an emergency.
And sometimes, all it takes is that first opportunity to learn for someone to discover that they want to know even more.
💛 THAT'S ONE OF THE REASONS PAULINE'S LAW MATTERS SO MUCH TO ME.
For anyone unfamiliar with the campaign, Pauline's Law is calling for every young person to complete an accredited Emergency First Aid qualification before leaving school.
I want young people to have the opportunity to learn essential lifesaving skills, including CPR, how to use a defibrillator, how to help someone who is choking, how to respond to severe bleeding and what to do in other emergencies.
But just as importantly, I want them to have the confidence to use those skills if someone needs their help.
Because knowing what to do and feeling confident enough to step forward aren't always the same thing.
I believe every young person deserves the opportunity to learn, practise and build that confidence before they're ever faced with an emergency.
And I hope that, just like Michael, learning those first skills might encourage them to want to learn even more.
I can't change what happened to Mum.
But I can try to make something positive come from losing her.
The people who stepped forward to help my family that day inspired me to start Pauline's Law.
And now, in a way I never expected, my own dad and brother have reminded me why I want to keep going.
They told me that I'd inspired them to learn, and that they were proud of me. But on Friday, it was my turn to feel incredibly proud of them. ❤️
Pauline's Law — A Law to Save Lives. A Legacy of Love. 🩷💛