07/31/2026
Such an important reminder that connection comes before correction. By helping children regulate first, we create the safety needed for healing, learning, and growth. Thank you British Association of Play Therapists for highlighting Dr. Bruce Perry's Three R's framework and its relevance to supporting children who have experienced trauma.
The Three R's (Regulate, Relate, Reason) is a neurodevelopmental framework developed by child psychiatrist and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry. His Neurosequential Model is the grounding that outlines the strict biological sequence required to effectively communicate with, calm, and teach a dysregulated / traumatised child.
When a child is stressed, overwhelmed, or in a meltdown, their "thinking brain", the cortex shuts down. They then move into a survival mode controlled by the lower, primitive brain regions (brainstem and limbic system), activating fight, flight, or freeze responses. In this state any information enters the lower brain first, meaning any form of reasoning will not be processed until their survival and emotional needs are met.
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