05/12/2026
From 45 to 55, I made it through by learning this:
You do not fix a life by yanking it upright in one heroic move.
and I the pleasure of sitting with
Stephanie McLaughlin from
The Leaning Tower of Pisa was leaning so badly they thought it would collapse. But they knew if they tried to force it back all at once, they would destroy it. So instead, they made small shifts. One shovel of dirt at a time. Slow. Deliberate. Patient.
That image stayed with me.
Real change usually does not come through one massive breakthrough. It comes through small corrections made over time.
That is how I found the truths I live by.
Not by trying to become who everyone else thought I should be.
Not by forcing myself back to some perfect version of upright.
But by making small shifts until I could settle into what was true.
True to myself.
True to what mattered.
True to the life I was actually meant to live.
Small shifts matter.
Done long enough, they can save your life.