05/06/2026
"I was adopted in March 1980, and my folks split up a couple of years later. Each remarried in 1984. My dad, who was part Jewish but did not grow up religiously, did not go down a Jewish path. My mom married an Orthodox man, who I called Abba, and decided to raise my brother and me Jewishly. Since I was very young, religion was a point of contention and something with which I struggle even today.
We moved to Potomac, Maryland, in 1987. My mom and stepfather decided to follow the Orthodox tradition, and I ended up at an Orthodox day school in third grade. As I got older, I never fully felt like I fit in. I wasn’t good academically or socially. I didn’t really know where to land. In high school, I had only a few friends. Some fit into the standard norm of an Orthodox Jewish kid, some didn’t. I seemed to be drawn to bad behavior, even though that wasn’t how I was raised. I guess because I didn’t feel like I fit in, I decided to act the part.
The one thing I knew for sure was I wasn’t happy. I didn’t put forth any effort in school or try to achieve anything. Looking back, I realize I didn’t have any faith in myself to try anything."
Read the full Quieting the Silence story by Michelle Day at https://thebluedovefoundation.org/bouncing-back-from-my-rock-bottom/