06/14/2026
What sorrow and consoling between Horses looks like:
They have known for Days that the Bay is supposed to leave the Farm. She expressed her worry by calling out loudly and listening for a response throughout the Day when she was brought away to do riding. He would explode into high Speed to get close to her, then linger.
Most of Day and Night for the last 7 Years they spent near each other within our Herd of 15. On rare occasions and very short lived (Minutes) they showed such Mannerism.
People give this Behaviour the somewhat dismissive Term of " Buddy sour" to explain away the anxiety and insecurity their Horse feels loosing their best Friend, try to "fix" it with this and that Training Trick.
It certainly is an inconvenience in our Lives if our Horse chooses a Partner ... After all, we spent good Money on Training, Equipment , and upkeep so " it" will shine for us when we want it.....once a Week, once a Month, whenever we can fit it in our busy Schedule...
But nobody asked the Horse . In their relatively short Lifespan there are priorities: 1) Safety, 2) Comfort, ( i.e. basic Survival) 3) Companionship. only then follows Food and Water. We are different, Food comes before Friends.
They do not forget their Partners, recognize them Years after Separation and pick up where they left off. Meanwhile they stay alone, form loose bonds with other Horses for a Time, Not too different from us when we loose Loved Ones...But they don't forget.
I am posting this to raise awareness of this fact about Horses, and to make Owners, who have 2 bonded for Years and want to get out of Horses make it a priority to sell them together if such Owners ever felt more than Pride of owning them . I am appealing to Compassion, Understanding , Love....
We Humans owe the Species a lot: They were on our side throughout known History and still are. How about stepping back and do right by them, recognizing their most intense needs before our conveniences, allowing them in their 20, 30 Years they have to live a Horse's, ( not our!!) basic Happiness: Safety and Comfort, AND the Partner they are bonded to. Is that really asked too much?