02/14/2023
Understanding "Velentie Day"
Original five love languages are physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, and receiving gifts. These are all pretty self-explanatory.
Physical Touch
Everyone automatically assumes this is every man’s first love language. It’s a bit more complex.how babies respond to physical touch. Parents of NICU babies are encouraged to touch their children to promote healing and better development. Children who are hugged and kissed by their parents are said to develop a healthier emotional life than those who aren’t. Quality Time
If Physical Touch is for the men (and we’re not saying it is), this one is for the women. Quality Time is all about giving your time to your partner. that is not talking about watching TV together. He’s talking about the mushy kind of quality time. The staring deep into one another’s eyes, contemplating the universe together kind of quality time. This is undivided, you’re the only person here, kind of attention. Let’s be honest, everyone wants this at some point in their relationship. But, if you want this regularly to feel most loved, Quality Time may be your love language.
Words of Affirmation
It is a rather poignant quote and applies simply to any relationship. Say nice things to people. Whether it’s a romantic relationship, parental, sibling, professional, or otherwise, giving compliments is a no-brainer way to show love. But, what if that’s not their way to feel love?
Acts of Service
Acts of Service are expressed by doing things to show your love. As far as marriage or couples counseling goes, this is a love language that can be easily missed by a couple who is having trouble connecting. This is the everyday, the nitty-gritty, the life part of the life you live together. It’s when he empties the dishwasher without being asked or when she takes care to fold his laundry how he likes. It’s the stuff that can so easily go unnoticed without trying. The idea is that it becomes an Act of Service when we go out of our way to do these things specifically for ourthat it can also be a “gift of your presence.” You can give money, a stick (an example from the book), expensive diamonds, extravagant well-thought-out gifts, or just the gift of yourself being there (not to be confused with quality time). No matter, what the gift is, it is a visual representation of your love. If you feel most loved by receiving gifts, this may be your love language.
